Where is LO sleeping? - Page 2

[maisiedotes]

Mairaed has been sleeping on the futon with me and DH sleeps on the couch. We have closed off our upstairs because of oil being a million dollars a gallon and this is the only way we can make it work... we have an infant crib that she naps in but at night after feeding time, if I put her in the crib she makes squeaking noises while I lay awake wondering if she is going to start crying. So, I guess the short answer is "with me". We are thinking about getting a co-sleeper because I am nervous our dogs will jump up on the bed and hurt Mairaed...

[Momma Aimee]

Charles sleep with us, between the bed rail and me ... Theo on the other side of me btweetn me adn Scott......... yes it is a hot bed

I generally nurse C on the right side -- by Theo -- only once in the middle of the night, and i have to stay awake to put him back on the other side of me -- not an issue NOW while C needs so much help getting on, staying on and so on ,..... but by the time T was 4 or 5 months old i was falling back asleep with T on the boob . so when we get to that point i will have to make a point to stay awake.

I was totally freaked when Theo was little, but i am so much more clam this time it is a night and day differnce.

I have a sleep positioner from One Step Ahead for C -- but he slide down in one night when swaddled and hasn't seemd to like it sisnce .

I admit he likes to sleep on hiss tummy. I am ok with it. I watch him, though i do not check him as with quite the obsession i check Theo (tummy OR back). I am always around .. day time doing stuff, at night sleeping with him.

part of the SIDS concern is that the baby goes so deep into sleep they "forget" to breath (simply version) .. and part of the issue with tummy sleep is that they DO sleep better, thus deeper.... on their back the startel more and wake themseves up, which is supposed to protect them from SIDS, but also never lets anyone sleep IMO and MO only if they are with you -- in the main part of the house, or your bed, then they are getting enough stim to keep them from going to deep they forget to either cycle in their sleep or to breath ... thus YOU are taking the place of the startle reflex ........ and ACTAULLY sleep on their back, waking themself up, really takes the place of being aroudn the family and in the family bed -- biologically speaking -- and is a "new" idea due to lone crib sleepers in empty shut off rooms .... so since the less restfull sleep of the back is a defence adginst absentee parents (baby stuck aalone in a room in crib) then i see no reason to pratcie it with i am there being the mom biology and God meant me to be -- ie ACTIVE.

I take ever percausion and i check him and i watch that ther eis nothing by his mouth -- like any good cave momma -- but ...............

well i will get off my soap box

i just try to make sure my blanket hits his waist and no higher -- it is tough FOR ME to sleep -- i like blankets over my ears, Theo on one side of me is HOT and kicks everythign off, Charles on the other ised i have to be careful of.

we got hevey pillows with T so they don't migrate around the bed.

Theo slept with me each night of his life, save the 2 i was at the hosptial. Charles started sleeping with me night one at the hospital -- like 4 hours old.

Honestly even now that T is starting to spend part of the night in his own room -- I don't sleep well till he joins us in our bed.

Charles does sleep on his own --like right now -- daytime in the cradle, the bouncy seat, on on our bed propped in teh boppy, or just on our bed .... i don't have to hold him all the time .................. but he seems to sleep better day time = lights, noise, activity then the does at night = dark, quite, nothing going on around him .... :

[Momma Aimee]

oops doulble post

[renaissanceed]

IMO and MO only if they are with you -- in the main part of the house, or your bed, then they are getting enough stim to keep them from going to deep they forget to either cycle in their sleep or to breath ... thus YOU are taking the place of the startle reflex ........ and ACTAULLY sleep on their back, waking themself up, really takes the place of being aroudn the family and in the family bed -- biologically speaking -- and is a "new" idea due to lone crib sleepers in empty shut off rooms .... so since the less restfull sleep of the back is a defence adginst absentee parents (baby stuck aalone in a room in crib) then i see no reason to pratcie it with i am there being the mom biology and God meant me to be -- ie ACTIVE.

Aimee, I think this is absolutely true. But you know what, in all the time I've been cosleeping with DD (since she was born, pretty much) and all the reading I've done on cosleeping, I've never actually read this before.

But it makes sense. Perfect sense. I'm so glad you wrote this because it just makes everything click in my head.

[*Lindsey*]

Originally Posted by welldone

anyone else daring to put baby on his belly? i don't feel great about it, but i'm so sleep deprived that i gotta go with what works.

Hazel and Lucy are tummy sleepers, as were DS and DD.

[GinaRae]

It does make sense and I'd thought of it all before.

But I guess because I am hard-wired to give too much about what people think of me and I am prone to guilt and some self hatred, I don't know as I could do tummy sleeping! I wonder if something DID happen, could I take the accusations and the guilt that I could have prevented it. You know?

[gamitzer]

: Noah's in the crib. He is a really loud sleeper, and we've found that we just cannot sleep at all while he's whimpering, whining, and grunting his way through the night. We were so ready to cosleep, with a moses basket between us, but it was too difficult for us. We tried it for a week, but we were so dead tired, we switched to the crib.

[Momma Aimee]

But I guess because I am hard-wired to give too much about what people think of me and I am prone to guilt and some self hatred, I don't know as I could do tummy sleeping! I wonder if something DID happen, could I take the accusations and the guilt that I could have prevented it. You know?

but THIS is true no matter what choice you make

God-forbid anythign happne ... but...

SIDS in your bed on back "why was the baby in your bed, should have been in crib"

SIDS on tummy "why was baby on tummy"

SIDS in crib "why was the baby alone in the crib, if she or he had been with you, then you would have noticed sooner ..."

or "well if the baby had been in orgainc cotton there would not have been chemicals"

or WHATEVER

there is ALWAYS SOMETHING you could / should do differntly according to SOMEONE .............

you have to find a place of peace, and ablity to function ...........

[oskie]

James is in our bed, between me and DH. We have a king-size bed, so there is plenty of room. He is up between our heads, with his own blankets, and he usually ends up sleeping on his side. Don't ask me how a two-week old baby has figured out how to turn to his side already, but he does.

We tried the crib, which is in our room, but he was waking too frequently to nurse and it was just such a pain. Now I can respond to him when he starts to root instead of when he is crying.

[Bonawich]

Rosemary sleeps between the wall and me. DS is on the other side of me, DH on the other side of him. Of course, we have a king and queen next to each other, so everyone has plenty of room....wish I had more time to chat, but alas!

[GinaRae]

Originally Posted by gamitzer

: Noah's in the crib. He is a really loud sleeper, and we've found that we just cannot sleep at all while he's whimpering, whining, and grunting his way through the night. We were so ready to cosleep, with a moses basket between us, but it was too difficult for us. We tried it for a week, but we were so dead tired, we switched to the crib.

He's not suffering, right? As long as you're answering his distress calls in the night and giving him your all during waking hours, you're doing more than lots of parents. That's what matters.

[gamitzer]

Thanks, Gina! We actually don't get much sleep to begin with, so he probably sleeps more on the couch with one of us than anything else. But, yeah, he knows we will be there no matter what, so I'm trying not to feel too guilty about the early crib use.
For what it's worth, another new mom and my wife's mom both said he was a loud sleeper. And my wife's mom is a retired NICU nurse, so she knows all about sleeping babies.

[scheelimama]

Originally Posted by gamitzer

Thanks, Gina! We actually don't get much sleep to begin with, so he probably sleeps more on the couch with one of us than anything else. But, yeah, he knows we will be there no matter what, so I'm trying not to feel too guilty about the early crib use.
For what it's worth, another new mom and my wife's mom both said he was a loud sleeper. And my wife's mom is a retired NICU nurse, so she knows all about sleeping babies.

My LO is a loud sleeper too! She moans and groans constantly! The few times we've had her sleeping upstairs during the day and used the monitor, it was useless for us. She was so noisy, we kept running up the stairs every few minutes to make sure she wasn't actually awake. It works better for us just to have her in the same room sleeping so we can just look and see if she's awake or not when she starts making noise.

[Momma Aimee]

Don't ask me how a two-week old baby has figured out how to turn to his side already, but he does.

Chalres has been doing that since week ONE and amazing me and my mom to no end .... Scott is scared he'll walk at 9 months

Charles is loud too

[brooklyn_warbler]

wren sleeps with me and andy. we started her off in the middle, on her back, us pretty far from her (and with separate blankets, of course). we didn't sleep so well. then she and i got the hang of nursing while sidelying and i realized she wants to sleep on her side, curled up next to me. now we all sleep well much, much better. but usually i'm freezing because i end up only using my blanket on my legs, since she's curled up near my chest.

[lisalulu]

Originally Posted by AimeeandBrian

However she will stay quiet. Either snuggled up next to me or on DH (she likes to comfort herself with his chest hair lol) My Arm's Reach is seeming like a waste of money right now...

They make great storage for extra blankets, nursing pads, etc-thats what I did with ours for ds! I do have ours set up again in some strange hope that my baby will like it at least a little

[StacieM]

Stacallen is in bed with me and DH....just where we like her to be.

When I had my son I was totally paranoid about something happening to him while he was in his crib and me not knowing about it (him somehow moving the blanket over his face or some other freak thing)....so I felt "safer" with him right next to me where I could hold him in the position I wanted and where my face was close to his so that I knew if something ended up covering it or anything like that.

But yes, my LO right now sleeps with me and I have no intention of changing that any time soon. I hold her and cuddle with her as much as I possibly can.

[charitycase20]

Zachary sleeps with Alex, Gracie and I in a king size bed that we got just before he was born. Gracie is in the middle of Alex and I and depending on which side Zachary is nursing on or just got done nursing on, he's either next to her or on the outside of me. I cradle him all night when he's on the bed though and if he's not on the bed, he's on my chest. Gracie was a chest baby too, only Zach will inch up until his head is right under my chin in the crook of my neck. I confess, the time that he does sleep/nap in the pack n play, I have put him on his tummy, he just sleeps better that way. I did it with Gracie too and thank God we had no problems until she went to day-care when I went back to work and she wouldn't sleep on her back so out first day-care provider would leave her in the carseat (which I hated!). I had said that I wasn't going to start Zachary sleeping with us because I felt Gracie sleeping with us upset Alex sometimes, but he said he is fine with it and our babies need to be with us when they can with both of us working so we have unintentionally become a family bed family. Our parents just hate it!!