PP sex

[*Lindsey*]

I figured that since I didn't tear it'd be cake this time. Wrong!

It burns...way up inside. Also burns when I shower/use soap. WTH? I've never dealt with this before. DH says that maybe it's just b/c I pushed out two babies. : I dunno. I was really, really hoping it'd be easier to get back in the groove this time since I wasn't traumatized down below. I'm 4 weeks pp.

[Curlita]

One thought... perhaps it's hormonal. When I was nursing Dylan I wound up needing to use an estrogen cream b/c the tissues were atrophied. It helped a lot - maybe check with your care provider and see if they think that is the issue. I don't think that would account for the deep pain, though - maybe your cervix is still tender?

Congrats for even giving it a shot.

[DeChRi]

Wow, you have a 4 yo, a 2yo, new twins, and are DTD 4 weeks PP. I have no advice for your thread topic, but you are my new hero.

[monocyte]

you have time for sex??

I feel the same way...I feel ready, and wonder how i will go. No tears or issues from the delivery at all, he kind of fell out. But, I'm still gushing from time to time, so, I haven't even broached the subject with dh. He thinks we need to wait 6 weeks, so I will let him think that.

[scheelimama]

Hmmm...I'd discuss it with your dr. It doesn't sound normal. Of course, they'll probably give you crap about not waiting 6 weeks, but I personally don't think it's a problem to try it sooner if you feel ready. We've already been dtd and enjoyed it. I'm sorry it's hurting for you. I hope you are able to enjoy it soon.

[*Lindsey*]

Ah, well, all 4 were sleeping and we haven't had sex for a looong time (bed rest and being so huge that it was like a circus act...)

A friend of mine said maybe I have some skid marks up past my labia (TMI, I know!) I looked with a mirror and see some redness, so maybe that's it?

[Kontessa]

Congrats on feeling up to trying and finding the time!

I am lucky I get time to eat! You have given me hope though for when my DH gets home!

I agree with others, if you can manage it, get to a care provider and have them check you out just in case and see if they can help out. Nothing should get in the way of loving when you have to do so much just to make the time possible!

[*Lindsey*]

Bumping this up. Anyone else back in the saddle yet?

We haven't tried since my original post, but it doesn't burn when I soap up, so we'll have to try again soon.

[sorteep]

nooo f-ing way.......... still trying to recover from 3rd deg lac and episiotomy and cervical /high vaginal tears.... nooooooo way...

[renaissanceed]

nak

well we're considering it but having birth control dilemmas - DH hasn't rejected the idea of another baby but certainly not this closr together!!

and with this one being a much better sleeper ( = less nursing) than DD, we may actually have to worry about b c early on

[oskie]

Not for us, just yet. Let's say the spirit is willing, but the flesh is still weak.

[Curlita]

I'm still not very interested... still having lochia and kind of freaked about stitches around my hoo ha. My husband and I need a couple marital therapy sessions before I regain the lovin' feelin' anyway.

[boogiemonster]

Originally Posted by Curlita

I'm still not very interested... still having lochia and kind of freaked about stitches around my hoo ha. My husband and I need a couple marital therapy sessions before I regain the lovin' feelin' anyway.

I'll straighten him out for you if you'd like. I HATED my DH after Anna was born. I can totally sympathize. I've only wanted to choke my DH once or twice since Lucy came...which is progress.

I'm only 3 weeks PP, so not yet. I'm still bleeding a bit anyhow, and it can still be a little painful to pee, so I'm not in any hurry to give the whole area any more attention than it needs. I told DH to come knockin' at 6 weeks PP.

FTR, it took FIVE MONTHS last time before I even liked him enough to try.

[GinaRae]

I have surprised myself and have totally wanted to already (he's 18 days old) but I have lochia, some soreness, and this fear that we will get pregnant somehow. So we played a little, but the actual penetration will be a while and true down and dirty fun may not come until a month or three when his vasectomy takes and he's shooting blanks.

[brooklyn_warbler]

i *so* want to but i'm a little leery since i'm only 3weeks pp and while i'm no longer sore at all and am barely even spotting anymore, i'm still feeling a little...raw. i think it's because of using pads and stuff. for better or worse my husband seems to want to wait a bit too.

[scheelimama]

DH & I were crazy and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves 5 times while he was here! I have to admit that the lack of birth control has me just a little worried...but, my cycle didn't come back until 7 and 12 months pp the other two times and we had very early pp sex after dd2 as well with no baby repercussions.

I'm pretty sure my interest in solo sex will be zilch though. TBH, I would've probably only had sex once or maybe twice in that 2 week pp time period with dh had he not been deployed and getting ready to leave again. Between the 6 months prior to that with no sex, and knowing that I wouldn't get it again for a long time, I was all for it. But normally, I wouldn't have gone for doing it 5 times in the first 2 weeks postpartum.

But it was a lot of fun! Really. You all are totally missing out! The longer you wait, the less pregnancy hormones you have, and the more dried out and less interested you get. At least that's how it was for me after dd2. It was great the first month or so, but gradually got less enjoyable and even went from being not painful at all at 1 week postpartum, to gradually getting painful (probably from lack of pregnancy hormones and dryness.)

[boogiemonster]

Originally Posted by scheelimama

DH & I were crazy and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves 5 times while he was here! I have to admit that the lack of birth control has me just a little worried...but, my cycle didn't come back until 7 and 12 months pp the other two times and we had very early pp sex after dd2 as well with no baby repercussions.

I'm pretty sure my interest in solo sex will be zilch though. TBH, I would've probably only had sex once or maybe twice in that 2 week pp time period with dh had he not been deployed and getting ready to leave again. Between the 6 months prior to that with no sex, and knowing that I wouldn't get it again for a long time, I was all for it. But normally, I wouldn't have gone for doing it 5 times in the first 2 weeks postpartum.

But it was a lot of fun! Really. You all are totally missing out! The longer you wait, the less pregnancy hormones you have, and the more dried out and less interested you get. At least that's how it was for me after dd2. It was great the first month or so, but gradually got less enjoyable and even went from being not painful at all at 1 week postpartum, to gradually getting painful (probably from lack of pregnancy hormones and dryness.)

Did my husband pay you to say that?

[JamesMama]

PP sex? ARe you kidding me?? I feel FINE down below but I'm so annoyed with DH I've decided he ain't getting nothing until he does something major around the house without me having to bitch (dishes, clean the bathroom, a complete load of laundry (not just wash and dry and leave for me to fold) or something)

I can take care of myself if for some ungodly reason I get the urge.

[scheelimama]

Originally Posted by boogiemonster

Did my husband pay you to say that?

[cheeseRjedi]

We just did a little while ago (2 weeks pp). It felt great and no soreness but it was hard for me to finish.