Hi there, I haven't been to MDC in a very long time. But a few things are bothering me and I need some info. I am not sure if this is the place to pos this, if not please move it or let me know.
First thing, my son is 3 years old and is intact and tonight complained of his penis hurting him. Not the tip, not the foreskin, but on the shaft in the middle of the shaft on the side... he says he has a boo-boo on the inside and asked me how did he get the boo-boo get on the inside.
About 1 hour before he was running around naked and retracting himself and touching the tip of his penis. And laughing of course. The glans to me, looked red and purplish (is that normal?) and I asked him, does that hurt and he giggled and said no it tickles. So ok. But later he was grabbing himself and we thought he had to pee, he said he didn't have to pee but that it hurt. My dh put him on the potty anyway and I think he went. And then was a crying a little about the shaft hurting and then he said the above.
We've been having some issues with him and peeing... he seems to pee frequently and drink frequently throughout the day, but yet holding it not wanting to go to be interrupted from what he was doing. I know this is normal behavior to not want to be interrupted so we usually carrying him to the potty and he goes. He seems like he is constantly grabbing himself as if he has to pee, even when he does not.
And the peeing and drinking water is not excessive, just frequent. Since the summer he's had 3 urinalyses to check for glucose or infection and nothing, it all comes back normal.
I took him to his first well child visit in August (yes at age 3 because he is a healthy non-vaxed child who doesn't need to be seen regularly, I only took him in when he broke his leg). Not ever taking him in, lead me to be unfamiliar with the procedures of the well-child visit and I forgot about guarding my son's penis. I had forgotten that they'd want to check his genitals...
So when the stupid doctor removed his pants and before I knew it, yup, you guessed it, the doc retracted it.
As he did the half-second retraction I yelled DON'T!!!!! retract it. And the doc kind of froze, lifted his hands up and said I'm sorry I'm sorry, what did I do? I am sorry, I didn't know.. is that for religious reasons (???wtheck???) and I said no, not religious reasons, He is intact and no one is supposed to retract it.
And then the doc goes from taken aback to calm and says oh don't worry, (like he knew what he was doing) and said "Don't worry I have one myself" (I guess meaning just a penis)... but who knows, I wasn't going to ask if he had an intact penis... I think if he did he never would have touched my son. And then he continued to rationalize what he did sort of apologizing but sort of like oh crap, I can't admit a mistake to this lady.
The doc said "well it did retract some on it's on, I never would have pulled it back if it wasn't going to retract, don't worry I never would have pulled it back if it didn't' have some give already."
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So anyway, fast forward to last week, we took my son in for another urine test because he was peeing alot and now has this itchy rash on his butt and legs and I was reading that all of the symptoms, the frequent peeing, drinking and itchy skin could be symptoms of diabetes. My husband took him this time and I think he said the doc asked if he could look at my son's penis and he did, but stupid me didn't tell my husband to NOT let the doc retract it. I thought it was normal for the doc to want to look at the head of the penis to see if there was a problem and I thought that it was ok since the foreskin does retract on its own a little.... I just read something Frankly Speaking posted awhile back about how its never appropriate to let any doc retract for any reason and that any problem on the inside will manifest on the outside.
So now I feel like I let my son down. I feel awful about what happened to him in August and that I let it happen again last week because I wasn't there an was a little uninformed. I am mad at myself, mad at the doctor, and upset. I am confused as to why my son's penis shaft is hurting and what to do.
Any advice? been there done that stories? Next stop is to see another doctor I think. If I can't trust this guy not to touch my son's penis and not know what he was doing, then how can I be confident he knows what the heck he is doing with the peeing issues.
thanks for reading if you got this far.
First thing, my son is 3 years old and is intact and tonight complained of his penis hurting him. Not the tip, not the foreskin, but on the shaft in the middle of the shaft on the side... he says he has a boo-boo on the inside and asked me how did he get the boo-boo get on the inside.
About 1 hour before he was running around naked and retracting himself and touching the tip of his penis. And laughing of course. The glans to me, looked red and purplish (is that normal?) and I asked him, does that hurt and he giggled and said no it tickles. So ok. But later he was grabbing himself and we thought he had to pee, he said he didn't have to pee but that it hurt. My dh put him on the potty anyway and I think he went. And then was a crying a little about the shaft hurting and then he said the above.
We've been having some issues with him and peeing... he seems to pee frequently and drink frequently throughout the day, but yet holding it not wanting to go to be interrupted from what he was doing. I know this is normal behavior to not want to be interrupted so we usually carrying him to the potty and he goes. He seems like he is constantly grabbing himself as if he has to pee, even when he does not.
And the peeing and drinking water is not excessive, just frequent. Since the summer he's had 3 urinalyses to check for glucose or infection and nothing, it all comes back normal.
I took him to his first well child visit in August (yes at age 3 because he is a healthy non-vaxed child who doesn't need to be seen regularly, I only took him in when he broke his leg). Not ever taking him in, lead me to be unfamiliar with the procedures of the well-child visit and I forgot about guarding my son's penis. I had forgotten that they'd want to check his genitals...
So when the stupid doctor removed his pants and before I knew it, yup, you guessed it, the doc retracted it.
As he did the half-second retraction I yelled DON'T!!!!! retract it. And the doc kind of froze, lifted his hands up and said I'm sorry I'm sorry, what did I do? I am sorry, I didn't know.. is that for religious reasons (???wtheck???) and I said no, not religious reasons, He is intact and no one is supposed to retract it.And then the doc goes from taken aback to calm and says oh don't worry, (like he knew what he was doing) and said "Don't worry I have one myself" (I guess meaning just a penis)... but who knows, I wasn't going to ask if he had an intact penis... I think if he did he never would have touched my son. And then he continued to rationalize what he did sort of apologizing but sort of like oh crap, I can't admit a mistake to this lady.
The doc said "well it did retract some on it's on, I never would have pulled it back if it wasn't going to retract, don't worry I never would have pulled it back if it didn't' have some give already."
:So anyway, fast forward to last week, we took my son in for another urine test because he was peeing alot and now has this itchy rash on his butt and legs and I was reading that all of the symptoms, the frequent peeing, drinking and itchy skin could be symptoms of diabetes. My husband took him this time and I think he said the doc asked if he could look at my son's penis and he did, but stupid me didn't tell my husband to NOT let the doc retract it. I thought it was normal for the doc to want to look at the head of the penis to see if there was a problem and I thought that it was ok since the foreskin does retract on its own a little.... I just read something Frankly Speaking posted awhile back about how its never appropriate to let any doc retract for any reason and that any problem on the inside will manifest on the outside.
So now I feel like I let my son down. I feel awful about what happened to him in August and that I let it happen again last week because I wasn't there an was a little uninformed. I am mad at myself, mad at the doctor, and upset. I am confused as to why my son's penis shaft is hurting and what to do.
Any advice? been there done that stories? Next stop is to see another doctor I think. If I can't trust this guy not to touch my son's penis and not know what he was doing, then how can I be confident he knows what the heck he is doing with the peeing issues.
thanks for reading if you got this far.
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