Anyone not finding out the gender?

[LAMommy]

I'm not even sure if I am pg but I know that if I am we will not be finding out the gender. Our first was a surprise as well. The tech for our 4D ultrasound took pics and put them in a sealed folder for me. I was the only person to know where they were.

Just wondering what everyone else is going to do.

[hyz]

Ack! I couldn't possibly wait if I didn't *have* to! I'm soooo eager to know! It's just one bit of early information about who this person inside me will turn out to be. The only benefit I could *personally* see in waiting is that it would discourage family members from buying us tons of distinctly gendered baby stuff (frilly pink things, truck & car sheet sets, etc.). We like to think that we would raise a girl or boy the same way, according to their *individual* wants/needs and not any stereotyped assumptions, but I want to know if I should be dreaming of pigtails or little boy rumpled bed head! Also, I'd always said I wanted a girl, because I felt I would know how to be a better mother to a girl. This isn't true so much anymore--I'm getting more and more excited about the thought of having a boy. But I'd like the time to prepare in advance and get myself pumped up whichever way it turns out.

[BakerALM]

Well last time we did not find out and it was the most amazing surprise EVER! It was like you just pushed out this HUGE object and then you get to find out what it is. It took us just a bit to look between the legs, all the genitals were a bit swollen so my hubbie hesitated before saying it was a girl. It was awsome. We also did not tell anyone the names that we were considering until we announced the birth, it did not allow for any criticisms.

This time my hubbie wants to find out and I still don't want to know, we will see how this plays out.

[geo_girl]

We didn't last time, although I was sorely tempted!!!

We ended up having an amnio, and *COULD* have found out, but it was a wonderful surprise.

...I can definitely understand wanting to know, but we loved finding out at the birth.

cheers,
charlene

[ananas]

I won't be finding out the gender. I most likely won't be having any u/s, although if I do, it will be pretty hard to not ask!

This little one told me a long time ago what gender it will be :

[amymaew]

We won't be finding out. I don't want a u/s this time, and I found out with both of the boys, so it's time for a surprise!

[LAMommy]

I ended up having a C section and when they took him out they kept saying things like "The baby is doing this, The baby is doing that". After about a minute I said "We don't know what we're having". The nurse said "You don't know what this baby is?" After telling her no she said "Well, he looks like all boy to me!" My husband and I were so happy! (Until they had to wisk him off to the NICU b/c of meconium aspiration but that's a different story).

[Got_Cloth]

im not finding out. I determined it really doesnt matter, and i really dont care, so we wont find out. At least until the birth LOL

[EmilyS]

Anasas: I have a really strong conviction about what this one is too! I had been having dreams about him for three months now!

[Got_Cloth]

Originally Posted by EmilyS

Anasas: I have a really strong conviction about what this one is too! I had been having dreams about him for three months now!

I am never sure what my babies are, so i dont even attempt to guess. DH on the other hand has never been wrong...

[fridgeart]

We didn't find out with our first and I don't think we will for this one either. It was such an awesome surprise! If I'm going to guess, I think this one will be a boy.

[mama_at_home]

We are having a homebirth and I won't be having an ultrasound unless my midwife is concerned about something. But even if we were having an ultrasound I would not want to know. We didn't know with the twins and it was so fun!

[hyz]

I had a dream this morning that said this baby is a boy--my first dream about it, either way. I've never predicted anything through dreaming before, but who knows? At least I have a 50/50 shot at being right, eh?

[emikey]

We didn't know with #1, and loved not knowing. I wanted a little surprise to look forward to at the end of labor. The line I used with people was "the kid will surprise us its whole life, and might as well start right away." At the 20wk ultrasound, I asked the tech to write it on a little card and seal it in an envelope, but we never opened the envelope. ... I even remember that at my first (6wk) and last (early labor, is the head down?) ultrasounds, I kept yelling, "don't tell me! I don't want to know!"... I understand wanting to know, especially if you have decorating to do, but it made me feel really connected with all those generations of women who never knew.

[PrayinFor12]

Current plan is no u/s unless some problem arises. But even if we do end up needing to, we'll beg the person looking not to say anything!

[Pyrodjm]

We won't do and ultrasound unless it is medically necessary. DH has always said that he wants the surprise. If we end up with an U/S for some reason, then we will found out.

[Carley]

We are definitely finding out. It helps me connect with the little person inside of me & allows pronouns instead of "it" (which I hate!). We'll have one 4D ultrasound that will give me the peice of mind I need to have a homebirth. It would be stupid to give birth to a baby that required immediate medical attention at home.

hyz, I was adamant about gender neutral baby stuff even though we "found out." Guess what! My little olive skinned toddler looks great in pink, her favourite color, and avoids her trucks & anything "dirty" in favour of her baby dolls & anything "pretty." No matter what we dress them in they have their own ideas from the very beginning

[jbmill2]

I don't think we will. We found out last time, but really this is one of life's best surprises. It's really something to look forward to when feeling huge and uncomfortable.

[CountrylivinmomtoB]

We won't be. I caved in last time and found out even though I didn't want to know!!

[radiowave]

We have decided not to find out...there are so few big surprises that are wonderful whatever the news! I have a feeling that it will be a boy, though!