Originally Posted by momsadvice
My best friend I think is sometimes still either in love or something else with her ex husband. I think she may fantasies about being back with him occasionally. She has another husband for several years now and has a family with him as well as her 1st husband. My question is do you as a remarried woman ever have this about your ex or any feelings at all? If you do not feel comfortable answering here you can pm me. Even a yes or no would be appreciated. Any details would be wonderful as well. Is this a normal thing? Would you be back with your ex if you could?
I have never wanted to be back with my ex-husband.
Never had any feelings for him, but then I didn't have many feelings for him during the 9.5 years we were together, so why would they start when I'm not with him?
The only feelings I had lasted about a year, was hoping to see him for closure. it wasn't a constant desire for closure, just an occasional dream here and there, dreams involving us talking, getting along, laughing, putting it all behind us and going our separate ways.
He was a drug addict, but I didn't know.
he was a compulsive liar about EVERYTHING, even stuff I can't imagine the purpose in lying about.
He went to visit his family (out of state).
Two days later, he left a message on the phone answering machine saying he couldn't do it anymore because it was too stressful.
Then he came back to the state and withdrew all the money from our joint account, stopped at the house while I was at work, took the tv, vcr, and clothes, left his key and left state again, all with the help of his SIL and her car.
I was left with the pets to feed and care for, the house (mortgage was $935 a month and heating was $250 a month) and the car (which was already paid off, but had tons of needed, expensive repairs to be done), but no explanation other than, it was just too stressful.
No calls, except by an attorney his SIL finally hired, which ended her obnoxious late/middle of the night phone calls.
No communication AT ALL.
He attended our divorce by phone.
We never had children together.
A miscarriage, and fertility problems, but no actual children.
So, he is really nothing to me other than a bad past relationship.
My ex-husband was NOT my first love.
He was just my first husband.