Originally Posted by Holland73
If you want to "save" someone...save that child of yours from a potentially dangerous situation.
The moment you feel like you might need to look for the signs of a potential abuser is the moment where you should be getting out of there.
The crazy paranoia episode would have been enough for me to high-tail out of that relationship.
Your child does not deserve this drama and potentially harmful situation.
When you have a child you forfeit the right to feel out a relationship that has any
turning abusive. When we were single, we were caring for only ourself, and we may have
given more time to a relationship that seemed off (even if we knew then it wasn't in our
best interest). Now that we're mothers, we have to keep our child's safety as a #1 priority.
There is no reason at all to stay in a relationship that seems so off. There are far too many
signs here. Once you have that "oh no" feeling, that's when it needs to end. Even if you
turned out to be wrong, and this man is a good person, you can't take that chance any more,
once you have any doubt, it's time to walk. It's not like your not sure about the relationship
cause he's not as neat as you would like, or he has an odd habit of chewing on his lip. He is
showing signs of being abusive. This isn't about his feelings or your feelings, this is about the
safety of your child. That's just how I feel on this issue.