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post #21 of 24
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Originally Posted by sdm1024 View Post
Example: SD8 wanted to get her hair cut. DH (not me!) took her for a trim (about 1-2inches of very split ends were taken off) and it caused a really big issue (2 weeks of phone calls and emails), because thier mom (in her words) "wants her little girls to have long hair" and she "didn't care if SD8 wanted to get her hair cut" and that stuff was her descision to make. To this day (almost 2 years later) every time I brush their hair, or make a comment (and not a passive agressive one) about how long thier hair is (a complimentary one!) they say "we're not allowed to get our hair cut". I have a feeling that SD got in trouble for the whole incident by something that she said a while back.
Totally OT, but wanted to comment on this. Its pretty common at that age, in a blended family, for the children to get a bit passive aggressive and dramatic with things at times. Causing conflict gives them a bit of control. The "I'm not allowed to cut my hair." comments sound very much like things my 9 yo dd has said. And she doesn't say it because their father or I drill things into them, but rather because they know it will bother the person they are telling it to.

Its harmless really, and as they get older there will be more of it. You kinda have to learn what to tune out a bit and what to be concerned about.
post #22 of 24
DSD is barely 9, and she showers by herself but we have to turn the water on for her. She doesn't usually wash her hair at our house unless we tell her to - and I don't think little kids need to wash hair very often anyway.

At 6, she only took baths and DH would wash her hair if it needed washing (apparently I do it wrong )
post #23 of 24
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Originally Posted by lisa49 View Post
No, I wouldn't be worried. Some families are very comfortable with naked bodies and I'm very supportive of that kind of openness. If it were the father, then the 8yo would be too old, but the same sex mother is fine until her own body starts to change in my book.

Lisa

I want to add that I think being comfortable with bodies/nakedness is a great way to guard against body image issues later on.
I agree word for word.
post #24 of 24
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Originally Posted by Nature View Post
Totally OT, but wanted to comment on this. Its pretty common at that age, in a blended family, for the children to get a bit passive aggressive and dramatic with things at times. Causing conflict gives them a bit of control. The "I'm not allowed to cut my hair." comments sound very much like things my 9 yo dd has said. And she doesn't say it because their father or I drill things into them, but rather because they know it will bother the person they are telling it to.

Its harmless really, and as they get older there will be more of it. You kinda have to learn what to tune out a bit and what to be concerned about.
Yep I was thinking the same thing. DD#1 will tell people stuff in a very dramatic tone that is simply not true. That I know to not be true. "My daddy said x, y, z" or "my mommy does blah." *sigh*
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