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Originally Posted by momileigh 
I HATE HATE HATE that women are treated like children when it comes to paps!
A pap is a cancer screening!
Are men REQUIRED to have a colonoscopy, OR ELSE they have to switch doctors?
"I'm sorry, sir, I won't treat you for your heart disease unless you let me do a rectal exam." Yeah, I can really see that happening.
Paps should be totally and completely optional at all times. Do you know women who decline paps will be denied birth control???
"I'm sorry, sir, you can't buy condoms unless you get your moles checked out."
It is the same thing. It is wrong and it disgusts me.
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Hi guys - not a birth professional, just lurking, but wanted to comment here -
It is EXACTLY this kind of messaging that caused me to develop a clinical phobia of all gynecological exams. As a late teenager (17) I had my 1st pelvic exam and pap because I thought I should be on the pill, I was not sexually active yet but it was becoming a distinct possibility, and I was taking care of myself in advance. Despite still being a virgin (and having told the Dr. so), I was treated like a promiscuous idiot and after I asked why she was taking so many swabs, she told me she was doing all the std tests. On a virgin. yeah anyway. A year later, time to renew my pills (and only very recently not a virgin, btw), and I was having panic attacks about going to have another exam, but had to, in order to renew my prescription. This escalated and escalated, I had a "hpv consistent" pap smear a couple of years later, was sent directly to the hospital for the coloposcopy round with an absolute a$$ of a gyn and had to be sedated in order to get through it.
I'd like to stress that I have NO history of sexual abuse whatsoever. I'm am an exceptionally confident and self-assured person. But
the way I was treated and coerced consistently by any and every gyn Dr. that I encountered caused me to create a phobia to get myself out of going. I went off the pill so I wouldn't have to go, and checked myself into phobia counselling... which didn't cure it but made me realize I was only having the tests to please other people, so I relieved myself of that responsibility. Much later, in my first pregnancy, I used hypnosis to actually cure the phobia.
After a 10 year break between paps, I've now had 2, nearly 3 years apart, and don't really plan to ever have another. I really just did them to prove to myself that I could... for the 2nd one, when I asked my MW about why you'd do one in pg, she said that it was a high-cell-change period in a woman's life so that if there WAS anything going on with the cervix, pregnancy could escalate it, and that you COULD safely treat the cervix during pregnancy. So I opted "for". but I may never do it again.