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Gifts for a homebirth midwife??  

post #1 of 8
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Do they accept them? I was reading on another board a huge argument on docs accepting gifts, and the ethics of it... blah blah. They say it's a huge no no to give your care provider a gift. But then i read about others that do give gifts!!

I REALLY want to make my midwife a gift, I sew and embroider and all that fun stuff.... but I don't want an uncomfortable situation!!
post #2 of 8
I've never heard of a midwife not graciously accepting a gift from a client. A client gave me a handmade item, and I simply treasure it so much!! I think of her and her sweet baby every time I wear it.

If you feel moved to do so, I think your midwife would love any gift you give her.
post #3 of 8
I've been looking for a small gift for midwife.... besides the fact that I am due around the holidays and I'll probably be taking time away from her family, she's bent over backwards to be accommodating to our bizarre work schedules and my 13 month old destroying her office every appt.

I honestly wouldn't feel weird about it. Part of a MW client relationship is building a friendship of trust and respect where an OB is strictly a professional relationship.
post #4 of 8
an ob and a homebirth midwife are WORLDS apart... i'd never dream of giving a doctor an appreciation gift, however a homebirth midwife is practically family, like a trusted aunt or other family helper... she would definitely get a gift... the more personal, the better, imo. :-)
post #5 of 8
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OK, good. That was my line of thinking too.
post #6 of 8
Get your midwife a gift if you want to, for sure. I would attach a well worded note expressing your gratitude as well.

Years after I had my baby, I ran into my midwife and her husband at a party of sorts. I told her thanks and than turned my attention to her husband. Being a homebirth midwife can be taxing on family. Mom/wife/grandma goes to a birth, often with very little warning, all times of day, sometimes for days and tends to Another Family. Her own family surely misses her, but they understand the importance of her job. I told my midwife’s husband how significant his wife was to the women she has severed. My midwife of course heard what I was saying. Her husband does not get to see the rewards of a lovely homebirth first hand, as she does, so I thought I would tell him a little of it and I could tell my words were appreciated.
post #7 of 8
Hearts and Hands reminds us that most midwives today are grossly underpaid and underappreciated. Where once she would have cared for the whole community and its individual ailments and conditions and the community would have gladly paid her with everything she needed to survive, now she works long hours, drives vast distances, and earns something akin to minimum wage once travel costs and (wo)man hours are added up. That book even suggests that, where possible, clients of modern midwives pay above and beyond the suggested price to attempt to bridge the gap between salary and survival. A midwife gift is not only in good taste, but almost necessary after a good smooth birth well attended. After nine months of mother centered care, it is almost unimaginable that a happy grateful mother wouldn't feel the urge to give some sort of token of affection, admiration, praise, and/or thanks. As for ideas, I've heard many and the variety reflects the individual relationships created. I gave my midwife a headlamp from REI. I do work in the childbirth field myself and had grown so close with my midwife that we now share friendship and a certain professional report as well. The headlamp, a tool for cavers that includes an elastic strap for your forehead and one or more hands free light settings, just seemed like the perfect gift.
post #8 of 8
My gift was graciously accepted. I'm sure a homemade gift would be so appreicated.
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