blizzard_babe: WHOA, that's rude. Did you mention to him that this was not a wise policy to adopt when talking to women? Even saying 'Are you losing weight?' is fairly creepy, but the alternative is just--yikes.
I posted this in TAO, but it's too funny not to share again--DH and I ran into a couple we used to know, but hadn't seen for ages, in town last night. M said 'How are you?' and before thinking, I said 'Fine, how are you?'. Then it occurred to me that what she was asking was 'Are you pregnant?' But by that time it felt like the moment had passed, and I didn't feel in the mood to be congratulated, so I just ignored the subject (as did DH, but probably because he just didn't think about it--he's awful about telling people I'm pregnant!). Well, she spent the rest of the conversation STARING in fascinated anguish at my tummy. She was clearly dying to 'know' (and come on, it's pretty obvious, I've never had a big tummy before--of course I'm pregnant!), but she couldn't bring herself to actually ask. I can only assume she thought it'd be ruder to say 'Are you pregnant?' than to carry on a normal conversation, while her eyes constantly returned to my tummy... As soon as we said goodbye and left, DH and I were cracking up. (And if DH
notices that someone's social behavior is a little odd, believe me, that means something!). I suppose I was the evil one, for not putting her out of her misery, but what was I supposed to say? 'YES M, I'm pregnant, get your eyes out of my womb!'? Ahhh, it was funny.
She's probably frantically ringing around all our ex-mutual acquaintances right now, trying to find out the news; and I bet she's congratulating herself on being so tactful!