Originally Posted by JennaW
Mama in PA- I can't believe that. The only appropriate response when someone tells you they are pregnant is "Congratulations". I'm sorry your uncle was so hurtful.
Oh, I can believe it alright. This is my second time being a pregnant single mommy, and it is SO much easier at 42 than it was at 22.
When I told my best friend about Phoenix (who wasn't planned but was very much wanted) instead of "Congratulations!" she said, "Oh, no, I'm not driving you to the clinic or lending you the money for an abortion! You're going to have to get whoever it was who knocked you up to do that or take the bus like everybody else!" and then when I tried to explain that I was planning on keeping the baby and that I was happy about the pregnancy, she kind of exploded with, "But you don't DESERVE to have a baby! You haven't done anything to EARN the right to have a baby! Of course you're getting an abortion and you'd better hurry up and make the appointment before you have to get the more expensive kind!"
This time around, the most hurtful thing is that I expected the people who were supportive when I told them I was TTC to be thrilled that the AI finally worked. When they aren't, it makes me realize that they were just humouring the pathetic old lady who was "babbling nonsense" and never really thought I'd succeed in the first place.
I've been surprised at the heartfelt "Congratulations!"es I've gotten from men, though, although I found out tonight that my greatest supporter didn't understand that this was an AI baby and might have just felt sorry for me thinking that my nonexistant boyfriend walked out on me.
Oh well. It's their problem, not mine.