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post #141 of 528
It's not - my whole stash is garbage. : Definitely bad - defrosted another bag and DH spit it out when he tasted it. Man this sucks. It was over a month's worth of pumping.

My LC was like, oh don't worry about it, that's so rare... Figures that no part of bfing can be easy for me.

So, in detail, how are you treating yours? I am going to have to start over. Thank God I saved enough fresh for tonight just in case. I only have 7 oz, not the 9 I planned on, but we won't be gone more than 4 hours.

Our king-sized bed fills our room too. Barely enough room to walk around and for small nightstands on each side.
post #142 of 528
Julia - sounds like you figured it out pretty quickly! I have to admit that I was a bit reluctant when I was pregnant about the whole co-sleeping thing. We bought an Arm's Reach Sleigh Co-Sleeper and had it shipped all the way over here (super expensive since it's wood). Well Aidan has slept in it a handful of times, he prefers to be up close and touching. I hate the fact the co-sleeper has a ledge and I have to reach down to get Aidan. Sorry but he was 18 lbs at 10 weeks so he's big and too heavy for my measly muscles.

We have a queen size bed too. We use the co-sleeper as a rail, put my boppy pillow against the ledge and then Aidan and then me. This is the way we figured out that took the least amount of space. Putting the boppy around Aidan in the middle left us with NO space at all. I'm sort of trapped by the co-sleeper too but I scoot down and off the bed at the bottom. Ahhh well... it's worth it because I love sleeping with Aidan. And I can't complain, I feel pretty well rested even with him waking and nursing during the night.-

Wow - Elizabeth sorry about your stash. I've been sooo lazy about pumping since I don't know when I'll be going back to work. I do want to go get a massage sometime soon and leave Aidan with DH. Pumping really makes me feel like moooing... it's feels so bovine.

I'm worried about traveling for Christmas... it will be our first time on an airplane with Aidan... and then all the packing... arrgg..

Oh we have a Gypsymama wrap and I just ordered an Ergo - I've heard really good things about the Ergo. Aidan doesn't like the cradle hold anymore he wants to be upright. We've also got a Hotsling but I haven't used it much since I find it kinda uncomfortable.
post #143 of 528
Oh - another thing... about careers...

I had one and now I guess I don't. I worked so hard to get ahead for a long time. Before getting pregnant I was already feeling burnt. So the plan was we'd start a family and I'd stay home. Well it's tough, in fact tougher than I expected. Mostly because of my own issues, of course. I'm use to being 'productive' and being at home doesn't quite feel productive. Also I don't have my own income for the first time in my adult life and that has been a real adjustment. Fortunately DH doesn't have the same hang ups as I do otherwise we'd really be in trouble.

I'm grateful that at least I don't have all the problems regarding figuring out day care, at least not yet. Oh and because of where I am in my career I have this wonderful option to do consulting at companies for a few weeks or months without having too much commitment so if I start to go stir crazy at home I always have this possibility. But for now I'm at home with Aidan trying to enjoy this time as much as possible. Leaving the house everyday is a must!!
post #144 of 528
rach. why not just leave the pump at work? sorry if stupid question.

elizabeth. such a disaster on your milk, i can't get over it.

dd is better - gave her ibuprofen -musta been teething pain.
post #145 of 528
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Originally Posted by hazieluna View Post
Pumping really makes me feel like moooing... it's feels so bovine.
I had to laugh at this - "bovine" is the exact word I used the first time I used the PIS, especially with the hands-free bra and double pump. I felt like a cow.
I've made my peace with it now, though, and am just grateful I can pump without too much difficulty and get a decent amount. And that my frozen milk seems to work! to those of you having to throw out pumped milk. I can't even imagine. It takes so much work to do, I hate even throwing out an ounce or two. If I had to throw out my current stash - which must be over 100 oz by now - I think I'd start sobbing.

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I'm worried about traveling for Christmas... it will be our first time on an airplane with Aidan... and then all the packing... arrgg..
Oh we have a Gypsymama wrap and I just ordered an Ergo - I've heard really good things about the Ergo. Aidan doesn't like the cradle hold anymore he wants to be upright. We've also got a Hotsling but I haven't used it much since I find it kinda uncomfortable.
Good luck with the traveling. I was super worried the first time I went with Willa, but in the end she did really well. I've heard a lot of mothers since say it only gets harder once they're crawling/walking and hate being strapped in - The infant stage isn't quite as bad. And if he does cry.... don't worry in the slightest about the other passengers. I feel nothing but sympathy for mamas with crying babies on flights, and I think most people know you're doing everything you can to calm your babe.
I *love* our Ergo, and I've actually found that to be the best thing for flying too. A lot of flight attendants make you take your LO out of the sling/wrap during takeoff and landing, which can be a huge pain if they're napping and you don't want to wake them up. With the ergo, I found I can just unclip the shoulder straps, slip them off my shoulders, and Willa (if she's asleep) never even knows anything has happened. As soon as we take off I put them back on again and she sleeps through it all.

So, am I the only mama in this thread who isn't cosleeping? I like the idea of it in theory, but I feel like our queen is barely big enough for DH and me - both of us like our space and w'ere both pretty restless/active sleepers. The few times I've had Willa in bed with me, I couldn't sleep since I was worried moving around would wake her up. Add to that that she's an incredibly noisy/active sleeper and it just didn't seem like it could work. Plus, I think both DH and I kind of like having the bed still as *our* space. We often bring her in with us in the morning, though. Sometimes she'll fall back asleep, more often she won't, but it's fun to all snuggle together.
post #146 of 528
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Originally Posted by hazieluna View Post
Oh - another thing... about careers...

I had one and now I guess I don't. I worked so hard to get ahead for a long time. Before getting pregnant I was already feeling burnt. So the plan was we'd start a family and I'd stay home. Well it's tough, in fact tougher than I expected. Mostly because of my own issues, of course. I'm use to being 'productive' and being at home doesn't quite feel productive. Also I don't have my own income for the first time in my adult life and that has been a real adjustment. Fortunately DH doesn't have the same hang ups as I do otherwise we'd really be in trouble.

I'm grateful that at least I don't have all the problems regarding figuring out day care, at least not yet. Oh and because of where I am in my career I have this wonderful option to do consulting at companies for a few weeks or months without having too much commitment so if I start to go stir crazy at home I always have this possibility. But for now I'm at home with Aidan trying to enjoy this time as much as possible. Leaving the house everyday is a must!!
I've come to the realization that no solution is perfect, when it comes to careers and kids. For a while, I was enjoying my maternity leave so much that I started to wonder if it could be financially possible for me to stay home. It wasn't, but I also realized by the end of my 4 1/2 month leave that I wouldn't be happy as a fulltime SAHM, for the same reasons you mention you say it's tough - I'm used to being productive, and earning money, and getting affirmation that what I'm doing is meaningful in an arena outside the home, and using a different part of my brain than i can when I'm with Willa all day. But at the same time, it's excruciating to be away from her as much as I am, and have someone else look after, and I have huge guilt over abandoning her. I think maybe I'd be happier if I could scale back to part-time (I still don't know if this is a possibility, but I might at least broach the subject with my editors), but my friends who have part-time jobs say that's hard too - they feel like they're stretched too thin both at home and at work, and their careers have suffered from being on a "mommy track."
I do have a couple friends doing freelance consulting like you mention, hazieluna, and they've been pretty happy with that. They tend to work three days a week, from home (but with someone to help look after their LOs while they're working), and I think they feel like it gives them at least some outlet to do some more traditional "work."
Honestly, though, I think there may be a few people who are totally happy in their roles either as full-time SAHMs, or in high-powered careers where they rarely get to see their kids, but I think most mother end up pretty conflicted, whatever route they choose...
post #147 of 528
OK, time for my books...

Gas: DS is very gassy, I'm surprised how often I have to burp him while BF. He spits up a bit, nothing remarkable, or so I thought, but this morning I thought he might be sick because he had 2 huge forceful spit ups right after he woke up crying. He wasn't though, which was good because DH was away for the day doing Toastmasters stuff. I'll have to look into oversupply. I have given up dairy , and that seems to have cut down on the painful gas he would have, mostly in the morning...he'd be fine after he pooped. But he still seems a bit gassy at times, but at least it doesn't seem painful.

DS also has gotten very fussy before going to sleep. We've been chalking it up to teething, but reflux/oversupply makes more sense. It starts when I put him on the bed to nurse. He's gotten into a thing (started around Thanksgiving) about wanting to switch sides/suck this one, now that one (we almost always side-lie nurse otherwise he gets too distracted) until he finally settles down; he even refuses the nipple (he almost always nurses to sleep unless in the car); I've started getting by this by rocking him to relax, or distracting him with a lullaby toy. We went through the "one side, now the other side" phase earlier (when he was much lighter, so it was easier to switch sides when he was on the pillow!) when he was dissatisfied with diminished let-down in the late afternoon/early evening, but this seems different. I decided to "listen to the baby" - I was thinking maybe he needed more foremilk? He's gaining fine.... over 16 pounds (doubled birthweight) at 3-1/2 months! Hmmm...

Career: I have never had a career, just jobs. Early on last year, I didn't like my job and decided to become certified as a teacher, figuring that baby plans were still a way off...DH had his own business and we could barely support ourselves much less a baby as well! Well, I enrolled in a program and was planning to get a teaching job starting Aug. 2007 (teaching a year completes your certification process), but whoops, look what I got in August instead? But I have to finish my certification course within 3 years of enrolling, which means I have to teach next year or else take student teaching, which is 12 or 16 weeks and costs more money, and I don't get paid.

Right now I'm SAHM but feel guilty for not looking for a job, but am loving the time I spend with DS - even lying with him as he naps for 45 minutes at a time! I left that job I didn't like when I found out I was pregnant and went to be a nanny, and that job ended before I gave birth. I did feel guilty about DH having to find a job and quit on his company, but no longer. I love the man dearly (and I hear you on the sleep resentment when he stays up all hours on the computer!), I don't feel he made much of a success of his business. He had 4 years.

Whew. I need to watch my parentheticals. And learn how to do do quick, drive-by posts. If you made it all the way through, have a cookie!
post #148 of 528
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Originally Posted by dctexan View Post
Just popping in to say...
Dee - thinking about you and Mathilde. Hoping things are better and that you have time to lurk on MDC (even if you don't have time to post)
Emily thanks for thinking of me! Yes I've been lurking but not posting. I haven't figured out how to do anything hands-free yet, and lots of these discussions seem so distant from what I'm dealing with right now that I get overwhelmed just thinking about the near future. From Monday to Friday, Mathilde lost almost 1/2 a pound (same scale) on a combo of pumped breastmilk and soy formula and was diagnosed with "failure to thrive." The current hypothesis is that she's intolerant of cow's milk proteins in my milk and the first formula we gave her. I cut dairy out of my diet last week but it apparently takes a while to clear the body, up to 2 weeks. So she's on fancy hydrolyzed soy protein formula ($26 a can!) and I've been pumping every 3 hours to keep up my supply. She seems to be doing a lot better but I'm so exhausted from the constant pumping and bottle feeding. I'm lucky that she'll let me feed her expressed breastmilk and she'll take pretty much any nipple, but I'm worried that the bottles & pacis are ruining her latch. I love the BreastFlow bottles though - they seem to be a good mimic of the breast, complete w/ letdown. Dr. Browns bottles were a disaster. She's 4 weeks old today but life's still like it was during the first couple weeks, with 5-6 hours (tops!) sleep spread over 24 hours. My parents have been staying w/ us over 3 weeks now and tension b/w them and DH is getting harder to deal with, but I still need all of them. On a positive note, my nips are almost healed and DH is basically done w/ school so he's been more involved.

Cornpicker thanks for the info on nursing from 1 breast. Sounds like you had a difficult, painful time with it. I don't think my funky nipple will be that big of a challenge, as long as she doesn't latch on to the funky part (ouch!). It's good to know that one breast can compensate for the other though, and that the amount you get out of each can vary. I have talked to an LC about it and she doesn't recommend nipple shields but I'll probably use them to get back into BFing anyway. Thanks for the encouragement to stick with it - I haven't actually fed her from my breast in a couple weeks but I'm looking forward to it being better now that she has a little more neck control and my nips have hopefully toughened up a little.

Elizabeth I can't believe your milk stash is ruined too! Maybe Emily's scalding method would work for you too? I wanted to say thanks for being an inspiration for breastfeeding too - you've been through so much, with the preemie and triple feedings and thrush and mastitis and still stick with it. I hope it's getting easier for you.

Julia glad to see you're recovering from the c-section so well and figuring out little Ollie.

Cosleeping - as I suspected, I can't sleep well with the baby in the bed. I'm too worried about suffocating her b/c we don't have an ideal setup. it's a king size bed but the Select Comfort kind w/ 2 air chambers. Only prob is a rut in the middle b/w the chambers that she could (and did) roll into. Can't figure out how to make it level, esp since the 2 sides have different firmnesses. She's been sleeping in her swing mostly, or on my chest while I try to stay awake on the couch. We're moving the pack n play into the bedroom tonite, hopefully. Maybe I'll change my mind once I (finally) learn to nurse laying down, but it still seems unsafe under my conditions.
post #149 of 528
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Elizabeth - Hey, it is me (Emily) who has the lipase problem, not CJ. So if you want to read about my methods and procedures you should be able to find them by clicking on my user name and then looking at my recent posts. Sorry you are having the same problem. It is horrible to have to toss all of that milk. However, (if you haven't tossed already), you should know that excess lipase is not harmful. The only "bad" thing about it is the smell & taste. However, some babies have no problem with it (so if your baby drinks it, no worries. Benjamin pitched a fit when I tried to give it to him). If your abby does object, you can also look into donating the milk to a milk bank. Since the banks combine milk from different donors, your milk will be added to a big batch and mixed in, in this way the lipase taste will be diluted and isn't a problem.

Becky - You asked about daycare...
Well, 2 weeks down and I think Benjamin is settling in. He is taking naps and doing well with his bottles (now that I am scalding my milk). I am pretty sure he spends a lot of time in the swing, but I am okay with that (he loooooves his swing at home and I limit his time in it here, but he would gladly spend almost all day in it if I let him). I also think that daycare will become a more exciting/fun place for him as he matures over the next few months and begins being able to move about (even if it is just sitting & reaching) and becomes interested in other kids.
Life is super duper stressful and tough though now that I am balancing work and being a mom. I had everything "down" before I went back to work and I wasn't that concerned about whether or when stuff got done (or whether/when I slept), but now....ack.
Also, Benjamin is TOTALLY sick right now. We both started getting a cold over a week ago (exactly 5 days after he started daycare fulltime *sigh*). I recovered my from cold in 2/3 days. However, Benjamin was still sick (and had started coughing). Thursday night, right after I put him to bed, he started moaning and whimpering. An hour later he was screaming. Temp was normal, but I gave him Motrin anyway (thinking maybe he was teething on top of having a cold). We nursed all night long (because when he wasn't nursing he was screaming). I rechecked his temp at 7AM on Friday and it was 101.9. Called doctor and got in to see her. Turns out he has an ear infection. He is on antibiotics now and is still so sick. He has actually lost his voice (tries to cry & scream, but only little squawks come out...pitiful) and still has a fever. My poor baby. This completely breaks my heart. I feel horrible that he is sick (and it has retriggered my daycare guilt). I really cannot deal with a whole year (or more!) like this.
post #150 of 528
Oh yeah the reason we went to the ped Fri was to see if she's tongue-tied. She's not, but we got a referral to a speech therapist to examine her mouth and give us exercises to help her latch & prevent nipple damage.

Some pics!

Face seen too often

Sweet Christmas baby

Chillin after bathtime
post #151 of 528
Oh Emily, I'm so sorry that Benjamin is sick. It's so hard to see your little one suffering. Maybe it helps if you think about it as strengthening his immunity. That's the approach they take here about illness.

Dee- nice to hear from you! Those pics are wonderful, Matilde looks good and the one of her having a fit just goes to show that she's got good lungs!

Believe me I know, Aidan cries like we are trying to kill him every evening after his bath. He cries so loudly his whole head gets red - it would be funny if it weren't so distressing! He hates getting dressed. I wonder if maybe I'm just manhandling him. Those armholes are so difficult and sometimes it feels like I'm contorting him in a funky way...
post #152 of 528
Betsey - sorry your little boy is gassy. I've said it before but have you tried probiotics? They really do help especially if he suffers right before a poop!

Amanda - what you say about the Ergo is why I ordered one. I only hear really good things especially for traveling! I'm excited to get it... I hope it gets here before we have to go away for Christmas.

Oh and about co-sleeping, at the beginning I also didn't sleep deeply because I was completely aware of Aidan all night. It's better now, I've relaxed although I do sleep lighter these days. Aidan is a noisy sleeper too but somehow even when I'm sleeping I can tell when it's time to nurse, his noisiness changes. When I was pregnant co-sleeping didn't sound super appealing. DH was pretty against it since he was afraid of rolling over the baby. Well as soon as we both realized how much better we both rested with the baby in bed with us, we were convinced!

So why is it that mothers are unhappy with all the options available right now? Does anyone have suggestions of what would be the best of all possible worlds? Personally I think we have so little support in our communities! This is such hard work already and it would be nice for society to make more of an effort to ease the burden. Even just making common places (in the States I guess like the mall) more baby friendly. I try to walk everyday but it's a real obstacle course here in Amsterdam. The sidewalks are made for parking bikes and scooters/mopeds so I have to walk on the road. Or how about places for breastfeeding? When they say it takes a village to raise a child - it's true for reasons I didn't understand before having a baby.

Okay I'm off Aidan is awake.
post #153 of 528
just a quick drive-by post.
dee, mathilde is so sweet! I hope the weight gain turns around soon. hugs on dealing with parents and DH. It's all about you and the baby right now, I hope they get that.
post #154 of 528
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Originally Posted by preemiemamarach View Post
She had mad skillz, that lady, because I felt like a shower head at a Best Western, spraying everywhere but the intended target. :



Julia, I hear you on the birth trauma thing. I often wonder that as well. My c-section was due to fetal distress (cord being compressed) so I wonder what that was like for her... and if it's contributed to her fussiness. And on the co-sleeping thing, I'm also trapped in bed with the co-sleeper on my side. You kinda just get used to shimmying in and out of bed!

Aw, Elizabeth, so sorry you lost your stash!!

We're also flying right after Christmas... NOT looking forward to it at all. Ugh.

Natalia, I know what you mean about your career. I think it would be better for Maya if we could afford for me to stay home, but it would be really difficult for me!

Hi Betsey! *eating my cookie*

((((Dee)))) Aw, honey, I'm sorry Mathilde is having a hard time with feeding. It's *so* hard in the beginning... it WILL get easier. I promise!! Those pictures are PRECIOUS, even the screaming one. Argh. I remember 4 weeks. *shudder* It's hard! Hang in there, you're doing great!!

Emily, I'm sorry Benjamin and you got sick! But I'm glad to hear he's settling in ok. As a fellow fussy-baby mom, I was curious. I hope you guys get better soon!!

Amanda, now you've got me on ebay, trying to find a decently priced Ergo!! As if I need another carrier (mei tei, sling, pouch, and a Snugli coming from my SIL).

Soooo.... we figured out our childcare situation! We interviewed the most perfect girl Friday night and hired her the next day. She's young (29), married with a 20-mo boy. She's done daycare work and nanny work in the past and told me that she'd hold Maya all the time and hopes that's ok, haha!! I was like, yes that's perfectly fine! She's going to come to our home with her son, and she starts Tuesday! Phew!! I'm so relieved!
post #155 of 528
Wow, Mathilde is so sweet! I love crying pictures.

Becky, that's great about finding a nanny.

Career: Is anyone working from home? HOW DO YOU DO IT? I am trying to write. Writing at home is actually my ideal job. But I am having trouble getting much done. The pay (negative several grand) is also kind of a bummer.

Along those lines, what do you DO with your kid all day? I think Elizabeth said something awhile back about worrying if she was stimulating her kid enough. I carry her in the sling (she's less into this now), take walks (ditto, which sucks for me), prop her against my knees and talk/sing to her, lay her in the crib to coo at her mobile/animals... but that's it. She hates "tummy time." She doesn't really have toys. I read her books sometimes but she's not that into it yet.

A lot of times I feel like I'm both not getting writing done (because trying to take care of the baby), and not "paying enough attention" to the baby (because I'm trying to sneak in writing while holding her on my lap or something). Guilt! So what kind of "playing" am I missing? She's 11 weeks -- not quite able to grab toys yet.
post #156 of 528
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Originally Posted by hazieluna View Post
Believe me I know, Aidan cries like we are trying to kill him every evening after his bath. He cries so loudly his whole head gets red - it would be funny if it weren't so distressing! He hates getting dressed. I wonder if maybe I'm just manhandling him. Those armholes are so difficult and sometimes it feels like I'm contorting him in a funky way...
Ha, us too. Sleeves are the WORST.
post #157 of 528
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II do have a couple friends doing freelance consulting like you mention, hazieluna, and they've been pretty happy with that. They tend to work three days a week, from home (but with someone to help look after their LOs while they're working), and I think they feel like it gives them at least some outlet to do some more traditional "work."

Hm, so hiring someone is maybe the way to do it.

Which reminds me, Ada took the bottle (1.5 oz, but still) yesterday for the first time ever! Yay! All I have the is hand-held Isis. Nothing to compare it to but I pumped 6 oz in 15 or so minutes yesterday.
post #158 of 528
Wow - this thread is so great. I love it. I feel like I do not fit in very well in a lot of the other ones.

Elizabeth, that really sucks about your milk. I'm sorry. I would cry.

Grace, I had a c-sec as well and I was really upset about it for a long time. I hadn't read anything about traumatic births creating high needs babies, but Sofia is definitely a high needs baby and needs lots and lots of cuddles. I was so disappointed I couldn't wear her for awhile. We have an Ergo that I still use all the time and love.

Ugh .. it has taken me two days to write this post. I think that means I am too busy
post #159 of 528
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Career: Is anyone working from home? HOW DO YOU DO IT? I am trying to write. Writing at home is actually my ideal job. But I am having trouble getting much done. The pay (negative several grand) is also kind of a bummer.

Along those lines, what do you DO with your kid all day? I think Elizabeth said something awhile back about worrying if she was stimulating her kid enough. I carry her in the sling (she's less into this now), take walks (ditto, which sucks for me), prop her against my knees and talk/sing to her, lay her in the crib to coo at her mobile/animals... but that's it. She hates "tummy time." She doesn't really have toys. I read her books sometimes but she's not that into it yet.

A lot of times I feel like I'm both not getting writing done (because trying to take care of the baby), and not "paying enough attention" to the baby (because I'm trying to sneak in writing while holding her on my lap or something). Guilt! So what kind of "playing" am I missing? She's 11 weeks -- not quite able to grab toys yet.
Well, I work from home (when I'm not out reporting) as a journalist. BUT I have either a babysitter or DH watching Willa when I'm trying to work. No way I could get much done if I was watching her the whole time. Naptimes are too short (and you need them to shower, make meals, etc) and when she's not napping she's not very tolerant of me doing other things, at least not the type of engagement I'd need to have to be writing. For me it wasn't a question because I'm not working for myself - it's a traditional, full-time job despite the fact that I'm home a lot of the time (my newspaper is just based somewhere else), and I'm often on deadline, so I knew I'd need someone else to watch DD while I'm working. When you're writing freelance or otherwise working for yourself, I think it's more possible to as long as you accept that you'll be a LOT less efficient, but I still think it would be really helpful to at least have help a few hours a day or a couple days a week so you had some time you KNEW you could focus just on work/writing.

As to what we do all day... it's SO much easier now that DD is almost 6 months. She's entertained by a lot more, though we still have to get creative and change it up. Today for instance.... we sat in her room and played with blocks and other toys (I'd build things, she'd knock them over or chew on them), she worked on crawling (mostly rocking or scooting backwards and eventually getting frustrated), she demolished one section of my Sunday newspaper, she entertained herself with a pear while DH and I ate breakfast, we danced and sang a lot, we roughhoused, which she loves (jumping on the bed with her, playing on my exercise ball, tossing her in the air), she played in the exersaucer and in her play gym for a bit, and we went grocery shopping with her in the ergo - in the store i switched her to the front of the cart - and played in the swings for a few minutes on the walk back home.

When she was younger... her favorite thing by far was just looking at/smiling at us. we made faces, smiled at her, made silly sounds and imitated her sounds, had "conversations", etc. Sometime around 2 1/2 months she started grabbing objects, and I'd sometimes lie her on a blanket on her back and she'd be entertained either trying to grab a few things or just looking at a ceiling fan or something else near her. Otherwise we did a lot of walks, and she stayed pretty interested just looking at the scenery or my face. Once she started sitting up by herself we had a lot more options, and she started liking the swings around 4 months.

Right now, though, I'm clearly not doing enough to entertain her (she's sitting in front of my computer chewing on the remote and getting increasingly grouchy) so I'd better sign off!
post #160 of 528
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Originally Posted by ~minnow~ View Post
Career: Is anyone working from home? HOW DO YOU DO IT? I am trying to write. Writing at home is actually my ideal job. But I am having trouble getting much done. The pay (negative several grand) is also kind of a bummer.

Along those lines, what do you DO with your kid all day? I think Elizabeth said something awhile back about worrying if she was stimulating her kid enough. I carry her in the sling (she's less into this now), take walks (ditto, which sucks for me), prop her against my knees and talk/sing to her, lay her in the crib to coo at her mobile/animals... but that's it. She hates "tummy time." She doesn't really have toys. I read her books sometimes but she's not that into it yet.

A lot of times I feel like I'm both not getting writing done (because trying to take care of the baby), and not "paying enough attention" to the baby (because I'm trying to sneak in writing while holding her on my lap or something). Guilt! So what kind of "playing" am I missing? She's 11 weeks -- not quite able to grab toys yet.

yes i think those of us at home should share ideas for our babe activities. at the moment dd is having tummy time propped up on her boppy (this lets her tolerate it for much longer -- a foam cylinder worked even better but then she started to try to chew it, which would present choking hazard, so away it went) under the tiny love gymini and "talking" up a storm while listening to the marriage of figaro. she is visibly thrilled to be home after our weekend away.

i am similarly situated. i am trying to write job applications and study up for interviews so i feel like i am not making the most of my time home with her and not getting enough done on the job search front. it can get frustrating. the only time i felt really good about it was when i had a friend come over to play with dd while i pounded out cover letters.
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