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becky, how did maya do en route to ariz?

juia and dee, thinking of u. more to say but sick of typing ewith 1 hand.
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I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas & made it home safely & painlessly. Hugs to all those w/ family issues. Gotta love 'em! LOL "oh the 6 month old can't have cherry pop tart filling?"

Rach, thank you so much for the info on EPing. You are amazing for keeping so many balls in the air and EPing too! Your DS is luck to have a very special mama. Eh, I don't want this to come out wrong but wow - I thought EPing might suck (it certainly did for 2 weeks while I did it) but I didn't realize how much. It must be very stressful to keep up w/ your baby's demand, and then stress decreases your supply and you end up in a bad situation. I'm sorry you used the last of your freezer stash too. I'm never very good at making a decision and sticking with it, but I think BFing is just not gonna work for us and EPing doesn't sound like a good fit either. I feel like I slacker, like I'm not very good at this whole mothering thing, but I've had to weigh the benefits of BFing and BM against my sanity and bonding time w/ DD. We have a history of food allergies too, which was one of the reasons I wanted to BF so badly. Although I hate formula and still cry when I think about permanently giving up BFing, I feel a little better knowing that she's on hypoallergenic stuff (Nutramigen).

Now I'm trying to figure out what to do w/ my freezer stash. Even though the upper GI didn't show active reflux, I've read that it's not great for diagnosing reflux & is better at finding blockages, which weren't present. After reading more and watching her more closely, I'm sure she has GERD and esophagitis. She doesn't spit up much but she'll be happily eating, then get a scared look on her face, eyes wide, then spit out the nipple, arch her back and scream. Burping doesn't make it better & may actually make it worse. I think I'll wait a week for the Zantac to become fully effective and see how she feels, then I may introduce a bottle of BM every day. I'm sure BM is more important at younger ages but her poor tummy has had to switch between BM and formula so many times I just want to give her a break. Does that sound like a good idea? I have about 200 oz frozen, which should last a couple months if I only use 3 oz a day. Maybe it would be better to give 2 bottles a day for one month? I dunno.
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Julia I'm sorry cosleeping didn't work out for you. My DH wanted to cosleep but I resisted thoughout pregnancy b/c we both like a lot of room when we sleep. Ironcially, I've been sleeping w/ M propped up on my pillow to help the reflux! Guess it's just another example of how you have to do what works for you and your baby.
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Oh, how I don't miss the reflux! So sorry for those of you that have to deal with it.

MG - What Miss M is doing sounds exactly like my DS. Poor little thing! I ended up getting one of these, since mine were crib babies from the get go. It also helped with congestion, during cold season.
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Sorry about the issues with your moms!!! That really sucks.

Dee - sorry bfing isn't working for you. If LO does well on the Nutramigen use what works! I'd give her more BM earlier than stretching it out so that she gets the good stuff when her intestines/immune system are the least developed, but you could ask your LC or ped what is best. I'm sorry about the GERD, too. It's awful that so many of them have it!!! DD has been better the last 2 days - we see our NP tomorrow, so hopefully we'll get her on a better combo of meds or at least increase the Zantac. I'm so hoping she outgrows it quickly!

Julia - sorry co-sleeping isn't working, but it's best to do whatever works!!! Frankly, I'd love if DD would sleep well in her crib. Glad that babe is figuring out night and day, too. That's a wonderful step!
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Hi - I am relatively new to this board - I belong to another parenting forum, but now that my son is getting a little older and starting to eat solids, I am looking for like minded moms who are raising their kids vegetarian and environmentally aware - tough to find in New York (Long Island)

I had my son Cailen when I was 33 - I got married when I was 32 and was pregnant 3 weeks later - he was born Apr 4 2007. I am now 34 and he will be 9 mts next week!
post #467 of 528
Hi everyone!

Yes, meeting Elizabeth was super fun. I'm so glad we got a chance to do that.

Our holidays were remarkably relaxing despite traveling and doing just about everything last minute. Somehow we hung in there and even made peanut brittle to boot. Goes to show you how 12 mos can really alter your life. Dd is still waking up ~ 4 times per night, but that's so much better than 8 or even 6 times that I'm not really trying to change anything anymore. She'll outgrow it eventually.

I'm so sorry to hear about all you guys with reflux babies ...

As for family ... yeah, it's a struggle. One time I let my mom watch dd while dh and I went on a date. She actually let her CIO (said it was only for 5 mins, but who knows) even though it was the one thing I specifically asked her not to do. Since then I haven't left her with my mom at all ... it's weird that my MIL is more AP than my own mom. I guess in a weird way it does make me sad or feel like I was neglected or something.

Anyway, happy holidays, happy new year! Relax and enjoy your little ones. Trust me when I say that a year from now everything will be different!
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As for family ... yeah, it's a struggle. One time I let my mom watch dd while dh and I went on a date. She actually let her CIO (said it was only for 5 mins, but who knows) even though it was the one thing I specifically asked her not to do. Since then I haven't left her with my mom at all ... it's weird that my MIL is more AP than my own mom. I guess in a weird way it does make me sad or feel like I was neglected or something.
That's so sad - I'm so sorry your mom did that. I worry that mine will do what I ask her not too, but I think it would be more along the lines of giving her solids too early, etc... I can see her letting her cry while she holds her, too, rather than trying to figure out why she's crying.

Hope you and DH had a nice date in spite of that...
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Hope you and DH had a nice date in spite of that...
Yeah, it sucked. I had to call her and let her know that I just flat out do not believe in raising my children that way no matter how much of a struggle it is to get her to sleep. (At that point she was waking up A LOT) The date was really nice, heck, all dates are, but I can't see us leaving her with that grandma again for a very long time.

She watches my sister's kid during the week and practices CIO (the new, modern version, but still) and they both brag about how the baby is trained to sleep in her own room in her own crib.

What really bothers me about it is that people think Sofia has sleep issues because of our parenting style. When we're exhausted and I hear someone say that it makes me doubt myself. In all reality our parenting style changed radically once I a) had a baby and b) had to deal with a baby who hates sleeping.
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you know, having your mom be "too" ap can actually bite too. all i wanted this vacation was to go x-country skiing while they watched dd. however, my mother didn't believe i should leave the babe. even for 45 minutes. i did anyway and when i came back she announced that dd had cried the whole time. my dad said it was more like 3 1/2 minutes but my mom wanted to make her point. sigh.
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Bah.

Isn't family a pain sometimes? Sorry Piepie, but good for you for getting out there and enjoying the snow. No doubt it was good for your mental health.
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What really bothers me about it is that people think Sofia has sleep issues because of our parenting style. When we're exhausted and I hear someone say that it makes me doubt myself. In all reality our parenting style changed radically once I a) had a baby and b) had to deal with a baby who hates sleeping.
I'm sure we'll get this too... DD sleeps well if she's with me - otherwise, not at all. I know I'll hear that she won't sleep alone because we let her sleep with us. Um, no she sleeps with us because she won't sleep alone!

Pie - I'm so glad you got out, but that does bite too... 45 minutes is nothing! Dd cries when I leave her too, but I still need to live, you know?
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hi all. made it back home, only 13 hours late.

does anyone know how to tell if a bf baby has diarrhea or some other digestive problem in need of attention? ella has all of a sudden had A) VERY smelly poops (I never smelled 'em before) and B) started to have a regular 1 hour writhing (not in pain just squirmy) pooping session in the middle of the night. poops are still mostly the right color, maybe a little green tinge sometimes and maybe a little mucousy, but not bad. we did let her try pear but I stopped it 4 days ago. Don't think I've really been eating anything different, just more food and less healthy than normal (and less exercise).

speaking of which, I'm not all into new year's resolutions but I am definitely cutting back to less food, more healthy stuff, and more exercise! anyone with me?
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cj, the smell is supposed to change radically (for the worse) when an exclusively breastfed baby starts solids. on the crying before pooping, dd started this during the night about 2 weeks ago (?) and i reported it to the ped and she said it was normal. what helps (and the ped agrees is good) is giving her my hand to press the bottom of her feet against -- she needs traction -- the ped says she tells parents to try to poop lying on their backs!

we are in the airport, delayed.
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http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=817583

also, cj, i reported to ped that dd's poops are sometimes green and/or mucusy and she was not concerned. fwiw.
post #476 of 528
Pie, to be honest the only diaper I have ever known to contain a blow out was a cloth diaper.

That said, I prefer Kirkland (Costco's brand) of diapers over any other because for one thing they don't get as many of the little gel balls on the baby. Also, they are pretty high quality for the price. I hate Huggies and really hate Luvs.

If you know babe is gonna poo soon it helps to have a freshie on, but otherwise I have no advice as we still have our fair share of blowouts when she's not in her Bum Geniuses.

HTH.
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I HAVE MASTITIS AGAIN!!! What the hell is wrong with me?! I'm so upset I can't stand this...

I LOVE bfing DD more than anything - ever. It is my favorite thing to do with her. It is killing me that my stupid body just won't adapt to it. WTF???!!! More abx and more abx for her, more Diflucan because the thrush will love this. Seriously, I am a mess...

Do I quit? I mean - how can I quit something that means so much to me and that I've fought so hard for?
post #478 of 528
Elizabeth Of course only you can make the decision whether to continue BFing or not. It was honestly the hardest decision I've ever made, b/c I feel so strongly about the benefits of breastmilk. I got to the point (much quicker than you!) that I felt like my baby's anatomy and mine were incompatible. I'm still dealing with feeling like a failure but at least I feel like I tried as hard as I could. It's admittedly not as hard as you or some other mamas around here, but this isn't a competition, yk? Good luck hon, I hope you feel better soon.
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UGH. Elizabeth, I'm soooo sorry.

I wonder if Isabella is draining your breasts fully during each feeding? You mentioned the other day that she gets cranky if your let down slows up. I wonder if pumping a little on each side after she's done eating would help clear those ducts at all?

I'm not much use here, so I'm sorry.

Good luck with your decision. Hang in there.
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I think you're right - she's not draining them fully. Especailly on the left, which is the one I'm having the most problems with. I wish that my supply would adjust to her needs. I'll try pumping today; it's just hard to pump with a baby who wants to be held, especially after eating.

I'm going to try to keep it drained and try not to take abx if I can get it to clear up. I started seeing red a while ago and have been trying to stay on top of it and thought it was gone, but last night it was bright red again and painful. I don't feel clogged up, though.

I'm just so frustrated that this has to be so hard for us.
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