I have to say goodbye. Update post # 65 - Page 2

[clutterbug]

I am so very sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts. Sending you strength and hoping for you to find peace.

[Vermillion]

Originally Posted by LittleRockstar

I'm debating on whether to post this because I was NOT good at this and I don't want to upset you further. It's a very personal decision. If this is too upsetting or just not helpful, please tell me and I'll delete it.

If I had it to do again (without the fibroid), I'd try to deliver again.

No, mama. It's not upsetting to me, it's helpful. Thank you so much for sharing

I'm not sure about the fibroid thing. I had pevlic pain in the past and consideded this issue, but nothing has ever shown up on U/S. Everything looked fine with my uterus and such today as well, so I don't know.

Thank you again.

[Molck]

:::
I'm so so sorry for your loss.
You'll be in my thoughts.

[Mary-Beth]

Sorry you lost your little one.

[blizzard_babe]

I'm so, so sorry. Peace to you.

[Genesis]

Saw this under new posts...and I am so sorry for your loss.

[athansor]

I'm so sorry for your loss, am sending prayers and thoughts your way.

[mamastotwo]

So very sorry for your loss.
My condolences to your family as well.

[APmom2Libby]

I am SO sorry. Lots of hugs to you and your family!

[thismama]

If you take pictures and want to share them, I would be very touched to see them. Just if that feels like something you want to do, I know other mamas have done that before and found comfort in sharing their babe with others. Again I'm so sorry for the loss of your wee one. I remember all the mamas who have lost babes on this website and I think of them often, especially losses after the first trimester.

[kwilki8]

I am so sorry for your loss. Much strength and peace to you and your family.

[butterfly_mommy]

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby I too know the heartache of losing a much loved and wanted baby. : Please take good care of yourself and do whatever feels right to you. I wish you much peace and love for your and your family in the coming days and months ahead.

[*Aimee*]

I'm so sorry Mama. I'll be praying for your family.

[StephNelson]

***Big Hugs*** So very sorry for your loss.... Take some time to heal and be kind to yourself mama...

[Shanana]

Oh mama, I am in shock . I am so sorry ... I can't imagine the grief. I don't have any advice on how to proceed. I had a loss at 9 weeks and did a D&C because I was such a wreck emotionally. But there are obviously risks to procedures like that. I don't honestly know what I would do right now if faced with this choice. If you decide to deliver, is it possible to get a prescription for a heavy duty pain reliever? Like Vicodin, or something like that? At least something to have on hand if you decide you need it. If you are up to it, please keep us posted on how you're doing .

for you, your little one, and your family.

[ctdoula]

I'm not in your ddc, but wanted to express my sorrow for your loss.

[UnskulinMama]

Oh gosh, hugs mama... I'm so sorry.

[symesa]

Oh no! I'm so terribly sorry

[animallover]

Hi there,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a little boy at 17.2 weeks in March of this year. Same as you, couldn't find the heartbeat, ultrasound showed no heartbeat. I chose to deliver with the help of some cervical pill called miso? something (sorry). It opened my cervix to approx.5 cm. and I delivered him, feet first in the bathroom at the hospital after 2 doses of meds and 13 hours of waiting (like a mini labour). The placenta was all intact so no D&C needed. I understand the shock and pain and not knowing what to do next. I relize I'm new here, I wish I had had someone to tell me what to expect. I hope you don't mind me responding. I did bleed a lot with clots (TMI) for 8 weeks after. I went to a homeopath for treatment after the docs wanted to put me on hormones and the homeopath guy fixed me right up and I stopped bleeding within 2 days. If you do bleed a lot I suggest this route and please don't wait as long as I did. My little boys name is Gabriel Francis and he was cremated and is on our mantle in a very plain wooden urn. My hubby (who's a minister) baptized him. If you do this in a hospital, a chaplain could do this if you wanted to go that route, if at home do it yourself, no need to be a clergy. If that's not what you guys are into - disregard this part of post. We took 3 pictures and our 2 older boys (9 and 12) got to hold him. If you have other kids, there are some great books out there. The one we have is "We were gonna have a baby but we had an angel instead". The hospital sent us home with "stuff" a small blanket, grief material etc.
I know it's very hard right now, in time you get used to it and the sting isn't so bad. I hope I haven't overwhelmed you or anyone else with TMI or speaking out when I should be quite. Do what is right for you.
Again, I'm very sorry and best wishes for you and your family.
Cindy

[lovingmommyhood]

Originally Posted by animallover

Hi there,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a little boy at 17.2 weeks in March of this year. Same as you, couldn't find the heartbeat, ultrasound showed no heartbeat. I chose to deliver with the help of some cervical pill called miso? something (sorry). It opened my cervix to approx.5 cm. and I delivered him, feet first in the bathroom at the hospital after 2 doses of meds and 13 hours of waiting (like a mini labour). The placenta was all intact so no D&C needed. I understand the shock and pain and not knowing what to do next. I relize I'm new here, I wish I had had someone to tell me what to expect. I hope you don't mind me responding. I did bleed a lot with clots (TMI) for 8 weeks after. I went to a homeopath for treatment after the docs wanted to put me on hormones and the homeopath guy fixed me right up and I stopped bleeding within 2 days. If you do bleed a lot I suggest this route and please don't wait as long as I did. My little boys name is Gabriel Francis and he was cremated and is on our mantle in a very plain wooden urn. My hubby (who's a minister) baptized him. If you do this in a hospital, a chaplain could do this if you wanted to go that route, if at home do it yourself, no need to be a clergy. If that's not what you guys are into - disregard this part of post. We took 3 pictures and our 2 older boys (9 and 12) got to hold him. If you have other kids, there are some great books out there. The one we have is "We were gonna have a baby but we had an angel instead". The hospital sent us home with "stuff" a small blanket, grief material etc.
I know it's very hard right now, in time you get used to it and the sting isn't so bad. I hope I haven't overwhelmed you or anyone else with TMI or speaking out when I should be quite. Do what is right for you.
Again, I'm very sorry and best wishes for you and your family.
Cindy

I'm so sorry for your loss. That book title is just... wow. I am in tears.

I am so sorry Vermillion. Words can't even express. ::::



So Sorry.