Well, Sarah, That’s a high horse you are riding in on and thank you for totally hijacking the thread and totally minimizing the impact of the original message.
You know that I am sympathetic to the problem of unnecessary hysterectomies. You know I am the one that has posted numerous times and on several boards that it has been called “The doctor’s welfare procedure.” Even that being the case, it is a different situation in that all of these women know what is happening to them and agree to the surgery. These women are all part of the decision making process and consent to the procedure and regardless of your protestations, all that I have had a close association with have been satisfied with the outcome. Outside a transsexual, no man would consent to losing all of his sexual and urinary functions and if it had been necessary, it’s not the surgeon’s decision to make. In this case, it was clearly not the surgeon’s decision to make and only shows HER flagrant disregard for the man and his rights.
You see, it is germane to the issue that this man was 68 years old. This man may very well have decided that he would rather live with a cancerous penis than to be totally emasculated. Many men make this decision. Most forms of prostate cancer are slow growing and in these cases in elderly men, they are more likely to die of something else than of their prostate cancer. They take the option of possibly living a shorter time and retaining their sexuality over the possibility of a slightly longer life and no sexuality. It is a choice that I would certainly have to weigh carefully and consider the consequences were I that age.
Your protestations of my disrespect of a woman’s uterus fall on deaf ears. I merely reported on the feelings of the women I know and their overwhelming attitude is that it was a neutral or positive experience, not considering the pain of the surgery. Their personal perception of the effect on them is not your evaluation to make just as I don’t make the personal evaluation of an adult man who chooses circumcision. Certainly in both cases, the decision is made in something of an information vacuum and regardless of the damage they don’t perceive, it is their decision to make and if they perceive benefits, that is their perception. That is what they see as truth. It is also germane to the discussion that all of these women in my personal experience had all of the children they intended to have so their fertility was not an issue just as a man who has chosen a vasectomy is not concerned with retaining his fertility.
I understand that you believe the tides turn to the function of your uterus and the solar system revolves around it. Be happy that it will not be surreptitiously taken from you with no input from you at all. Be happy that if it is diseased and removal is necessary for your health and life, that it will be your decision whether it is removed or not. Most of all, please get off of my case because I report the feelings and experiences of women who have had that experience. That in no way indicates disrespect for women. If you want to promote the issues of women, don’t alienate your allies. You need all of the allies you can get. At this point, I am having grave misgivings about my support of your causes.
Your accusation that I do not value the sex organs of women is preposterous. You know that is not the case. Go ahead and mount your campaign. I will gladly join you in it and support your efforts, just don’t make me the brunt of your angst toward those who are truly responsible. I will then become an adversary instead of an ally.
Frank
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