December Lower Income and/or Struggling Mama's Support Thread - Page 3

[mum4boys]

Originally Posted by Thystle

I have a new "challenge" to ponder.... post or keep to yourself *one* thing you will do to better yourself in some way this coming month.


That can mean many things.


I need to ponder this too.

Okay things that I am thankful for:

1. Dh told me he appreciated me. Nothing like a colonoscopy to bring that one out.
2. my children
3. that I have work
4. that I have money to pay for the dr. on Monday.

I need to really work on my organization which is normally my strong point. Seems like I am running out of day.

[momma earthical]

Originally Posted by Nature

And now I'm going to piggyback on my own post..

And she tells me, (paraphrased) "normally this isn't an issue.. I just want to get out of this rut we're in. I don't really care how much stuff costs normally, so good that you're all martha stewart like and saving money but we don't need to be THAT stingy. We're having a hard week, we aren't POOR! "

:

I told her I was only trying to help and I'd shut up now.. she just laughed.

Ya, I'm gonna go cry now..



somehow I feel like a huge loser now.

I know the other mamas have said really wise things so I just wanted to

Originally Posted by Crunchy Doula

Hello Ladies!

I thought I would wait till the new thread to introduce myself. My name is Jessica and I am married and we have a beautiful 15 month old together!

I am a SAHM and part time doula. We struggle to make it monthly, but things are getting tighter this month, but will soon clear up as half our debt will be paid in December and the rest will be gone in February. We have struggled making ends for quite awhile and I am ready to get out of this circumstance.

I am glad to have found this thread with so many supportive women!!

I can't wait to get to know you all more

Welcome, although I still feel new myself!

Originally Posted by Iris' Mom

Hi, all. I'm joining in.

I'm Maureen, and I'm another mama who's fallen upon hard times, but unfortunately, they are not temporary. I have 3 kids, ages 17, 6 and 7 mos. I am married but in the process of divorcing

Two years ago, I was a hard-working lawyer married to a SAHD. My marriage was rocky, and I started having a lot of trouble at work. One day, I just sort of broke down, and wound up in the hospital. I was diagnosed wtih bipolar disorder, and have not been able to work since. I'm in a constant state of anxiety, and I have not yet found any meds/treatment to stabilize my bipolar.

STBX resentfully got a job, and my marriage started going downhill pretty fast; stbx relapsed into drug addiction, quit his job and fell completely apart. The last time we saw him he was in handcuffs. There has been so much emotional fallout because of this, but I'll spare the details.

Financially, I was okay for a while: For 6 mos., I got short-term disability = fullpay; then long-term disability = 60% pay. In September, my short-term ended b/c my disability is psychological; if it were physical, I could collect until I retired (yes, I've filed a complaint). Since September, I've been only getting SSDI. None of this would even be unbearably bad, except I incurred so much debt when I was making much more money. For example, I have a $3500 mortgage payment, which is double by SSDI. I have student loan payments of over $1000/mo. I could go on. I am cutting everywhere I can, but just my fixed expenses alone are more than 3x my SSDI.

Right now, I am taking withdrawals from my 401K to meet expenses for several reasons: dd was going to graduate in May, and I didn't want to transfer her senior year; my house is under water, and I can't afford to pay any shortfall if I sell now; I sent my resume around, and I'm hoping there is some job I can perform in spite of my bipolar; law is one profession where a bankruptcy is really bad, and I worked too, too hard to get my degree to take any step that would ruin my chances of ever practicing again; I may win my discrimination complaint against my disability insurer; or I may win the lottery.

Until any of those happen, though, I'm really, really struggling, and could sure use some support! And, I hope I can offer other low-income/struggling mamas as well.

mama, so sorry things are so challenging but I agree that if you got through law school you are a strong woman! This is a good place to come for support.

Originally Posted by Aura_Kitten

...

Hi again to all the regs and WELCOME to Crunchy Doula (and any others that I may have missed ~ I won't ignore you, I just need more time to read through the rest of the November thread... I've been crazy bogged down with work, school work, NaNo, and of course doctor's appointments... so many drs appointments....

So, there's my saga, and as time allows tonight I will be reading and responding to you all. I've missed coming to this group.

Welcome back, I too get bogged down and only find time to read the email updates but I'm going to try to do better this month, now I've learned to multi quote!

Originally Posted by SherryR

Hi. I hope you don't mind my "crashing" your thread. I've been lurking around but always was too overwhelmed to post anything..

Welcome

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

Hi everyone! I am exhausted so I will reply to everyone tomorrow. I just wanted to ask for prayers (good vibes, etc.) for DS2. He was exposed to mennigococcal mennigitis at his preschool yesterday. We took him for an antibiotic shot at the hospital outpatient center (that goodness for Medi-Cal) and now we just have to wait & hope the antibiotics work and he doesn't get sick. He has a history of being immunocompromised so I'm trying hard not to freak out. to all

Hoping that your little one didn't get sick, and that you got good rest.

Originally Posted by vannienicole

Good night/morning everyone! Just really subbing at this point. In the middle of typing a 5 page paper that is supposedly due at 5 am :. I am on page one! I work best under pressure!

Wow, you student mamas are an inspiration to me!

Originally Posted by Satori

Hi everyone,

I'm in a serious downer mood tonight We made a huge move to a city (NEVER thought I'd live in the city) for a whole bunch of reasons and I am seriously stressing, I can't even job hunt without finding a sitter first and I can't find a dang sitter! Rent is due tomorrow and its going to more or less zero out the bank account and the last check I have coming is gone to cover the deposits for utilities. I'm seriously freaking out about not being able to get a job immediately, there's lots of jobs out there but without childcare... I ran an ad but all I'm getting are people who want more money then I'll even make or there only available crazy hours or a few hours here and there. I need the standard 8a-5p and due to their health issues I can't use a center and need a private sitter. I figured with a city this size I'd find someone fairly easy but in 2 weeks of running ads nothing I have to interview one next week but it sounds like she's already overwhelmed with her toddler alone forget adding a home schooled 7 yr old who she'd have to do 1-2 hours of work a day with and an 18 month old plus her own child. We applied for aid and it doesn't even cover the rent and this is the cheapest place I could find that didn't have gang bangers for next door neighbors (literally). xmas is almost here and outside of a couple of playsilk blanks I ordered and a robe we have nothing My dad is supposed to be getting a play kitchen for the baby and a huge doll house for dd but knowing him he's going to do what he does every year and give me the money at the last minute when there's no more toys on the shelves and that's IF he remembers at all. Year before last he totally forgot xmas all together! I don't know what my moms getting them. I feel like I'm failing my kids I know I shouldn't complain, we have food, the bills will be paid this month and we have enough clothes to stay warm but right now I'm freaking out about what happens come January if I haven't found a sitter yet? I've come this far manifesting a bunch of stuff and I know I need to work on manifesting a sitter but for tonight I just need to freak out some more ya know? Get it out of my system and hopefully tomorrow will be better

. I hope you find a reliable sitter soon. Heres some sitter

Originally Posted by LankyLizards

Wow, Satori, that is such a tough situation. I hope you are able to finsd a sitter and a job.

Nature, your friend sounds very...um...non-supportive or understanding of you. Crazy.

Ok, it's 5 am and I haven't been to sleep yet. So, I'm going now. I hung out with a friend, though which was pretty fun. But I'm exhausted. More tomorrow.

Hi LL, Have you made your pro/con list yet? We live in that type of situation, we are caretakers of our Meeting House. It is the only thing that has kept me sane for this past year is the knowledge that at least my kids have a roof over their heads and no gas/electric/water bills to worry about. I manage to make about $125 - $175 a week with childcare but it's not reliable, I don't earn on holidays or if the kids are sick. Yes there are rules, no alcohol, no pets etc but I actually really enjoy being here and have found it to be a wonderfully supportive community IRL.

[QUOTE=shayinme;9881017
No, the truth is I am poor in large part because I used to think that the more money we made meant we should spend more and that is exactly what I did.

I can almost guarantee you that should your friend lose a job or two she will discover the error of her ways , hell I did.. but hey to each his own. Sorry for the rant but that type of thinking pisses me off.

Well it is cold this morning, on the bright side the little one is sleeping late so I have been able to get up and enjoy a cup of coffee and apple in peace and some uninteruppted computer time, so life is good.

Shay[/QUOTE]

Good morning Shay, hope you enjoyed your coffee in peace. I too love that rare time when I am the only one awake, mind you I usually use it to catch up on email or MDC! I've always wanted to live in Maine, even though I've never even been there!!!!

Originally Posted by bwylde

I lurk and have posted but haven't stuck around much. We're very low income. DH works part time as a grocery store clerk and I am unable to work for a number of reasons. I've been kind of down lately as no one understands what it truly is like to be poor and know that will be your life...forever!

Well as for what I'm planning on doing to make things better is I want to keep the apartment cleaner and more looked after. I suffer badly from depression and often let things go. I always feel better when things look better. You don't need to spend money to put things away or dust . I want to haul out the decorations soon and go all out making things looks festive, even if they don't always feel it. I want to give my kids a great Christmas that isn't dependent on money, but is based on love.

Welcome, I too feel better when the apartment is tidy but I'm also realising that sometimes I don't get to the other important things because by the time I have cleaned I have no time or energy left for anything else! I'm sorry things are so difficult. What size is your daughter?

Three things I am grateful for:-
1) extra childcare work this week meaning extra $$$
2)Nana Susan who is coming in 30 mins to take ME out to breakfast!
3)my wonderful dc who remind me why we do all this.

I'll have to think over what I will do to make things better. I have an idea but it's not fully formulated.

Bye

[bwylde]

Originally Posted by momma earthical

Welcome, I too feel better when the apartment is tidy but I'm also realising that sometimes I don't get to the other important things because by the time I have cleaned I have no time or energy left for anything else! I'm sorry things are so difficult. What size is your daughter?

Thank you and everyone else for the welcomes . I know what you mean about the energy thing which is a big struggle for me.

DD is tricky for size as she's so hard to fit. She is in everything from size 3 to 8 depending on how it's made (average size is about a 6 to fit everything right). I have to try everything on her which makes buying things hard. She has proportionally short stocky legs and a long, thin torso with slightly chunky arms, which makes fitting things hard.

I just got an email that my shoes are in and I can't wait. Knowing my luck they won't fit. I just can't wait to walk in comfort and safety again!!

I have read over more of what others have wrote about their lives and I see so much in common with others. I'm so grateful for all the great examples of endurance and strength here

[Nature]

I just wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate you. You mamas are the best.

[mum4boys]

Originally Posted by Nature

I just wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate you. You mamas are the best.

AW

[slvsquared]

Subbing....maybe I can post more and lurk less this month. Hmm...that could be my something to work on

[s_kristina]

Belleweather- I've got a coupon for $10 of a few kinds of sonicare toothbrushes. It lists the Flexcare, Elite or Essence. I don't know how much they cost so I don't know if the $10 off would help any. It's good through 5/31/08 so let me know if you want it. I had to find out where ds hit that after I opened up the box the toothbrush came in.

I've got the money for rent sitting here and dh has work for at least another week or 2. I also got a check from a survey company this week that I wasn't expecting until the end of the month. Not a ton of money, but nice on a week that is going to be tight. I also got an email from my bank saying I'll be getting a cash back bonus in to my checking next Friday for my keep the change stuff. The savings account is currently overdrawn thanks to monthly fees, but the little extra is nice especially since it should show up on my bday. On the less fun side of things both kids are about to need new shoes. Not a big issue with ds in toddler sizes, but finding a kids size 3 with velcro straps that we can afford might make me crazy! I've also got a pile of sewing I need to get to, but haven't done a thing with yet. I might lock dh and the kids outside this afternoon and tomorrow so I can get some work done in peace. It's supposed to be upper 70's to around 80 today and tomorrow so I'm not talking about locking them out in cold weather or anything

[Thystle]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[sarah_bella1050]

I haven't posted on one of these threads for awhile now, not since the first couple. They just got so big so fast that I didn't feel I could catch up. So I"m subbing now, even though I haven't read the whole thing.

So, yeah we're low income, on FS and MediCal. Dh is in school, just finishing up his pre-reqs for the nursing program. As of the end of this month though he will be done until the nursing program stars (8 months-20 months from now). Pretty soon he will have to shave off his mohawk and get a better job. The job he's in right now doesn't pay a whole lot, but he gets to work night, and back to backs and he can do homework there. I don't know where he will end up working but I hope he will be able to make more then $1100-$1300 a month which is what he makes now. We have plenty of food, a nice cozy home, and are really happy, seriously REALLY happy.

[ediesmom]

so.....someone I was having a discussion with this morning said i was "mary poppins, with a potty mouth"

well, I am a bit of a do gooder, but mary poppins....and i don't recall MP saying the 'f' word

slvsquared....i've seen you lurking


and sara bella...we need all the support we can get (and we give good stuff, too)

i second nature's "i love you guys' sentiment. its amazing the comraderie on this thread. Im never embarrassed of my finances here. in my world, thats important. Out here, poverty defines me (negatively). Here on this thread, my poverty isn't a shameful thing.

and i am grateful

[DuchsLove]

Hi Ladies...

SUPER busy between packing a work this weekend. That said, something AWESOME happened to me in work last night. I'll be back later to share.

Also, thanks for all the prayers/good thoughts. R is feeling much better. Thank goodness.

[natural_mama89]

Hey guys!!!! My internet was shut off for a few days, but, we obviously have it back now. I don't know if we are even going to be able to pay our rent this month. It sucks to have to choose between paying rent or bills. Luckily, our landlady is a friend of ours and will probably be okay with us paying her back later when we can handle it. We need to start looking for a place. We might end up having to stay with DP's parents for a little bit, but I hope not. Their house is tiny and dirty, and all my efforts to keep it clean when we lived there before failed. Like, I bought a hamper for the bathroom so there would not be clothes and towels all over the floor, and they still ended up all over the floor. It was unbelievably frustrating and depressing.

This month I would like to work on little things to make my family closer and happier. I yell at DS too much :. I really don't mean to; everything is just so hard. Like yesterday DP bought Angel some Elmo cups even though we can't afford it because he wanted to get him something special because he doesn't often get treats or anything. Well, I put some milk in it for him and I had to go nurse Iris because she was SCREAMING. I came back out into the living room and he had taken off the lid and dumped the whole cup on the floor. : probably just postpartum hormones, but it made me want to cry. But I have been trying to tell him stop instead of no and be more patient and things. We have also started sitting at the table together to eat. It is a small step, but I think it is some good "family time". I just don't know how how we are going to make it through the next couple months with finding a new place and paying off our current bills. it makes me : thinking about it. I am soooooo thankful for the Holdliday Helpers, though. I am amazed by the things I have gotten. I got some wool nursing pads that I LOVE, and I am supposed to be getting a GC to get nursing clothes!!! I would never have enough money to go buy clothes specifically for nursing!!!! DS also got some really nice Lands End boots and I have gotten some wonderful diapers for the babe. Each package I have gotten made me .

[shayinme]

Welcome to the new Mamas, this is a great group. I was initially skittish about joining but the cameraderie of the group the past few weeks has really meant a lot to me.

Well today got off to a rocky starty but has gotten better, I talked to my Dad today who initally offered to send me some cash but made me feel so bad I was like just keep it. Long story short riding me about trying to take a basic job when I have degrees : (degrees don't feed us). My dad is a minister and since my Mom passed 3.5 years ago he had had issues but basically he alienates me and my brother.

Anyway we went to take dd to get boots and dh's larger client check had arrived while the bank was still open so it means I can do bills. We had lunch, took dd to see Santa but the best thing was ds who lives with his Dad at the moment just IM'd me that he has been doing some work for his Dad and wants to buy me these rather expensive boots I was pining away about last week at that mall visit. I was blown away, they are $140 and he told me he's like to get them for my Christmas present. I was blown away and just started crying, its not even the boots its the fact that my son would do something like that for Mama. You scrape and scuffle to do for the kids and one day they do for you , heck I was happy about the Cinnabon he bought me last week.

Anyway off to play while dd finishes her nap.

Shay

[JamesMama]

Originally Posted by Nature

:

[/B][/I]I told her I was only trying to help and I'd shut up now.. she just laughed.

Ya, I'm gonna go cry now..



somehow I feel like a huge loser now.

You aren't a looser! What a nice 'friend' to make you feel so terrible for trying to help her out of a tough situation.

Originally Posted by Crunchy Doula

Hello Ladies!

I thought I would wait till the new thread to introduce myself. My name is Jessica and I am married and we have a beautiful 15 month old together!

Welcome!!

Originally Posted by justmama

So we've been on the recieving end of a TON of generosity lately!

Thats wonderful!!

Originally Posted by Nature

My husband apparently has an excuse to be "that way" because he has mental issues. Yes, he has ADD but I was trying to agree with her frustration about food.. I was telling her something we had in common... and instead, she started telling me things like, "Yes but my dh is normal. Yours isn't. Thats why he's always depressed and stuff. Your dh is messed up. Mines not, he just acts it." .........

: I told her I was going to bed and logged out.

Ever feel like someone is knocking you down and continually kicking you in the head for no reason? wow tonight sucks.

Thanks for all the hugs mamas.

OMGosh...what crap.

Originally Posted by Iris' Mom

Hi, all. I'm joining in.

Welcome and many many hugs to you. Good luck with your appeal.

Originally Posted by SherryR

Hi. I hope you don't mind my "crashing" your thread. I've been lurking around but always was too overwhelmed to post anything.

Welcome!

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

Hi everyone! I am exhausted so I will reply to everyone tomorrow. I just wanted to ask for prayers (good vibes, etc.) for DS2. He was exposed to mennigococcal mennigitis at his preschool yesterday. We took him for an antibiotic shot at the hospital outpatient center (that goodness for Medi-Cal) and now we just have to wait & hope the antibiotics work and he doesn't get sick. He has a history of being immunocompromised so I'm trying hard not to freak out. to all

Many prayers to your DS. I hope he stays healthy.


We might have gotten some GOOD news! Dh called the company that issued the garnishment and they were REALLY nice about it. He explained to them that I'm unable to work (2 kids, can't afford daycare), and we have 2 kids, one a brand new baby, he's Type 1 diabetic with over $200 in necessary medication expenses every month...etc and they were REALLY understanding. Said that so long as we're willing to work with them they're willing to work with us. They are going to have their attorney call DH back on Monday and discuss a different arrangement. We're hoping we can drop the garnishment from 20% to maybe $25 or something a week. If DH gets zero overtime that leaves us with enough money to buy food and diapers and stuff. YEA!!! $50 will be cutting it REALLY REALLY close so I'm hoping we can get $25. I'm sending Josh with a detailed list of our bills. So that he can talk those over with the attorney and stuff. I'm sure they'll think some of them are unnecessary ($48 for cable/internet, $30 for storage unit since our apt is too small, $24 for life insurance) but o'well. So please send "Be understanding" vibes. We can handle $25 a week. It will be tight, but at least we'll be able to pay our bills and eat.

[Fruitful4Him]

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

Hi everyone! I am exhausted so I will reply to everyone tomorrow. I just wanted to ask for prayers (good vibes, etc.) for DS2. He was exposed to mennigococcal mennigitis at his preschool yesterday. We took him for an antibiotic shot at the hospital outpatient center (that goodness for Medi-Cal) and now we just have to wait & hope the antibiotics work and he doesn't get sick. He has a history of being immunocompromised so I'm trying hard not to freak out. to all

Wow, how scary for you momma (worrying about your son being exposed being immune compromised, etc). I hope that everything turns out okay an dthat he doesnt get sick and that you don't make yourself sick worrying. ((hugs))

I am editing to add some things I am thankful for, as well as something I can work on this month.

Thankful for..

1.) We had folding chairs at our kitchen table..the kids basically rode them into the ground, LOL.. we didn't have enough chairs to eat as a family and couldn't afford new folding chairs even. Well, my dh borrowed some tools from his dad and between a coupn for Lowe's and some scrimping, was able to get some inexpensive wood and build 2 long benches so that our family could eat a meal as a family again! Very frugal and very appreciated.
2.) I am thankful that our recertification went through smoothly for our food stamps (last time it didn't and we went 3 months without while it was sorted out..put us in massively more debt since we were losing over 500 a month in food!). The thought of having to stand in line at food pantries at 8+ months pregnant with 4 children and then postpartum.. gave me grey hair. I am so thankful for food to feed my children without the worry of going without.
3.) I am thankful that our rent will be paid on time this month.
4.) Thankful for my health, my children's health.. and that dh is not having any major issues with his ruematoid flaring right now.

This month I will be working on enjoying the time I have with my family before the birth. I know things will get busy and maybe stressful for a few weeks after the birth, and so I am trying to do more quality time while I can.. just enjoying the littles. (ages 8,7,almost 5, and 2). I am really trying to not let life stress get to me and to just live each day to its fullest.. even if that means that some things don't get done so that I can spend extra time lovin on these kids. It is not easy for me..so.. that is what I am focusing on now.

[Belleweather]

Originally Posted by Thystle

I have a new "challenge" to ponder.... post or keep to yourself *one* thing you will do to better yourself in some way this coming month.

I need to slow down. I'm less than 30 days (YIKES!) from my due date and just not doing much to ground and get ready for this new kidlet. And I know that I've got prepartum depression/anxiety which is going to work really hard to turn into postpartum depression if I don't get a handle on things. So yeah, I'm going to focus on emotional preventative medicine this month.

Originally Posted by Iris' Mom

Right now, I am taking withdrawals from my 401K to meet expenses for several reasons: dd was going to graduate in May, and I didn't want to transfer her senior year; my house is under water, and I can't afford to pay any shortfall if I sell now; I sent my resume around, and I'm hoping there is some job I can perform in spite of my bipolar; law is one profession where a bankruptcy is really bad, and I worked too, too hard to get my degree to take any step that would ruin my chances of ever practicing again; I may win my discrimination complaint against my disability insurer; or I may win the lottery.

Until any of those happen, though, I'm really, really struggling, and could sure use some support! And, I hope I can offer other low-income/struggling mamas as well.

Hey Maureen. I'm an attorney as well, so I totally understand where you're coming from with trying to do everything you can to avoid bankruptcy, and how tough it is to have a fancy degree and be stuck struggling and trying to make ends meet.

Originally Posted by Aura_Kitten

My points of gratitude / happy things:
1. I finished my NaNoWriMo novella!!! 50,730 words.

I'm SO proud of you for finishing! YAY! I did Nano 3 times and 'won' once, and I remember how tough it was to get those 50,000 words out... and I didn't have a kid then. Just wanted to say that you're a total rockstar!

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

Hi everyone! I am exhausted so I will reply to everyone tomorrow. I just wanted to ask for prayers (good vibes, etc.) for DS2. He was exposed to mennigococcal mennigitis at his preschool yesterday. We took him for an antibiotic shot at the hospital outpatient center (that goodness for Medi-Cal) and now we just have to wait & hope the antibiotics work and he doesn't get sick. He has a history of being immunocompromised so I'm trying hard not to freak out. to all

Oh no! Please keep us updated, and we'll be praying he's okay.

Originally Posted by s_kristina

Belleweather- I've got a coupon for $10 of a few kinds of sonicare toothbrushes. It lists the Flexcare, Elite or Essence. I don't know how much they cost so I don't know if the $10 off would help any. It's good through 5/31/08 so let me know if you want it. I had to find out where ds hit that after I opened up the box the toothbrush came in.

Thanks for the thought! DH actually managed to get it working again, but I don't know how temporary that might be... I'm hoping we'll find one under the tree on Christmas morning. And wow... how boring does that make me, that I'm wishing for a TOOTHBRUSH for Christmas? :

*

As for us, today is a tough day. Medicaid got screwed up, so DH was a few days without his medicine which always makes things SO HARD. He boomerangs really badly... he's way better with the meds, but when he doesn't have them he's actually far worse than his unmedicated self to the point that he can't do anything that involves concentration, even just having a conversation with me is too tough. So we're watching videos and playing video games all day.

Plus, the weather is the absolute pits and we had to be out in it for about 3 hours this morning to get DH's medicine. Since it's controlled, he has to get a written prescription and then take it across town to get it filled... all on icy, nasty roads with DS and I in the car. We're staying home and eating soup for the rest of the weekend, though!

Also, my mom came while I was on my business trip and totally rocked our house! She got a ton of cleaning done for the baby, took care of the remainder of the freezer debacle including getting the old freezer disposed of, and actually bought DH and I a King-sized bed as an early Holiday present... I was oogling one on Craigslist and she said if they'd give it to us, she'd pay for it because it was such a good deal ($100 for frame, box spring, mattress, and 2 sets of sheets). It turned out to be just a few blocks away, so she and DH picked it up and it was waiting for me when I got home. She and DH took care of a ton of pre-baby chores, and she left us with homemade bread and soup to eat for the weekend. I feel so loved.

[mrskennedy]

Let me just say...
I feel like !
My self-bettering thing is going to be finding a good, normal sleep schedule--getting up and going to bed at the same time every day, and it being something other than getting up at noon or later and not going to bed until 4:00 AM! :
I need help, hugs, whatever you can offer.
Thanks mamas!

[shayinme]

Originally Posted by CaliMommie

Hi everyone! I am exhausted so I will reply to everyone tomorrow. I just wanted to ask for prayers (good vibes, etc.) for DS2. He was exposed to mennigococcal mennigitis at his preschool yesterday. We took him for an antibiotic shot at the hospital outpatient center (that goodness for Medi-Cal) and now we just have to wait & hope the antibiotics work and he doesn't get sick. He has a history of being immunocompromised so I'm trying hard not to freak out. to all

Hope you are getting rest, and will say some prayers for your ds..

Shay

[Thystle]

All you mama's remember this:


You are NOT your surroundings.

You are NOT your clothes.

You are NOT your home.

You are NOT your current situation.

You are NOT your bank account.

And you are NOT the sum of what one single person (stranger, friend, or family) thinks or says of you.



YOU are what YOU make of yourself and ONLY YOU can give that power away to others.


You are worthy. Don't "allow" others to "take" that from you!

[Purple*Lotus]

Hi all For those who don't know me, I am Jaime and I fit in to the "Large amounts of debt" catagory

Can I use just coming off of a 24 hour shift as an excuse not to read all of those posts I missed :

I did catch this one, and...

Originally Posted by Nature

[/B][/I]I told her I was only trying to help and I'd shut up now.. she just laughed.

Ya, I'm gonna go cry now..



somehow I feel like a huge loser now.

I went through something similar last night. A friend was complaining about how poor she was, so I start offering to help her trim costs. I was willing to look at her grocery list, etc, to see what she could eliminate, etc. Well she got moody with me about it, like what? I am only trying to help, take it or leave it, you know? :

I am sorry your friend did that to you. That stinks You are a nice friend to offer to help her though!!!

Originally Posted by amydidit

Hmm, not much to say tonight. I'm feeling kind of tired and desperately not wanting to go back to work tomorrow ~sighs~ It is so frustrating to be working so blasted hard and full time and still not being able to get caught up.

Jaime, the box came today... thank you so much! I haven't had a chance to try it all on but I think it'll all be great ~smiles~

Glad you got it