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DH and Rowan have taken off for the day, so I have a day to myself!
Jason took Brynn for the morning too, so I was able to clean without any disruption, AND I got to listen to my music really loud, which always makes me really happy. In fact, I realized about half-hour after they left that I was suddenly in a better mood than I've been in for over a week (maybe more) and I realized it was because I was cleaning! How sick am I?!! And the bonus is that they had a wonderful time, too, and Jason is feeling really high about a good bonding day with Brynn. He's actually holding her while she naps because he doesn't want to put her down.


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I did the no starch or sugar thing at the beginning of December but I found it made my brain stop working, so I stopped.
I did that a few years ago, more for blood-sugar control than weight, and it made me *really* grouchy. I have no doubt I'm addicted to sugar, but I think I'm a bit too wimpy to actually deal with it. : But honestly, I think it's a quality of life thing; if I can't have a little morsel of chocolate every day, or had to cut out carbs drastically? I think it would just consume my thoughts and wouldn't be worth whatever benefits might result. So I'm just going for moderation and exercise, and we'll see how it goes!

Helen, man I remember that feeling of "very" pregnant. Oh yes. Definitely take it easy, even if it is another 6 weeks. You can make it!

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No Fern- does this mean babymoon?
Oooh, wouldn't that be exciting?!

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Originally Posted by Queen of Cups
Our Christmas Eve/Christmas Day was wonderful! Great time at my parents, FABULOUS time at home just ourselves for Christmas morning, and then a pretty good time at the in-laws.
That is so great, Jen! I'm really glad. And even though I'm sure it was not fun to have a sick Ellie, it's kind of cool that you didn't have to travel to the in-laws. I'm glad she's feeling better now and it wasn't rotavirus. Oh and as for the laundry thing - when Brynn and I had it simultaneously (at my in-laws last Thanksgiving) we soiled *every* sheet and towel in the house. It was non-stop laundry! One thing my S-MIL does is keep several of those plastic shower-curtain liners around for those episodes; you just lay it on the floor near where you are laying, and hurl on that. Much easier for clean-up.

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Originally Posted by barcelona
i have been having baby cravings physically, but in my mind, i know i'm not ready/that this would not be a good time to get pregnant. ah, the battle 'tween body and mind...and i'm not sure where my heart works into that. ... i am hoping and trusting that when the next wee one is coming, i'll have that feeling again. i am trying to stay open to being able to feel him/her.
I really relate to the spirituality of your feelings. One of the reasons I have always said that we aren't going to have another baby is because I have never felt another baby in my heart. I really do believe that if/when someone feels that, it is just like you said - your baby is ready to come and be with you. It gives me goosebumps just to think about it!!! I did have an episode last week that I finally confessed to Jason - I'd been having baby (including pregnancy) cravings for a few days. We talked about it though, and both agreed that having another baby while we are here (with no family close-by) would just be too damn hard and that if it is something we want to do, we'd have to change our plans majorly, sell the house, and move to Texas or Oregon. I seriously can't face THAT, so...no more baby cravings for me! Although honestly, if it became intense, we would figure it out. Now it's just more of an inkling than a lust!

Oh - and a couples massage! How decadent! We had one on our honeymoon and it was sooo heavenly. Hot stones, scented oils...mmmm! Sign me up! Oh that reminds me - I am trying to hatch a secret plan for either Valentine's day or our anniversary (June 5th) to have MIL come up and stay with Brynn for the night so that Jason and I can go stay in a hotel! I'm sure my MIL will do it, so it looks like it is going to happen. Yay! It's months away, either way, but I am already getting excited about it.

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Originally Posted by MelW
I'm not on a weight loss campaign, but really want to keep running and stay fit in 08, so I'm in with the exercising mamas. I would love to be triathlon-ready by summer, but don't know if I can realistically get much swimming done.
Um, you rock. I am so envious of athletic women! (I am totally not.) Tell us if you do because I will so be cheering for you! I'm glad you had a nice holiday too. Brynn was asking for the Grinch daily too (after seeing it ONCE!) but she's pretty much forgotten it now, thank God. TV is *so* addictive. I was telling Kavita yesterday that if we let her watch one show, she will ask for it for DAYS before she forgets about it again. So imagine how super happy I was that MIL sent Brynn two DVDs for Christmas, both of which with dinosaurs on the package. Thanks so much! Gah.

Wow, didn't realize I was so chatty! OK back to organizing.
post #222 of 243
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Um, you rock. I am so envious of athletic women! (I am totally not.) Tell us if you do because I will so be cheering for you!
I'm flattered by the thought, but I'm hardly an athletic woman! I'm ssslow and short, but have decent endurance and enough stupid stubborness to slowly finish a short triathlon.

We're doing two year molars right now; Neela's trying to pacify herself by chewing on the laptop : Didn't someone's kiddo ruin their keyboard with drool?
post #223 of 243
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No Fern- does this mean babymoon?
no it means im in massive pain from a toothache and im barely able to function.. but today is a bit better so im checking in.

glad you are feeling better helen. i was worried about you!

to all of you who had rad christmas's.. to those who didnt. ours was ok.. nothing super exciting but it didnt leave a bad taste in my mouth. we were all pretty sick, so it was low key.

i cant really keep up here right now. i feel so lame.. its been one complaint after another, but seriously ive never been in more pain in my life, bar none.
i caved in and am on antibiotics, the last thing i want so close to baby having but i t had to be done.. so hopefully it will work and ill recover.

love to you all..and i will tell you when baby comes. dont worry!
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I'm on antibiotics too, and I swear, the side effects are worse than the ailment. I wouldn't mind so much if my feet had deswelled even a tiny bit, but they're still hobbitlike and my BP is still high but now I have the yeastie beasties as well Just sleep. Is the dentist going to pull the tooth for you?

I am so jealous of you triathlon running mamas, and the get fit crew. Can you try and stick to it until April when I can join in?
post #225 of 243
Helen and Fern!!!

I feel like I've been sicker this pg than ever before. As soon as I get over one illness, I have a week and some change before the next one hits. I'm still thoroughly exhausted from the sinus infection that is almost gone. I'm so glad it didn't involve my tooth. i actually spent a few hours with cotton balls soaked in oil of cajeput on my gums because of the throbbing and pain with any movement. Between that and the homeopathics, it seems to finally be clearing out.
I'm almost all caught up on posts here but just don't have the energy to respond.

Mel & Kavita... we're getting our worms for composting next week!!! We got a little Christmas money so we get to get things WE need/want. And it's about time we get an actual composting system in place (as opposed to just throwing scraps -food & lawn- on a pile in the backyard :
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monique- yay for composting! when we moved into our house, there was a huge existing compost pile. so, we're a bit spoiled by having that already in place. we've just been composting ever since.

check out my new sig, mamas! i finally made the leap and opened an etsy shop about a week ago. then, i paid for the MDC advertising for the next three months so i can give it a go. see how things work before this babe makes it's entrance. I haven't had any sales, yet but hopefully soon! maybe the week of the holidays wasn't the best time to get started. there is no way i can compete with established etsy sellers. some really fabulous stuff is out there!

tomorrow is dh's birthday! he'll be 31 on the 31st so it's his golden year. woo hoo! exciting to see what the year brings!

i had some serious BHX the other morning and later that night as i was trying to sleep. plus, some cramping. i am 31 weeks. it was kinda scary at the time but all is well now. i took rescue remedy, guzzled water and RRL tea then ate some toast and prayed for the babe to stay inside!
post #227 of 243
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I'm slow and short, but have decent endurance and enough stupid stubbornness to slowly finish a short triathlon.
Mel, this made me smile! I feel much the same way, only I am horrible at riding bicycles, and so my stubbornness adds a few blocks to my evening walk to make it exactly 2 miles.

G, your jewelry is stunning! It's so bold! I especially love Green and Red Fertility and Amber Pregnancy. Gorgeous.

Do any of you read the Utne Reader (besides Mary, who I know does!)? I just finished reading an amazing article called "Love Your Fat Self," an excerpt from Courtney E. Martin's new book Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters. It was a revelation. I'm making photocopies to send to all the women in my life. Here's a quote where Martin is talking about our own inner voices of hate and fear, the almost unconscious judgments we make about those around us, and the out-loud comments that people have the audacity to make to us:

"It is a daily struggle not to listen to the voices--the furtive whispers, the outdated instincts--that try to slip under the radar. But it makes me feel more generous. It makes me feel less scrutinized myself. Sometimes I sit on a subway car and look at every woman purposefully and lovingly--as if she were my mother or my best friend. It is breathtaking how beautiful they all are when I see like this."

OK, I'm off for my walk in this nowhere-close-to-December heat and humidity. Will some of you northern gals send me some snowy thoughts?

ETA: Well, as soon as I had the boy strapped onto my back the torrents began. So we're waiting it out.

Fern and Helen, I'm so sorry about y'all being sick. I had to go on antibiotics for a UTI while pregnant with Woody, and I hated it. Fern, I don't know if this information will be helpful to you or not, but after I got my cavities filled in August, I switched to a Tom's of Maine natural, fluoride-free sensitivity toothpaste. So far I think it's helped some...
post #228 of 243
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I am so jealous of you triathlon running mamas, and the get fit crew. Can you try and stick to it until April when I can join in?
Don't worry Helen, I'll still be at it in April! (Albeit looking spiffier in my workout attire. I hope. )

Teresa, I picked up the Utne Reader this month just for that article! It was great. (Although I subsequently became a bit peeved at the whole magazine because I read that "Portrait of the Artist as a Kindergartner" and laughed so hard I spilled tea all over the couch.) I actually do make a conscious effort to think more charitable, happy thoughts about people all over the place, if I catch myself subconsciously judging, and it does make a difference.

Helen, Fern and Monique - I hope you all feel better soon. I feel so lucky this fall to have only had one cold. Rowan is recovering from one, but I didn't get it, thanks I think to the massive overdoses of echinacea I took. I heartily recommend overdoses of echinacea. I think I was taking 5X2500 mg, three times a day. It did the trick. I don't want to know what it did to my liver though.

And speaking of unseasonalities (Teresa was in case this looks like a non sequitur) - it is COLD here today, my friends and I were slapped in the face with wet snow this morning on our weekly walk - but we saw snowdrops in bloom. I think they were kind of premature, hopelessly optimistic snowdrops, but, nevertheless, there they were. Which reminds me, it's time for the annual gloating phone call to my mom in the Yukon, where it was -24C this morning. Hee.

In other news, DH is applying for a job in New Mexico. Eeeek!
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I just finished reading an amazing article called "Love Your Fat Self," an excerpt from Courtney E. Martin's new book Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters
That reminded me of a really awesome book I read called 101 Ways to Help Your Daughter Love Her Body by Brenda Lane Richardson. It is so eye-opening and insightful. I think about it a lot, actually, in just day-to-day interactions with Brynn. I would recommend it to anyone who has a daughter - and it's not just for moms, either; it has a section to be read by fathers, too, which is really on-point. It talks a lot about how a father's view of women has a huge impact on his daughter, down to what TV shows he watches, what comments he makes about other women, and how accepting he is of the mother's body and eating habits. Anyway, read it!!

Speaking of reading, I'm off to go start reading my how-to-knit book.
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I think I found the article ya'll are talking about, is this it?

http://www.utne.com/2008-01-01/Polit...-Fat-Self.aspx

Off to read it!
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Nice article- but I'm still waiting for someone to write something coherent about being a fat mother. My body rocks. It's conceived 10 children, carried three of them to term, fed all three and it has another one growing inside of it right now. Yeah, OK, I finally put some weight on this pregnancy (I put on a stone the same week that my ankles swelled. Coincidence?) which takes me off the scales. This'll change, if and when I want it to, because I have ultimate control over how much I eat, how much I exercise and therefore how big I am. My relationship with food, however, became a million times more energetically charged the day that I realised my third kid lacked a penis, because I can feel this very real societal pressure to not have a fat daughter, to say "no more cake" when she asks for a second slice, to make her be- what, exactly? This pressure isn't coming from the media, either, it's from thinking women who really should know better :
She's still being unfooded, btw, and she's not overweight.
post #232 of 243
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She's still being unfooded,
What does that mean?

I've had similar thoughts about how awesome my body is, Helen, and that I shouldn't feel too bad about the fact that I weight ~15 pounds more than I did before I got pregnant. I mean, shoot, 10 pouds of that is probably in my boobs!!

Gunter, congratulations on your etsy shop!! Your necklaces are all beautiful. I especially love the amber beads - so pretty! I'll send a few friends your way.

Spughy - New Mexico! Wow, that would be a change, wouldn't it? A cousin of mine is moving to Santa Fe at the end of January; which city would you be moving to? I seriously cannot picture you there, what with how much you love your life now. But I'm sure you would be happy there too, if that's where you all are meant to be.

Monique, we're composting too! I got DH a big ol' Rubbermade bin, and Kavita gifted us a bunch of worms, so we're got started this week. I'm excited about it!
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Gosh, weight is such a complicated issue, isn't it? My sister and I just cannot understand each other at all on this topic. We share so many of the same interests and opinions, but when it comes to weight we're at odds. I'm a size 4/6 always wanting to be smaller, she's a size 16 who's perfectly happy. I worry about her health, though, because she avoids exercise and vegetables like the plague, and she worries about me because I'm always concerned with loosing weight. Which of us is right? Are we both? She gets annoyed because she thinks I'm caving to societal pressure, but my point is always that at least I'm healthy! I eat great and workout 50+ minutes a day, every day. And, somehow her saying, "I like having really big boobs!" is a perfectly acceptable reason for her to maintain her weight, but me saying, "I like having a flat tummy!" is shallow and not a reason to maintain my weight, according to her. At the moment I'm certainly not going to waist away, at my lowest weight ever (in the throes of an eating disorder) I was 117 lbs, which at 5'4" is not drastically low on most people, but with my body type (very muscled) it was a size 2 at most. Right now I'm a good 20 lbs over that, and I'm not comfortable at this weight at all. I've gained between 5-10 lbs since starting back on birth control and its just been kicking my butt trying to loose it... but having kids has "cured" me of my eating disorder on some level. I can no longer just stop eating, I just can't handle it when I'm nursing - especially tandem nursing! I get light-headed and painfully hungry so quickly, and I have to be able to function and be clear-headed in order to take care of my kids. So, while the destructive thoughts are there, I finally have the ability to not act on them. But, I wish the thoughts would go away AND that I could loose 15 lbs instantly. Yep, I'm messed up.

On a happier note, we continue to have NO PUKIES here! Hallelujah! Tonight my in-laws are coming over for awhile and then going home, and then my parents and sister are coming over to party till Midnight. (my in-laws have decided they're too old to stay up that late or drive after dark) I'm excited, we'll be watching movies, playing board games, and eating munchies. I have a shrimp ring, I'm making whole wheat cheese ravioli from scratch, and I'm putting out all the Christmas candy in the hopes others will eat it all! I'm hoping the kids will go to bed about their usual time, and then the adults can watch a movie rated over G. What's everyone else doing tonight?

Oh! I organized the playroom with DH last night. He said it felt like some kind of weird "Reverse Santa" to be boxing up old toys to throw out/ put in storage. But its so much nicer and organized and finally everything is out of boxes - which is key since both sets of grandparents are coming over today! Today I have to run a couple errands, and clean our bedrooms, but that's about it. Should be a fun, low-key day!

Sorry for the novel-length-post!
post #234 of 243
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Gosh, weight is such a complicated issue, isn't it?...And, somehow her saying, "I like having really big boobs!" is a perfectly acceptable reason for her to maintain her weight, but me saying, "I like having a flat tummy!" is shallow and not a reason to maintain my weight, according to her.
I think this article resonated so strongly with me for the reason you mentioned above; it touched on the fact that judging based on anything physical is perpetuating the problem, just that fatness happens to be the current national obsession. It reminds me of the argument that sexism keeps both sexes down, oppressing women but also keeping men from realizing their own potentials as equal partners in full and meaningful relationships.

Flapjack and Amy, hell yea! I'll always join the cheering section for mama bodies. My mom and I were joking the other day about the lasting changes that aren't as visible and talked about as, say, stretch marks or a few extra pounds; our shared example was slightly more...uh...flexible [read flappy] labia! We talked about how those changes are what remind us of the awe-inspiring feats that our bodies accomplished.

And Woody's on a kind of praying mantis kick at the moment, so we spent the morning reading about them in our bug books. And, coincidentally, while thinking all these other thoughts, I read that the female praying mantis liquidates her own vital organs while producing her eggs to provide them the nourishment they need, and that she dies within hours or days of laying the eggs. And, bless these little scientist authors, that it is unfair to scorn the female praying mantis for eating her mate shortly after copulation since he is far better used for the perpetuation of the species as food for the babies he just made than as a potential mate for yet another praying mantis.

I'm digging the life cycle today.
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Yeah, the weight issue. Sigh.

I'm trying my damndest to make it all about feeling good. My motivation for losing weight isn't so much the way I look, although to be honest that's part of it. I am just so gosh darn CUTE when I am tiny. But it's more about being cheap (my fat clothes are wearing out, my thin clothes have some life in them, mostly because they're better quality because I was all rich and employed when I bought them), wanting my back to stop hurting, wanting to be able to do those fun upside-down pilates moves again (I just can't with the tummy flab in the way), wanting to be *happy* about it when Rowan wants to run to the grocery store, and wanting, above all, to be just physically STRONG. There is obviously a limit to how strong I can get, being only 5' tall, but being able to lift a 20kg bag of dog food on one shoulder and carry a child on the other hip would be good. Being able to chase a toddler to the grocery store while having another babe in arms would also be nice. Right now, that ain't happening.

QofC, that's a really interesting dichotomy with you and your sister, but both of you seem to be basing your weight/nutrition goals on what you *look* like, rather than how you feel or what you can do. My family is equally influential in how I feel about my body - my sisters don't have weight problems, and they don't really have weight issues, either - but both are very athletic and I guess part of what I see as optimal attitude/being for women are based on them. They just ENJOY doing things with their body so much, and frankly right now I just don't. One sister has done lots of wilderness guiding and sort of "extreme" sport-type things, and in a month is going off to sail from Mexico to Fiji, the other has a black belt in karate. (Neither of them is short like me though.) I wanna be like that... I'd take kick-ass athletic over thin any day, but I know that when I am fitter, I am thinner - my metabolism doesn't really let me hold on to fat when I develop more muscle.

(The problem is that my sisters have vastly different priorities in life. Neither wants children or aspires to the heights of domestic goddesshood that I do. And, I probably at some point have to concede that a domestic goddess is not a warrior goddess and thus does not need bulging muscles and the ability to rappel down a 200-ft cliff or hike 50km in 2 days.)

I think it is possible, though, to be healthy and fat. There is an undeniable genetic component to weight and there are some people, like a good friend of mine, who are probably always going to be fat no matter what they do, or, if they were to get slim, the sacrifices they'd have to make (like 2 hours at the gym every day, minimal food intake) wouldn't be worth it. I am fortunate that I *can* lose weight easily, but that's not the case for everyone. But even though she's probably 70 lbs heavier than me (and the same height), I wouldn't say my friend is less healthy. She eats the same kind of diet I do, with minimal sugar, lots of fruit and veg, and pastured meats & eggs. She walks a lot, goes to the gym when she can fit it in, sleeps well, and doesn't have any chronic health issues. So, who's to say she's not healthy? Epidemiological studies actually show that heavier people live longer than skinny ones. . So, go figure.

It's a difficult area, to be sure. Helen, I don't know how cake fits into it. I don't like myself when I eat stuff like that *regularly*, because nutrition and good food and health are SO much a part of how I was raised and my interests today... but at the same time I get what you're saying, and I ALMOST agree with it... the only problem, I think, is that some people (um, like me) are more attracted, biologically, to white flour, sugar, HFCS, etc., and there are real behavioural changes in response. Those things aren't natural for our bodies to take in, and they trigger biological responses that make us want more... I hate to say it, but I think if cake is around a lot (which I don't think it is, at your house) the concept of unfooding could be akin, in kind if not in degree, to leaving packets of cigarettes around for the kids to use, or not, as they felt like. I just can't make myself believe that white flour, sugar, transfats, etc. are *benign*. KWIM? I've been brainwashed by the nutrition nazis over in Traditional Foods. Pay no attention to me. I am rambling muchly. But I do like the idea generally of letting kids choose their own food. In our house that leads to massive cheese consumption though, and cheese is expensive here.
post #236 of 243
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QofC, that's a really interesting dichotomy with you and your sister, but both of you seem to be basing your weight/nutrition goals on what you *look* like, rather than how you feel or what you can do.
Well, that was just an example of conversations we have - I don't ONLY exercise and watch what I eat because of wanting to have a flat tummy. I've always been very active and athletic (thought I don't enjoy traditional sports). Hiking, walking, running, cycling, dance/aerobics, weightlifting are all things I do on a weekly basis (seriously!) - because I enjoy them. And several of those are fun to do with my kids, which is a bonus! I've also found that strenuous physical activity is something that really helps me avoid becoming depressed - its necessary for me to stay sane. I'm also kind of a nutrition nut/foodie, too, and that influences my eating habits. I just hope that my kids see all of those reasons and don't ever realize how I feel about food/weight/body image privately. And, I'm with you on the just not having the unhealthy stuff (white sugar/flour) around because I can't say no. I never have junk food in the house and try not to keep more than a few pieces of good dark chocolate around - but there's always some dark chocolate in the house! I go over to my parents' house, though, and its full to the brim of candy, cookies, and every type bread imaginable. And then I'm all annoyed - no wonder my dad was recently diagnosed with Type II diabetes! So, anyway, while I am overly concerned with how I look and want to move past that, that isn't my only focus for staying strong and healthy. Working out is one of the few times that I'm at peace with my body and enjoy it. That in itself is a motivation! When you've just run a few miles, how can you not love your body, you know? But the deal with my sister that I get annoyed about it is that with the fat-acceptance movement comes a backlash against thinner physiques - hence why for some people like my sister its fine to want to maintain an overweight/obese body because you want big womanly breasts, but its mocked if you want to maintain an "ideal" weight (according to BMI) in order to have a flat stomach. You see?

Another book that is awesome to read about body issue stuff is "Real Gorgeous" by Kaz Cooke. I think its geared toward teenagers, actually, but its a really great read and quite funny. I recently read "Look at my Ugly Face!" by Sara Halprin, and that was an excellent look at how we identify with beauty and/or ugliness and the power we derive from each, from a social/cultural standpoint.
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So here's the thing. I've been home from school for the holiday and not traveling since Wednesday, December 26. I made it my mission to totally organize my life and clean my home and belongings. I lasted four days without throwing a fit at dh (for "thwarting" the goals that I had neglected to share with him by not washing his late-night dishes and by dragging the smelly dog blanket into the living room [out of the utility room] so the dogs would be warm). This is not very like me.

I don't know all that much about astrology, but I think my stars are in odds. Being on the cusp of Capricorn, I like order and plans and stability. Being on the far edge of Sagittarius, I like abandoning obligation and living in the moment, this moment, not the work-hard-now-play-later moment. Having a Taurus moon, I love, at my core, good food and being loved and hanging out together with my family.

And I don't know where this fits in my chart, but I am tortured by being tortured about this. Why I can't I just suck it up and clean? I know I'd feel more relaxed in a clean house. Or why can't I just live with my clutter? I enjoy a LOT of things more than organizing. Or why can't I embrace the ebb and flow, the back and forth of these two opposing processes?

I've been spending some time in the home management forum, and also the meal planning forum, and I think they both pushed me a little over the edge.

So today I'm futzing around on the computer, knitting, eating leftovers, sitting in the backyard, and not cleaning (much).

Off to spin some yarn now, my newest sensual pleasure.
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Originally Posted by Queen of Cups View Post
But the deal with my sister that I get annoyed about it is that with the fat-acceptance movement comes a backlash against thinner physiques - hence why for some people like my sister its fine to want to maintain an overweight/obese body because you want big womanly breasts, but its mocked if you want to maintain an "ideal" weight (according to BMI) in order to have a flat stomach. You see?
Oh, I totally see what you're saying. I guess I've missed a lot of the fat-acceptance stuff. I think it's the same thing, isn't it? The point to fat-acceptance should be that you can be healthy and beautiful at any size, or that beauty stems from health not size...? Not just to substitute one female appearance ideal with another one.

But I was thinking about this while I was walking the dog, and I think that unfortunately a lot of human behaviour is inescapable - and judgements based on appearance are inevitable in SOME way. The best we can hope for, maybe, is to teach our children to appreciate many different kinds of beauty, and teach them that just because we can't help doing it, doesn't make it particularly morally defensible. I don't know if this is making sense.

And I have to say, big womanly breasts are ENTIRELY overrated. Anyone who wants mine can have 'em.

Teresa, I hear you. I long for tidyness, but something in me has issues with what's needed to get there. Today I WILL however go through our bookshelf and reduce its contents by about half, one way or another!
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And Woody's on a kind of praying mantis kick at the moment, so we spent the morning reading about them in our bug books. And, coincidentally, while thinking all these other thoughts, I read that the female praying mantis liquidates her own vital organs while producing her eggs to provide them the nourishment they need, and that she dies within hours or days of laying the eggs. And, bless these little scientist authors, that it is unfair to scorn the female praying mantis for eating her mate shortly after copulation since he is far better used for the perpetuation of the species as food for the babies he just made than as a potential mate for yet another praying mantis.

I'm digging the life cycle today.
Since I have nothing thoughtful to say about bodies and weight at the moment, I'll say thank you for sharing this. Neela's blog has a video of her reading the insect guide and finding the praying mantis, so my BIL sent a little plastic one for Christmas. But of course I only knew of the eating the mate, not nourishing the babies with her body. I shared the rest of the biological details with my family this morning

Yesterday my DH and MIL bought a bunch of new organizers and jars and totally made our kitchen clean, organized and functional. We also finished re-organizing the living room and Neela's room, and have improved the office, too. I'm ecstatic about my new user-friendly and on it's way to being decluttered house. I played reverse Santa, too; though Neela freaked out and thought she needed all of her 40ish stuffed animals (I swear they're reproducing when I'm not watching). She tried to sit on the pile I made to sort through and kept me away like an angry hen mother preventing me from stealing her chicks. We'll tackle that issue again later.

I have a trunkload of stuff to donate and am excited to start the new year with less junk and a more organized house. And I still have my MIL for a couple more days- while I work this evening she plans on washing my hand-washables (they've been in a basket awaiting my attention for over two weeks) and finishing the kitchen job by finding the mystery stink in my fridge/freezer. She confesses that cleaning gives her pleasure, and it gives me pleasure to live in a clean and tidy house. What a deal!

I'm off to work, and will get home *just* before the New Year. Happy New Year, everyone!
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My motivation for losing weight isn't so much the way I look, although to be honest that's part of it. I am just so gosh darn CUTE when I am tiny. But it's more about being cheap (my fat clothes are wearing out, my thin clothes have some life in them, mostly because they're better quality because I was all rich and employed when I bought them), wanting my back to stop hurting, wanting to be able to do those fun upside-down pilates moves again (I just can't with the tummy flab in the way), wanting to be *happy* about it when Rowan wants to run to the grocery store, and wanting, above all, to be just physically STRONG.
I could have written that paragraph, and your subsequent post about big ol' enormous breasts. I am so over mine! I wear a 34F right now, but smoosh them into a DD on most days because that's the size of the majority of my bras. I so hope they go back down to a C after my nursing days are over.

Anyway, one of the things that motivates me in terms of the weight loss/fitness issue is that I am *very* envious of people who get a lot of joy out of their physical bodies. I see people who LOVE to run, or love to swim, or go to the gym, or whatever, and I am really sort-of in awe of those people. I don't like most sports (never have), but there are a couple of things that I do love: climbing, and volleyball. I got really good at climbing in college and grad school, and I felt *so* damn good about my body - not how I looked (though my arms were pretty ripped for a while) - but about how strong and awesome I was! I really miss that feeling. Since being pregnant with Brynn, it's like one body annoyance after another and I feel achy and slow and blahhhhhh most of the time. I just want to feel energetic and healthy, honestly; losing 15 pounds in the bargain will be a bonus. And I want to fit into my cute 4/6 clothes again!

Plus, Jason is like the model of perfect health: he has virtually no body fat, great muscle tone, and he really enjoys exercising and many sports. So I kind of feel this pressure to match him in that way. I never will, but I try.

Jen, I can't believe you get in ~an hour a day! Do you have fitness equipment at your house, or do videos in a secret child-proof room?
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