Queer TTC December 2007

[frog]

Thanks to JenInMpls for keeping last month's thread!

September Queer TTC can be found here

October Queer TTC can be found here

November Queer TTC can be found here

Queer Taking a Break from TTC is here.

:A Rainbow of options!:

Waiting to O
BurtsGirl
JennM1021
mahrens77
JenInMpls
Twylightdove
tiggerkong22
2happymamas

Waiting to O on a day when swimmers can actually be shipped
Zyla

Waiting to Know... Braving the 2WW
pranava
mhiccup
travelgirlz
Hulahoop
tigermiep
snoopy13
simplelah
simcon
baby_baby_mommy
Amigone
Sugerson
Cookie70

Waiting to Implant
starling&diesel

Taking a Break
MujerMamaMismo
astraphell
osker
Sprout's futuremom
FtMPapa
kjm
ktcl (and DP megincl)
QTRANDI
Sugersen

Waiting to be Ready
katharinerose
knit_grrly
Coco99
matchterr
lemurmommies
wannabemoms
frog
erthe_mama

Waiting to be healthy / WTF is going on with my Body?
whoop whoop we like it when this column is empty!

December BFP
: Scalpel :


November BFP!!!
mamimapster
AngelaM
solejean
lmh222 (actually was a BFP in September, but hey! it's a queer BFP! Let's celebrate!)

[JenInMpls]

*curtsy* my pleasure.

I'm hoping for a super Christmas present - just like in 2003!

[baby_baby_mommy]

thx for being threadmistress, frog here's to lots of BFPs this month!

[megincl]

frog -- thanks for doing this! can't wait to hear the witticisms and wisdom that you impart as threadkeeper.

megin

[kjm]

thanks for hopping on this frog--sorry I couldn't resist

so in the spirit of tackless self-promotion here, tomorrow is my 31st birthday. I need extra love and support as last year (on my 30th) I vowed to turn my back on cigarettes and booze, coffee and all other forms of self abuse. I made a commitment to Moll and the spirit that is to become our baby. I promised I would prioritize getting healthy, getting better and loving myself more in order to prepare for motherhood. I hoped that by this time this year I would be ready to start trying-- And being the dutiful dyke I am I hopped on that FAST and got all my ducks in a row, and started 6 months early

All this said tomorrow is my birthday and according to my OPKs my date of Ovulation...Damn Damn Damn--there are a handful of reasons why we cannot inseminate tomorrow but it is still really really hard.

I'm gonna enjoy my lady, take a soak in an outdoor hot tub during the predicted snow storm and love my freedom, but I'll probably still be a bit sad and ill-adjusted

so please friends, I shamelessly beg for you kind words, poetic wisdoms and endless encouragement

[KnittingTigers]

Originally Posted by kjm

thanks for hopping on this frog--sorry I couldn't resist

so in the spirit of tackless self-promotion here, tomorrow is my 31st birthday. I need extra love and support as last year (on my 30th) I vowed to turn my back on cigarettes and booze, coffee and all other forms of self abuse. I made a commitment to Moll and the spirit that is to become our baby. I promised I would prioritize getting healthy, getting better and loving myself more in order to prepare for motherhood. I hoped that by this time this year I would be ready to start trying-- And being the dutiful dyke I am I hopped on that FAST and got all my ducks in a row, and started 6 months early

All this said tomorrow is my birthday and according to my OPKs my date of Ovulation...Damn Damn Damn--there are a handful of reasons why we cannot inseminate tomorrow but it is still really really hard.

I'm gonna enjoy my lady, take a soak in an outdoor hot tub during the predicted snow storm and love my freedom, but I'll probably still be a bit sad and ill-adjusted

so please friends, I shamelessly beg for you kind words, poetic wisdoms and endless encouragement

(one day early...)

: Happy birthday, Keely! :

Girlfriend, you have accomplished SO MUCH in this past year! So, as you're welcoming in the new year, also take the time to congratulate yourself on everything that you've already done. Making your body a healthy habitat, figuring out how to get the process of ttc underway, managing to maintain an awesome loving relationship with Mollie in the process - these are no small feats. And for all of that, I just know that the year ahead is going to be even better.

Have a great day, enjoy that hot tub, and all of the loving people in your life!

xoxo
Angela

P.S. You know, I actually ovulated and inseminated on my birthday this year, and was convinced that I would get pregnant just off of the symbolism alone. As you know, it didn't happen. I was crushed at the time, but now, it really doesn't matter. Take the day for yourself and the community you already know and love. Strengthening these things is the best way to welcome in that new life, which is going to find you before you know it.

[Twylightdove]

I just o'd a couple days ago so I'm in the horrid 2ww. Can I be moved to waiting to know? I'm due to bleed on the last day of Hanukkah (Dec 11th) so I'm hoping for something better than Hanukkah gelt this year! (Hanukkah gelt are chocolate coins use to play dreidle.)

If not this time then I'll be due to insem again on Christmas, an issue since our donor is Christian. Also, my partner's mom will be visiting that week and doesn't know we are using a kd now. I really hope I don't have to deal with those logistics!

[frog]

Originally Posted by Twylightdove

Can I be moved to waiting to know?

It is done.

[frog]

Originally Posted by megincl

frog -- thanks for doing this! can't wait to hear the witticisms and wisdom that you impart as threadkeeper.

Heh. No pressure!

[sprout's futuremom]

new here

Hi all,

thanks kmj for helping me find this thread. Just wanted to introduce myself. I'm a 33 year old dyke ttc since march 07 with frozen sperm. I have been with my amazing partner for 11 years. This is our 6th try, the first three were home inseminations with frozen sperm. We will be taking a break if this one doesn't work for financial reasons, which will be really sad if that happens.

I'm in the dreaded tww, now 8 days past insemination. I'm trying to be calm about it all, but am pretty obsessive.

Anyway, thanks for welcoming me, and good luck to all.

ps. frog, i love your blog. sorry not much of a poster though...

[frog]

Welcome, Sprout's futuremom. And thanks for the nice comment about frogblog.

May your stay here be short and productive!

[matchterr]

Happy birthday, kjm!

Originally Posted by sprout's futuremom

Hi all,

thanks kmj for helping me find this thread. Just wanted to introduce myself. I'm a 33 year old dyke ttc since march 07 with frozen sperm. I have been with my amazing partner for 11 years. This is our 6th try, the first three were home inseminations with frozen sperm. We will be taking a break if this one doesn't work for financial reasons, which will be really sad if that happens.

I'm in the dreaded tww, now 8 days past insemination. I'm trying to be calm about it all, but am pretty obsessive.

Anyway, thanks for welcoming me, and good luck to all.

Good luck! :

[MujerMamaMismo]

Happy Birthday Keely.

May the battles, laughs and loves of the year gone give you the strength to make your 32nd year the best (and most fertile) yet.

: Happy Birthday:

[megincl]

Keely,

Happiest of birthdays!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Been thinking of you today. Hope you're getting some peaceful snow out there too.....

be well,
megin (and katie and quinn!)

[JenInMpls]

Very, very, very happy birthday think of how much your body thanks you that you have given up so many things that toxify it! I especially commend you on the quitting smoking; my wife quit as soon as I got pregnant and I know what a battle that is and probably continues to be. So BIG KUDOS to you.

Hope your baby's right time is SOON!

jen

[Sugerson]

Many BFP's for ya'll

I am taking this month off, financially we need a break and traveling plans make it difficult for our kd. We do have it set to fly him up to us in January...hopefully that makes all the difference!

Happy Birthday to Keely! I have always loved that name - a friend from college - wonderful person that never judged anyone! Enjoy the month without the 2ww!

To all others trying this month... ...for you! I know I do not post much, but I try hard to keep up with the many different lives...

[Amigone]

Hi everyone I think I've posted here before, or maybe just read. I'm in the middle of my Tww and going insane!

[BurtsGirl]

Frog- thanks for the new thread!

KJM- : HAPPY Birthday!!! know I'm late but I hope you had a wonderful birthday surrounded by those that love you. DW and I gave up smoking 3 yrs (in Jan) ago. It not easy but we both feel so much better for it. You are such an amazing person, Keely and I hope your day was just as amazing!

Sprout's futuremom -

Angela- How is pregnancy treating you, mama?

Katie- (from the Nov thread) You're certainly right about our situations being different from hetro couples when we take a break. They can "have an accident" on a break, we can't. Sorry there was a mix up but I hope you'll continue to post over there also. I put the thread there because I thought it would be bigger with more people accessing it.

Those in the 2WW- :

I've scheduled my HSG Dye test for Thursday and I'm scared to death. They told me to take 4 advil and their going to give me a valium in the hopes that I won't have another vagal response.

This weekend was nice and relaxing for us. DW got a new truck and we took it for a spin up to the mountains. We also made and canned homemade soups for xmas gifts this year. They were yum-o! Hope to see lots of BFP's come out of this thread!!!

[erthe_mama]

Burtsgirl -- Good luck with the dye test... I'm : for you to not get another vagal response.

[JenInMpls]

erthe_mama from the Nov thread: I stand by what I said. I know plenty of mamas who get pregnant without trying and are shocked but thrilled. My good friend got knocked up after a bender the evening of a bad court case brought against her by her ex bf, and she loves her daughter with all of her heart, and it's blatantly obvious to me that there is nothing more important to her than her daughter.

What I said was that the kids of glbtq folks (and children who are adopted) are the most wanted. Perhaps I should have added on the words "before we get pregnant with them", maybe I should have said "are conceived with the most intention", but that leaves out the folks who adopt. At any rate, I still believe that is true. Before we conceive our kids, we desperately want them and many of us have to really work to conceive them. Many of us change how we live and care for ourselves long before we ttc, and a great number of us empty our bank accounts and go into debt just for the want of a baby. I did not mean that all other kids conceived by straight folks are not wanted - even those that are surprises - but you have to admit, there are a lot of people out there who get pregnant who weren't planning on it and - yes - don't want to be. And of course they, too, end up loving their kids. Another friend of mine got pregnant while using 2 forms of BC and her first words upon seeing those two lines were "F* F* F*ITY F*!!". And now she has two children and loves them more than life itself. But when she got pregnant, she really wasn't planning to, and she wasn't happy about it at first. And this is just what I find ironic: when women get pregnant without trying and without wanting to while we are struggling like crazy just to get that BFP and want it more than anything else, so much so that it makes us crazy.

And it still does get me - no, in fact it breaks my heart - to see the number of children out there whose parents don't really want them and just tolerate them when there are so many of us who are trying to get pregnant and struggling and going broke to do so. It is a strange, strange world in that regard. I believe that children come to us - not just randomly but are meant to come to the right person/people at the right time - that is my spiritual belief and whatever anyone else wants to believe is just fine by me - but it makes me wonder what the h* is going on cosmically when a child is born to a woman who doesn't give a damn about it when there are so many people who want children so badly. That I will never understand.

I am sorry that you were hurt by what I said, that was not my intention. I hope you can see the angle I was coming from.