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post #201 of 369
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LaH, are you charting? If so and your chart's online, can you link it?
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Now that DP and I are moving more seriously into the planning of TTC #2, I'd love to get more into this thread. I don't know where I should be though. Waiting to be ready? We're hoping to try for #2 in February.
post #203 of 369
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LaH, are you charting? If so and your chart's online, can you link it?
Temping?
It's all on paper charts (in a box somewhere OMGracious) but I haven't been doing it constantly like I should.
I'm starting back as soon as I can find my thermometer. I am pretty sure I know what box it is in.
I guess I should use FF. I've been using mymonthlycycles or something like that just to track my period when I started slacking on temping.
post #204 of 369
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IME, temping will really help you figure out when to insem. Cervical position might help, too.

In terms of predicting when you'll ovulate this cycle, though, lacking any real data I have no idea!
post #205 of 369
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As I've said here before, for me, sperm count made a difference.
Remind me what the count was? And motility?
post #206 of 369
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Now that DP and I are moving more seriously into the planning of TTC #2, I'd love to get more into this thread. I don't know where I should be though. Waiting to be ready? We're hoping to try for #2 in February.
Woohoo! You're in!
post #207 of 369
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IME, temping will really help you figure out when to insem. Cervical position might help, too.

In terms of predicting when you'll ovulate this cycle, though, lacking any real data I have no idea!
Cervical position?
post #208 of 369
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Cervical position?
Yep--you can read more about it here.
post #209 of 369
Simplelah, I would reccommend the book Essential Guide to Lesbian PRegnancy and Conception. It goes a lot into all the different ways you can track fertility and includes a lot about nutrition, etc. Come to think of it, I should read back over a couple sections.
post #210 of 369
Simplelah, I second and strongly recommend The Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy and Birth by Stephani Brill. Another great one is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. The second one is great for understanding how to chart all your fertility signs including change in cervical mucus and cervical feel and position. I have no luck at all with my temps in predicting ovulation (though I do have a good thermal shift after the fact) so I used Taking Charge to learn how to do cervix gazing to time insems. The only drawback to Taking Charge is that her recommended timing for conception are all based on fresh sperm. When I was using frozen I used Taking Charge methods to pinpoint ovulation and I used The Essential Guide recommendations to time my insems with the spermcicles. This is also the methods used by our local queer midwife who has started many a queer family in our town using frozen or fresh.

Oh, also about OPKs (evil little things). I also had a hard time getting them to work for me. What ended up doing the trick was not drinking anything for five hours before a test and not peeing at all for four hours. I never did my first test before noon because LH tends to spike in the morning and it takes at least a few hours to make it to your urine. I tried several different brands all at once and found that the Target brand and First Response worked better for me than the others. Although I do think that the best brand depends on the person because I know many people who swear by ClearBlue even though I couldn't get a line on them to save my life!
post #211 of 369
Simplelah - I got my first truly +OPK this month with Vitex. It increases you production of LH. Before the Vitex I tested 4 times a day and watched the line get darker and then lighter again, but it was never as dark as the control line. This month it was actually darker than the control. I definitely recommend the Vitex.
post #212 of 369
JennM1021, we're using PRS too. How do you like it so far? There are parts I really love, parts I'm not so sure about....
post #213 of 369
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I appreciate the discussion about being in control. That's actually exactly what my therapist and I discussed today! I have major issues when I'm not in control and don't have a plan. It's like, if I know, one way or the other what is happening in the near future, I can plan accordingly. This great big question mark hanging over my head is so hard to handle. I find myself freezing up, living too much in my head, and too much online searching for that one answer that will tell me definitively whether or not I'm pregnant.
Yup, I know this story, alright! The control thing is so hard. I had to keep reminding myself, this isn't a science experiment. I'm not "making a baby," but rather, opening up my world to the possibility of new life.

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Move me to waiting to O. I F*$&king bled today. This is the first time my period actually made me cry.

So, a poll. Is it:

a. Ewww, shipping sperm to your parents' house is too weird;
b. It is weird, but who cares. They want this grandbaby too;
c. Not weird at all - go for it! or;
d. Weird or not, trying to do this during the holidays while traveling might just be too stressful and a doomed proposition
for AF. I vote B, as I too am a sucker for odd insemination stories. Just don't jump the gun and insem too early if the signs aren't there- remember, you can always just ship it back to the bank and save it for next time. BTW, don't know if you noticed, but TSBC's fees are going up in January. You know, just in case you want to stock up now or something...

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Is it bad that I am already starting this cycle out doubting things?
I honestly don't expect at all to get pregnant this month.
I will ovulate sometime between the 17th and the 25th.
I have a hard time getting a + OPK. (Recommend a certain brand?)
I never show any clear signs of ovulation. (Starting Vitex soon though)
So ... insem when?
I'm going to second what everyone else has said about checking your cervix. After my first round of insems, I started using a speculum and a mirror to look at my cervical opening. It was such good information, I wished I'd started sooner. And, do I remember correctly that you're using fresh sperm? If so, you really could use cervical opening as a primary indicator of when to inseminate. (Generally it stays open too long to be useful when trying to figure out when to use frozen.) Definitely check out Brill's book- it will tell you all you need to know about cervix gazing and timing.

Frog- My numbers this time were 58 million motile/55% motility. My first BFP was with ~43 million/39%. Everything else (BFN) was under 30 million/35%.

Oh my, it's snowing here...
post #214 of 369
Hulahoop - This is just our first try...and we decided to use PRS honestly before doing a ton of research on other sperm banks. Too impatient to shop around much...although it probably would have been a good idea. We thought we really found what we were looking for there though. The initial setup...consultation with the RN...all went well. They have a TON of WTBK donors which is what we were looking for. Also...the baby pics...a HUGE plus! We just got our first delivery...and all went smoothly. The only complaint so far...a little lack of communication when we have had questions...and the shipping is a bit expensive. You only get a 5 day rental included in your fee...and I live in Maryland...so...two days here...two days back...that doesn't leave a lot of room for estimating my LH day. How about you...what has your experience been like so far?
post #215 of 369
JennM1021:

My experience has been similar to yours. I really loved our initial consultation and all the sperm donor options. But like you, we've been disappointed with some of the communication. Sometimes I feel like I have to ask a question over and over different times to get an answer. And I feel like the answer depends on who I ask. For instance, the first two times I called in the a.m. when I got my surge, they said to come in at 11a.m. The third time, they said that if you surge in the a.m. you should come in at 4pm. I was like....huh? That's not a huge deal, but it made me question their consistency. Timing is so stressful, I really had been relying on them to help us figure out the best time to come in, and that threw me for a loop. I also wasn't that thrilled with the appt. i had with them for bloodwork and an ultrasound. It was really unorganized and haphazard. And yet, they are nice and I believe they really care, and they're affordable and convenient, so we're staying there for now. I live in SF, so we go in for the IUIs, so we don't have the shipment issues, but I could understand that.
post #216 of 369
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I know I'm totally putting the cart before the horse, here, but what do you all plan to do in terms of giving birth? (A colleague had her baby today, so it's on my mind...)
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I know I'm totally putting the cart before the horse, here, but what do you all plan to do in terms of giving birth? (A colleague had her baby today, so it's on my mind...)
In what exact regard? Like where (home/hospital), who (partner/doula/midwife/ob/uc), natural/drugs/water, birth classes (hypno/bradley/lamaze/etc)?
post #218 of 369
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In what exact regard? Like where (home/hospital), who (partner/doula/midwife/ob/uc), natural/drugs/water, birth classes (hypno/bradley/lamaze/etc)?
All that, yes. And more! Other! Different!
post #219 of 369
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I know I'm totally putting the cart before the horse, here, but what do you all plan to do in terms of giving birth? (A colleague had her baby today, so it's on my mind...)

I can't recommend homebirth enough. I won't say any more here unless someone wants more info. There's a movie coming out in January called "The Business of Being Born" --I recommend seeing it
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I can't recommend homebirth enough. I won't say any more here unless someone wants more info. There's a movie coming out in January called "The Business of Being Born" --I recommend seeing it
Oh, tell me everything!

My plan is to homebirth with our midwife, should we get that far.
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