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post #261 of 369
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Originally Posted by snoopy13 View Post
... any opinions as to if I should add the IUI into the mix even though we once again can get the fresh stuff? It's complicated by the fact that we'd have to come home to get our nurse pal to do the inseminating... meaning we'd do it between the 2 fresh doses, or at the end...
IMO, hang onto the IUI swimmers until another cycle (though here's hoping you won't need it!). I've heard that multiple kinds of sperm (like, from multiple donors) can compete with one another. Don't want that! If the frozen is the same donors, then I don't know.

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1) was it good that i posted this on this thread or should i have made a separate one?
I think it's excellent that you posted it here.
post #262 of 369
I am a dishonorable woman. I couldn't take it anymore and busted into my box of tests and peed on a stick this morning. I couldn't deal anymore with the thought of "Am I? Am I not? Am I? Am I crazy? Am I a freak?"

So I may still be a freak because I still feel a little queasy, but I can now tell myself more convincingly to lighten up, it probably isn't a pregnancy, you're probably feeling sick from your miserable cold.

And I'm still going to test again on Weds since there is a remote chance that I will actually get a pos on Weds after getting a neg today.

But I feel better - and more sane - now, so I think it was worth it to break my word and actually test.

Dear fellow ttc'ers, forgive me.

Gotta pick up kid @ preschool... ciao, xo j
post #263 of 369
Snoopy - I would save the IUI vials for future cycles when your donor is too busy. That way you won't have to skip cycles if your donor is too busy. Also, I think this is the right place to post that question. As for fertility friend - I don't know how to get the icon, but you can go to the fertility friend website and on the left side menu go to "sharing" and then to "home page set up". At the top of the home page set up is a web address for your chart. Copy that web address. Now go into your MDC account and put that web address as a hyperlink in your signature.

That should get you started. If anyone else knows how to convert that hyperlink to the chart symbol, please share!

HTH
post #264 of 369
I'm with ya there Jen. I'm so impatient...I'm gonna go get a quantitative blood test tomorrow to see if there is any level of HCG so far. They say you can do this as soon as 10DPO. Man...I'm actually certifiable!! What can you do? This is my first time TTC...so I'm beyond obsessed. I've come to terms with it. If this one doesn't work out...(fingers crossed it does)...hopefully I'll take it a little more in stride next time around. We'll see about that though.

Ok...so I'm wondering if anyone can throw out some good motility, concentration, etc numbers? I've searched all over the internet...and I get such a broad range of "good" numbers. Just wanna compare...see if my guy is up to par.
post #265 of 369
Went to the bathroom right before I went to pick T up at preschool - guess what!!! Period. See? I was crazy.

Frog, please move me to waiting to O.

*shrug* what can you do? I felt moved to put my amber/peridot bracelet on last night... amber for the patience of the years to make it, peridot is supposed to have properties that rid the wearer of resentment. I guess I know why... patience, patience, patience!
post #266 of 369

Progesterone

When I was at the RE last week, he said he wanted me to start taking oral progesterone pills three or four days after the next insemination. I asked him if I would have to take it throughout the end of the first trimester and he said it would depend on my levels. At 14 days post insemination when I got pregnant, my progesterone measured almost 27 and the nurse said that level was great, as 20 was about the norm for 14 days post insemination.

Is this normal? I thought you had to take it through the end of the first trimester. Is it normal to start about 4 days after insemination?
post #267 of 369
Yah my DP is taking vaginal progesterone and took her first one day 2 after insemination and yah our RE said to keep taking them thru 1st trimester if we are pregnant.
post #268 of 369
Still holding on here at 10/11dpo. My chart has been really wonky but it's looking ok right now. I don't think it's time to get excited just yet but I am quietly hopeful. I think my period is due Friday and I'm planning to hold out on testing until Saturday.

So sorry to everyone for whom this cycle was a bust.

We haven't had a BFP at all this month have we? Surely *someone* has to break the drought!
post #269 of 369
I just got the best, most positive OPK I have ever had

J is coming over tonight.
Wish me luck!
post #270 of 369
Good luck, simplelah!


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So sorry to everyone for whom this cycle was a bust.

We haven't had a BFP at all this month have we? Surely *someone* has to break the drought!

I'm checking in. No BFP to report. Sunday will be 14dpo. I'm going to try to wait 'til then to test, but I will probably cave (and cry at the BFN) before the weekend. : to all the BFNs so far (I know it's a treehug, but I like that one ).
post #271 of 369
We'd like to be counted in the "waiting to be ready" column. We are doing our first IUI in a fertility clinic around the 1st of february !!
Best of luck to all who are trying !
Coco
post #272 of 369

horrible morning breakdown

Am about to bleed. Have shamelessly copied this from my blog:

It finally happened. I have thus far avoided any major hysteria with the onset of my period but after my morning, I was that girl, sitting in the car in bumper-to-bumper traffic, crying buckets, trying to catch her breath and hoping no one would notice that she could barely see through her tears.

The trigger...my doctor, when discussing my cycle and my donor said "why don't you consider having sex with your donor?" I am oscillating between rage and disbelief. This was THE doctor I had been looking for all my life. A woman GP who prioritises holistic and nutritional medicine, someone who self identifies as a feminist and is queer friendly...or so I thought. arghhh.

I will not be seeing her again. But I will be writing to her and her practice about her inappropriate, homophobic behaviour. I'm livid. And really really disappointed.
post #273 of 369
Wow, MMM, what a terrible thing for your doctor to ever say. Other people's ignorance rarely surprises me, but what you described really cuts. Keep your chin up. It'll happen the ol' fashioned lesbian way soon enough, no icky hetero sex required.

As for me, thanks for all the advice with my poll. I ordered 2 vials to be shipped to Houston where we will be next week. Hopefully the travel won't throw things off, and, frankly, Mom is a little weirded out but knows enough to not admit it for a second. I also went ahead and paid for two more vials for next month because our bank is raising its prices.

I'll keep everybody posted, and in the meantime good luck to everybody with inseminations coming up, hugs to those faced with the BFN, and peace and serenity to everyone taking a break. :
post #274 of 369
oh my gosh, MMM, that nearly smacks of sexual harassment. I am SO sorry she said that to you. Consider a letter to whichever board regulates her, too! That is amazingly unprofessional.

I am having a yucky day today and I don't know if it's hormones or the weather or both. I just did a major stream of consciousness dump on my blog, so if anyone's REALLY interested, you can go read it there...

Keeping fingers crossed for those still waiting.

: jen
post #275 of 369
I'm glad you both agree. I'm feeling like I've blown it out of proportion a bit - I certainly wouldn't have had quite the crying fit if I weren't PMS'ing - but it was completely inappropriate, wasn't it?
post #276 of 369
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I'm glad you both agree. I'm feeling like I've blown it out of proportion a bit - I certainly wouldn't have had quite the crying fit if I weren't PMS'ing - but it was completely inappropriate, wasn't it?
It was totally inappropriate, and no, you're not blowing it out of proportion at all. That's just rude, and insensitive, and downright ridiculous for the doctor to have said. I'm really sorry that you had to go through that.

I would definitely write a letter of complaint. Hopefully that way the doctor will realize how homophobic her statement was, and it won't have to happen to anyone else.

to you.
post #277 of 369
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I'm glad you both agree. I'm feeling like I've blown it out of proportion a bit - I certainly wouldn't have had quite the crying fit if I weren't PMS'ing - but it was completely inappropriate, wasn't it?
Please, her behavior is so unbelievably unacceptable that my head is spinning. And don't hold yourself to this standard of never being emotional - ttc is emotional. It's a hard, exhausting process, even for straight folks doing it the "old fashioned" way. For those of us who have to do loads of extra work and coordination, the emotional stakes are even higher.

Your doctor's responsibility is to respect and advocate for the best possible care available to you, her patient. Suggesting that you have intercourse (I can't even call it sex...) with your donor shows a blatant disregard for your health and well-being, and a lack of professional ethics.

Please do write the letter, in hopes that another person might not be subject to the same treatment.

I'm really sorry that you're having to deal with this.
post #278 of 369
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MMM, that's utterly appalling.

I think we should draft a group letter to your doc, here.
post #279 of 369
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I think we should draft a group letter to your doc, here.
I think that Angela's phrases "blatant disregard" and "lack of professional ethics" NEED to be in the letter, as well as frog's "appalling", and may I add "shockingly" to "unprofessional"?

If you were a straight woman trying to get pregnant with donor sperm - as many who are TTC and experiencing infertility do - would she have told you to consider having sex with your donor? I'd really like to know if she would have. If she even considered for a second how that would have sounded to a straight woman she were counseling in such a situation.

I have lesbian friends who have joked briefly about how much easier it would be to just get a cute guy drunk at a bar and then take him home and use him for his sperm, but they aren't serious... and while it's ok for a friend to joke about it - maybe - it's not ok for a doctor to do so!

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post #280 of 369
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First draft of letter

Dear MMM's doctor,

I'm writing to express my utter disbelief at your suggestion that MMM might get knocked up if she just had sex with the donor. Surely during your medical training, "lesbian" was covered as a concept, and I can only hope that "has sex with women" and the accompanying "doesn't have sex with men" were included during the unit on dykes.

It would be appalling enough if a run-of-the-mill doc made such an asinine suggestion, but the fact that a doctor who proclaims herself "queer friendly" did so is simply beyond the pale.

I've enclosed a copy of the Big Lesbian Sex Book and Box Lunch: A Layperson's Guide to Cunnilingus for your perusal. If you find a chapter on how lesbians far and wide are having sex with men, do let me know. Please note that JoAnn Loulan should not be seen as an example of lesbians having sex with men.

For the love of Maude, woman, get a freakin' clue.

All the best,

frog
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