December Bi-parents Thread

[heket]

I thought I'd go ahead and start it since today is December 1.

[majikfaerie]

in upsidewon land it's already december 2. technically, I could have started the dec thread 32 hours ago.
but I didn't coz I was not really online all weekend.

anyway! happy december!

[2BMamaof3]

subbing

[Maluhia]

Merry Season everyone!

I'm just hanging out about to cuddle down with DD for naptime - it's a nice 80 degree day with light tradewinds off the ocean : don't hate me <-- This one looks to me like someone who got sunburned with her glasses on.

[majikfaerie]

yah, I'm just coming into summer and the mango trees are starting to fruit.

I had a big chat with the gorgeous girl who's been staying with us...
she told me very gently that she's just not interested. seems like she thought she was, and she was very attracted to me, but she's realised that she actually likes men.

oh well.

meanwhile, DP and I celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary; hired a baby-sitter, went for a long walk in the fields around our home, collecting mushrooms and wild berries.

Then we ate the mushrooms (saving the berries for the kids) and spent the day enjoying

[wonderwahine]

yay!! I haven't been on much this weekend either, I'm just checking in while nursing, we are cleaning the pantry etc.

it snowed today

[wonderwahine]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

I had a big chat with the gorgeous girl who's been staying with us...
she told me very gently that she's just not interested. seems like she thought she was, and she was very attracted to me, but she's realised that she actually likes men.

I'm sorry sweety

[dealic]

subbing.

Sorry majikfaerie.

[Lissacamille]

Looking for other Bisexual parents

...to hang out with online. I went to craigslist to their bisexuality forum and was immediately attacked, I still don't know why? Some people there are vicious.
Anybody out there to actually dialogue with?
I am not trying to live a lie, but my children don't know I am bisexual because I just feel it is better that way right now. I am married with a very understanding husband, but I just ended a ten-year relationship with another woman and am feeling sort of bereft, although we are still good friends.
Just would like to hang out with other gay/bisexual people without having to defend the fact that I am MARRIED and happily so. Does that make me weird or something? I am not hiding some secret life from my husband.

[Indigo73]

just wanted to sub.

[wonderwahine]

Originally Posted by Lissacamille

...to hang out with online. I went to craigslist to their bisexuality forum and was immediately attacked, I still don't know why? Some people there are vicious.
Anybody out there to actually dialogue with?
I am not trying to live a lie, but my children don't know I am bisexual because I just feel it is better that way right now. I am married with a very understanding husband, but I just ended a ten-year relationship with another woman and am feeling sort of bereft, although we are still good friends.
Just would like to hang out with other gay/bisexual people without having to defend the fact that I am MARRIED and happily so. Does that make me weird or something? I am not hiding some secret life from my husband.

I don't think its weird at all

I hope you don't mind me asking, but in your intro post to mdc, you mention you were a devout catholic, How have you handeled the bi side of your life with your catholic faith? I am a christian and just curious on how you deal with it.

[majikfaerie]

lissacamille
there's plenty of mamas here who enjoy being able to hang out and not have to defend themselves for being married.

it can be hard to end a long relationship.

[Maluhia]

welcome - this group of gals may be your searched-for group online! Many of us are bi and married to a man and a few are bi and married to a woman and we've got a bunch of fun poly women here too so - we try not to judge as much as humanly possible.



I had SUCH a rough time with my Mama tonight - we live in an attached apartment to their home and we interact/share common space. She is all depressive and has told me she thinks I'm weak for getting mental help in the past but DAMN it sucks to watch someone else go up and down, in front of DD as well, when I darn well know the woman needs therapy at a minimum and probably a nice small dose of a mood stabilizer. She's so dramatic when she's depressed and honestly - the ups and downs are so obvious to the rest of us but she's too damn prideful to get help for it all.....argh! Tomorrow I get to pretend like she was not a bear to be around all day today, eh, sometimes being the one making the peace sucketh.

[majikfaerie]

, kmm
that sounds like a hard one to deal with.

[Maluhia]

it IS and I'm not sure yet what strategy I'll use....I mean the woman to get my Dad's attention told him if he would not make the decision she'd have to slit her wrists because making one was too hard (I mean, come on, saying YES or NO to the toddler who just walked up and asked to join you at the store - you can say NO in a friendly way and that is the obvious choice if your so unsettled that you would say that in front of people). The thing is I've felt that frustration and that drama - I learned it from her as a personality thing and have fought to get rid of it in my life :

Then again she's so good when I get depressed at supporting me, etc. why am I so freaking angry at her for having a dramatic day of stress. bleh.

Must sleep - leaving house at 6 am to greet brother's new IL's as they arrive from Tahiti.....why oh why does Hawaiian Air fly that late at night/early in the a.m.? It's going to kill my lazy ass to wake up just to give out a lei.

[majikfaerie]

while I can relate (I sometimes feel like slitting my wrists rather than deal with simple decisions and responsibility), I cant understand not wanting to get help for that.

on a different note;

a week ago I was getting close to renouncing my Bi-sexuality, and going back to a girls only policy but this weekend was so good for me, I really had an amazing emotional healing breakthrough, and I feel like I can accept (for the first time) that it's actually okay to make love to my husband, and I can maybe even enjoy it, and not feel any shame or guilt or revulsion.

so I'm back on the bi-wagon

still hoping to meet the perfect woman tho

[wonderwahine]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

while I can relate (I sometimes feel like slitting my wrists rather than deal with simple decisions and responsibility), I cant understand not wanting to get help for that.

on a different note;

a week ago I was getting close to renouncing my Bi-sexuality, and going back to a girls only policy but this weekend was so good for me, I really had an amazing emotional healing breakthrough, and I feel like I can accept (for the first time) that it's actually okay to make love to my husband, and I can maybe even enjoy it, and not feel any shame or guilt or revulsion.

so I'm back on the bi-wagon

still hoping to meet the perfect woman tho

I'm glad you feel more confident about yourself and your choice.

and the perfect woman will turn up eventually

[Maluhia]

What a great breakthrough! No renouncing us dagnamit!

I've felt as she does sometimes - I just get so angry about the lack of willingness to get help. We worked out a few things this a.m. to make peace for this month of great stress but damn if I'm not going to bring up help again at the end of this month!












oh....and Ice is back with a brand new edition......

[Lissacamille]

Originally Posted by wonderwahine

I don't think its weird at all

I hope you don't mind me asking, but in your intro post to mdc, you mention you were a devout catholic, How have you handeled the bi side of your life with your catholic faith? I am a christian and just curious on how you deal with it.

It is very difficult to reconcile. I understand the reasons I am bisexual and I understand God loves me the way I am. I try to stay faithful to my marriage vows and mostly am. I guess what I am trying to say is that it is a constant struggle for me. I have a friend but we are not sleeping together. Maybe for now it is best just to have a friend I can be open with, that is the most important thing, not sex.

[Lissacamille]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

lissacamille
there's plenty of mamas here who enjoy being able to hang out and not have to defend themselves for being married.

it can be hard to end a long relationship.

Thanks you SO MUCH, you really made my day! After my experience on craigslist I was wondering why I was so reprehensible and if I was a freak or some such.
Thanks again!