Oh ladies, I am so smitten with this guy. We had a great date, fancy dinner, long walk, much kissing. I am going to miss him until next week.
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12/22/07 at 10:23am
still really enjoying myself with d. it's been 2.5 months. we talk a couple times a day, he usually is over here 5 days a week. enjoying the benefits of couplehood immensely.
Medusa: Thank you for your reply last week about my wondering if I want to find the time to date and be away from DS. Good advice.
So... I have arranged to meet this person tomorrow night (yes, I realize that's Christmas Eve! I am Jewish and he does not have his kids or other plans until Christmas day). It's perfect in terms of DS, because he will be with his father. If we end up wanting to see each other more... I'll figure it out as I go, right?
We have talked on the phone twice for over an hour each time. He's easy to talk to. He's really interesting. I actually have the fear that I am going to sound unintelligent to him! I really need to get better about following current events! But we talked about parenting tonight. He has 50% custody of his 2 kids. I mentioned attachment parenting. He didn't know that term but said how he and his ex believed in co-sleeping, bfing, non-CIO (we had a good conversation about that one and creating secure attachments)... !!! Wow. That's the 1st person I've met (other than on this board) with similar parenting ideas to mine!
Anyway... we're meeting for Japanese food. Yum. I'm finding myself VERY nervous. And excited. And wishing I'd gotten my hair cut sometime in the last 10 months...
Here's my main question: WHAT DO I WEAR??? I feel like I have no clothes. Nothing that excites me. Are nice jeans ok for a 1st date? (My online profile, where I met him, does say that I'm a casual person). Jeans and a sweater? I don't have any other pants that make me feel good right now. In the summer I went on a few dates and always did the flow-y skirt thing with sandals and that felt perfect. But I don't even have a good winter skirt outfit. I hate stockings. And it's COLD here! I do have a fun new pair of cordoruys... but they don't feel 1st datish for some reason. Please advise!!!!
Also... any dos or don'ts??? Any conversation ideas? Although I guess we haven't had trouble with that on the phone.
Oh... crying baby.
Stacey, it's been really good practice to keep reminding myself that DBF is NOT DEx and I am NOT the same person I was a decade ago when I met DEx. Whenever I get all freaked about DBF seeing the messy house or telling him something DEx would freak about, I just have to suck it up and say something to him and most of the time he reminds me through his awesome resonses, how much he really isn't my ex. The only way to not sabotage something is to just not sabotage it You just have to keep being open to him, trusting him, not hiding those things you are worried about, etc. It might ultimately not work out, but wouldn't you rather it not work out because there's something better out there for each of you or because it was an awesome thing that you messed up because you didn't trust it?
Ok, here's a little bit of the insane way my mind sometimes works: Do any of you ever think you're going to jinx something good by talking or thinking about it too much? I know that's so silly. But I think that. But I'm feeling good and excited and want to talk about it and think about it.