Our 5 year old daughter is obviously jealous of the baby. I have done everything I can to make her feel like nothing has changed for her. We have spent some girl time together and got a quick manicure. Today we went to the movies. I reassure her all the time that I love her the same and it will never change. I talk about how important her role as a big sister is, and how her little sister is going to love her and look up to her. blah, blah, blah....... We did everything thay say to do-when a new sibling enters the picture.
A few nights after we came home from the hospiatl I was home with baby and my 5 yr old (Sophia) was out with her father. I was laying in bed with the baby and Sophia came in and saw her in her spot and tears just streamed down her cheeks. SO SAD! I said "put on your pajamas and you could lay with us. So I have the baby, sophia in bed and then the cat jumps up and see's sophia in her spot and lets ou a cry...I'm like "no way, not you too!"
She has been relentless. I try not to say "Don't touch the baby" over and over... I do not want her to resent the baby. But the baby is so fragile and she is always touching, and jumping around and falling into her, dropping the remote on her head, kicking her (accidentally) while laying on the couch with her legs facing me. If I say please be careful, or gentle, and finally in a rage "Don't touch the baby!" It turns her into a hyped up animal desperate to get her hands on her somehow, someway. Which inevitably ends up with threats, and time in her room, and tantrums.. I just don't know what to do. I can't seem to get her to listen to me, and I feel like she's an attack animal.
By the way, you should see how she treats our cat. I do not know why I am surprised. I feel so nervous when she is around, and I really do not want her to think I don't trust her...But, I really don't. I know that must sound horrible.
Oh. and all the sudden since the baby came home the cat is peeing on Sophia's bed.
I am so stressed, I feel guilty, I'm sick on top of it, and my neck hurts so bad from nursing......
A few nights after we came home from the hospiatl I was home with baby and my 5 yr old (Sophia) was out with her father. I was laying in bed with the baby and Sophia came in and saw her in her spot and tears just streamed down her cheeks. SO SAD! I said "put on your pajamas and you could lay with us. So I have the baby, sophia in bed and then the cat jumps up and see's sophia in her spot and lets ou a cry...I'm like "no way, not you too!"
She has been relentless. I try not to say "Don't touch the baby" over and over... I do not want her to resent the baby. But the baby is so fragile and she is always touching, and jumping around and falling into her, dropping the remote on her head, kicking her (accidentally) while laying on the couch with her legs facing me. If I say please be careful, or gentle, and finally in a rage "Don't touch the baby!" It turns her into a hyped up animal desperate to get her hands on her somehow, someway. Which inevitably ends up with threats, and time in her room, and tantrums.. I just don't know what to do. I can't seem to get her to listen to me, and I feel like she's an attack animal.
By the way, you should see how she treats our cat. I do not know why I am surprised. I feel so nervous when she is around, and I really do not want her to think I don't trust her...But, I really don't. I know that must sound horrible.
Oh. and all the sudden since the baby came home the cat is peeing on Sophia's bed.
I am so stressed, I feel guilty, I'm sick on top of it, and my neck hurts so bad from nursing......
