I am ready for another one! - Page 2

[isosmom]

This was our last. Just more reason to cherish every day I suppose.
If I had all the $ in the world, I would have more. But even I have to realize my limitations.

[Beckyfw]

I have three kids ges 8,6,4 and am about to try for one more, even though i went through hell with my last two pregs (pre-eclampsia)

[scheelimama]

I'd like a 4th, maybe even a 5th, but pregnancy was pretty rough this time. I really don't want to go through that again. But like many of you, as soon as Piper was born, dh and I started throwing in the words "next time" this and "next time" that, but then we'd remind each other that we're not sure if there will be a next time. Basically, we both want more, but we're not sure how to make it work, and I know this has been really hard on dh, missing it all. So, that's a big part of it for both of us. I absolutely don't want to have another baby unless we are sure we will be together for at least 2 years, so he can be with us for the pregnancy and first year of the baby's life. And we'll definitely put at least another 3 year age difference between Piper and the next one. Bronwynn and Piper are 3 yrs and 1 week apart in age and it's nice. But we may wait even 4 or 5 years. We'll see.

[chubbycheeks]

I am ready for another, for sure. DH and I are open to Gods plan for our family, but I'm not sure if we will actively TTC for another. I would, for sure.. . but DH is a little more on the fence. I have had some major scares with each PG (car accidents, hemmoraghing after DS2, thoughts that DS3 may have Down's) so I think that has scared DH a bit with trying for more. But we'll see. He was pretty firm on no TTC after DS2, but came around. Just yesterday he mentioned needing a bigger van if we had more (shocked the HECK out of me). I have always wanted a big family (my mom comes from a family of 12) but thought I would have started my family much younger.. . . DH is 40 now and I am 34 and I know I don't have a lot of time. Just trying to enjoy each day with Sam, knowing he could be it, but maybe not. Like some other Mamas have said, I just want to 'feel' done when I'm done, and I don't feel that way yet. Maybe someday I will find that peace if Sam is really 'it' for us. I too lust I think like Aimee said over the whole getting pregnant, pregnancy and birth experience. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE motherhood, but its super hard work and sometimes I think I don't think about all that comes along with adding more to our family. Ok, enough rambling, lol. But yea... I want another!

[canadiannancy]

Originally Posted by JamesMama

My DH is the same as yours. He doesn't want anymore because according to him I become a bitch on wheels for a couple months after the baby is born (to which I reply, you run on 3 hours of sleep and get NO help from your co-parent and see how cheery you are)..crap maybe thats what he's talking about

My DH want many more....Moms might "forget" the pain of birth....My DH "forgets" the Uber bitchy me in the first week postpartum when He is "too tired to help with new or old babies...
I do not have the urge right now to have more.....I know I want more and even though we are both of the let Godd decide when camp....I hope he decides on a little further apart spaced DC for our next babe...as I think another so close together might do me in mentally. Physically this has been my best pregnancy so far with the fewest hospital visits, and the best labour delivery...and the easiest baby...But my older two are high needs and I need a little more time before the baby lust would start.

[GooeyRN]

I don't think your nuts. I didn't consider another until dd was over 1, but she was a very difficult baby. (very high needs) She has gotten so much easier as she got older. So you probably won't change your mind! It gets so much better as they eat less often and sleep in longer stretches. And they even self occupy for a little bit as they get older!

[Momma Aimee]

i have to say that if we do this again i want to do it soon and keep all the kids close together.

Sis has an 8 yo and a 6 yo and a new baby -- who has been dropped by each boy cuz they think they are big :

other sis has a 4 yo and a 9 month old and the 4 yo takes every BF time to run off and creat big trouble .. he KNOWS what he is doing...

Yikes .....

I may have two babies -- but at least mine are both int he same "age group"




I worry about T bering 4 with C being 2 if we have another .....

[melissakc]

I always thought we were done after this one, but I'm crazy like all of you. The thing is, I don't want another child, just another birth experience. (I know, I'm the REALLY crazy one. : ) This birth was wonderful, empowering, fantastic, incredible, etc. ad nauseum. And I don't want to be pregnant again, and I'm so over the nursing marathons and sleepless nights and spit-up and crying, and all I want is another birth like this one. But birth is no reason to have another child. And who knows what my next birth would be like--maybe a hellish one like my first one. So I guess we're done!

I'll just have to become a childbirth educator or a doula or something bc now I'm obsessed with birth.

[GinaRae]

I'm done having babies from my body and DH is SO done having babies period. But I don't feel done. I think I will be in mourning for a long time over that :

I don't know if it's because I don't have a girl or if it's because I don't have enough babies to satisfy the urge yet. Just so sad

[Momma Aimee]

Gina

when you are ready -- in a while -- we can talk abot adopting though the state foster care system ..... it is very low cost and with the IRS upping the tax credit for adoption, can be "no cost" by the time everything washs out .....

you don't have to be done just cuz your body is

we'll talk when the time comes

A

[scheelimama]

Originally Posted by Momma Aimee

Gina

when you are ready -- in a while -- we can talk abot adopting though the state foster care system ..... it is very low cost and with the IRS upping the tax credit for adoption, can be "no cost" by the time everything washs out .....

you don't have to be done just cuz your body is

we'll talk when the time comes

A

That's what I was thinking! I can't imagine being pregnant again. But like Melissakc, I want another birth experience, crazy, but true. But for the opposite reason. I was completely unsatisfied with this last birth and I never got the home/water birth I wanted. DH and I decided that we will birth at home if there is a next time, even if it's illegal and we have to go it alone. Neither of us were happy with this last experience. But, a birth experience alone is no reason to have another baby.

[GinaRae]

I've already looked into it before and would like to, but not sure it's going to happen. It's too hard to get a baby with no special needs, most toddlers or preschoolers come in a sibling group, and that's worse because hubby doesn't want anymore period - let alone three more! We couldn't afford a house big enough for everyone (would be around 1 million). *sigh*