Does he really look that thin? w. edit. - Page 4

[feebeeglee]

Originally Posted by peekyboo

You know, it's almost a shame that all the interfering busybodies we all run into don't give us some cash. Think about it - "You can tell me why my child shouldn't be using a stroller b/c she's too big for it, but it'll cost you $40 to do so."

Yeah, looks like we need a Donate Paypal button for the board for the same reason...

[harpertrance]

Yes, I do have the 40 dollars. I will be using it on useful stuff, like christmas presents, or gas (3.05 a gallon here!)

Now that I think about it, and I am in a clear state of mind, I do understand what the lady was trying to do... (to assume that she was not trying to be rude.... which i hope she wasnt meaning to be) I am thankful her thoughts and thinking that she was helping by giving us the cash, and it was nice of her, however her comments were uncalled for. She should have been nicer, and just said Merry Christmas, or something. I dont know.

I honestly hope and think that she was trying to be kind. I wouldnt just hand over 40 dollars if I felt like being mean to a family, you know what I mean? I mean, that is a lot of money! I hope she wasnt the type who was trying to do a holier than thou thing, and pay me 40 dollars just to get her opinion heard. Thats just... really rude. The words she said were ugly, but the money itself was a blessing.

I was just in shock and upset about the whole thing, but now that I have slept and woke up, and re-thought everything, I feel better about it all. It was just her comments and attitude that threw me off.

[harpertrance]

Originally Posted by feebeeglee

Yeah, looks like we need a Donate Paypal button for the board for the same reason...

Hahaha... thats funny. Bash the moms, let your thoughts be known! - 5 dollars! We do accept paypal!

[majazama]

I just want to say that I didn't realize this was the special needs forum. sorry if my comments were out of place.

[Mirzam]

My DS was way skinnier at that age. Once when he was around 17 or 18 months old we are at the pool and a man commented to wife, on how thin my DS was and how there must be something wrong with him : He is still very skinny, but extremely healthy, strong and athletic.

[RedOakMomma]

Your son is beautiful.

And skinny? No. He looks healthy and on the less-chub side, but lots of kids look just like that. Mine included.

We've talked about weights with our ped. over and over again, and he's never concerned. My sons just have my dad's body type--long and lean, and there's not much you can do to put chub on them.

[Kristine233]

Originally Posted by Jennifer3141

I kind of laugh at all the thread about judging other mamas. I think that's why I got "stuck" with DS. It was a big smack across the head from Goddess!!
And I thank her for that lesson (almost) everyday.

I really have to laugh at this. Dh and I started dating when we were both teens, so from a very young and immature age. I remember being at a store once with Dh when he was 17. There was a mom juggling a couple kids and the baby was crying. Dh muttered "Can't she shut that kid up?" I was mortified but he saw nothing wrong with it. Boy did that change when we had kids. He has a completely different attitude now and I still tease him about his comments. (He says he was a jerk back then and knows better- he goes all papabear if someone says something like that about our kids) But I tell him when our kids act up in public its payback for that comment from years ago, lol.

[FreeRangeMama]

I think you are reading too much into her comments (understandably given the situation). She probably wanted to help, but like most people, didn't have the perfect words to say to make the situation more comfortable. I just imagine that if I had the money to help someone out I would probably go up to this complete stranger and start babbling uncontrollably, get embarrassed about the babbling and starting talking faster, then just trail off. I am sure I would end up just shoving the money at them and taking off. All hope of doing a good deed would be out the window as it would just turn awkward.

Besides, if she assumed you were only giving your kid soda she would have expected him to be overweight not underweight.

[Heavenly]

Originally Posted by Kristine233

Hugs mama. BTW, I'm a soda drinker too... where else am I going to get the energy to keep up with my 3 kids? hehe

Ain't that the truth? And I am reading this while drinking a Pepsi.

[MyTwoAs]

Looks healthy to me! I, too, think the gesture was kind and probably well-meaning but egads the words that came out of her mouth were just wrong. She should have handed you the money, smiled, and not said a word!

My oldest is a scrawny guy, well you can't tell when he has clothes on cuz he has a big noggin (like his daddy!) and no one has ever commented to me about him, well beyond family.

[DaughterOfKali]

He looks fine to me. My ds goes through growth spurts and when that happens, he looks super thin. Everytime I get a little concerned about it, I do mention it to his doc who examines him and says he's completely healthy and within normal weight range.

[LynnS6]

Originally Posted by momwifenurse

Yes, I do have the 40 dollars. I will be using it on useful stuff, like christmas presents, or gas (3.05 a gallon here!)

Good!

I was just in shock and upset about the whole thing, but now that I have slept and woke up, and re-thought everything, I feel better about it all. It was just her comments and attitude that threw me off.

They would have thrown me off too! Her approach wasn't very tactful, and could have been a lot more helpful.

And no, I don't think your son is that skinny. Here are two pictures of our skinny son at age 5 (first picture) and age 4 (second). You can see his ribs! He's just as skinny at age 6, just more sensitive to being photographed while naked, so I've stopped doing it.

http://www.netinteraction.com/thomas...heloose480.JPG
http://www.netinteraction.com/thomas...ikesis2480.JPG

[harpertrance]

that is just how my kiddo looks when laying like that! I only have a nekd pic of him though and didnt think it would be ok to post here. :/ but yeah thats him alright! (ur kids are beautiful btw)

[RolliePollie]

Hey Jennie

My little guy is very tall and lean. My mom once asked me to PLEASE put a shirt on him because he was looking too much like an Ethiopian.

[RolliePollie]

Originally Posted by AuntLavender

her comments were not.

We shop at Goodwill. Occasionally a Grandma will give each of my children $1!?! We are not poor. We don't dress that bad do we? I do drive a 17yo car but it doesn't have rust or anything and I wax it and keep it running smoothly.

It takes all kinds eh?

Sincerely,
Debra

I think this might be more of a generational thing, because DS is given money ALL THE TIME by elderly people. Restaurants, the bank, just anywhere.

[harpertrance]

Originally Posted by RolliePollie

I think this might be more of a generational thing, because DS is given money ALL THE TIME by elderly people. Restaurants, the bank, just anywhere.

you mean strangers will just come over and hand him money?! That seems so odd. What do they say to you? What do you say to them?

[harpertrance]

Originally Posted by RolliePollie

Hey Jennie

My little guy is very tall and lean. My mom once asked me to PLEASE put a shirt on him because he was looking too much like an Ethiopian.

ive gotten that before, LOL well not an Ethiopian, but you know.

[RolliePollie]

Originally Posted by momwifenurse

you mean strangers will just come over and hand him money?! That seems so odd. What do they say to you? What do you say to them?

Yes, or he'll go up to people and just start flirting and guess they feel the need to pay for his services. They say things about how cute he is and usually how he reminds them of their grandchild and how said grandchild is in another state and here have a dollar and then I insist that he not take it but usually they ignore me. One time an elderly gentlemen at the bank gave him CHANGE. : At least it's better than strangers wanting to give him food all the time. And when I say food, I mean like half eaten bags of who-knows-what.

[MyTwoAs]

When my son was younger this happened often. We were even in Atlanta (husband had a business trip and we went along) where we knew *no* one and at lunch one day a gentleman stopped by and handed Alexander a dollar. He was 13 months so was like "hmm, food?" - now that he's older he doesn't get it anymore.

[Iris' Mom]

you're son is beautiful.

The lady's comments were rude, even if the gesture was well-meaning. I honestly think that once people reach a certain age, they feel entitled to air their opinions and judgments in any way they see fit. This isn't quite the same thing, but when my mom hit 65, she all of a sudden started addressing anyone she came across below age 60 as "dear." I told her it was patronizing, but she said "listen, when you get to be my age, blahblahblah."

And if there is a grandparents forum somewhere on this board, of course I am not talking about you.