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post #81 of 100
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The lady that gave us the money was older, about 65 or so. I agree, older men esp. ive noticed come up to children and start talking to them. I think its cute myself, but i havent ever gotten money out of it.... or half eaten bags of food! Lol That ones pretty strange.
post #82 of 100
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Originally Posted by AuntLavender View Post

We shop at Goodwill. Occasionally a Grandma will give each of my children $1!?! We are not poor. We don't dress that bad do we? I do drive a 17yo car but it doesn't have rust or anything and I wax it and keep it running smoothly.


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When my son was younger this happened often. We were even in Atlanta (husband had a business trip and we went along) where we knew *no* one and at lunch one day a gentleman stopped by and handed Alexander a dollar. He was 13 months so was like "hmm, food?" - now that he's older he doesn't get it anymore.
I just wanted to say, this happened to us once too. We were visiting my grandma at a senior center and an elderly man gave my then 2 yo dd a dollar. I thought it was very sweet, he seemed quite charmed by her and wanted to give her something.
post #83 of 100
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Strangers gave us money again. 20 dollars this time.

We helped them change their tire They were in their 80s and really needed the help.

60 dollars in less than a week, pretty good,
post #84 of 100
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Strangers gave us money again. 20 dollars this time.

We helped them change their tire They were in their 80s and really needed the help.

60 dollars in less than a week, pretty good,
Sweet!
post #85 of 100
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Originally Posted by momwifenurse View Post
Strangers gave us money again. 20 dollars this time.

We helped them change their tire They were in their 80s and really needed the help.

60 dollars in less than a week, pretty good,
pimp those kids out!! woo! for making money
post #86 of 100
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Lol my kids were in the car the whole time haha. They fell asleep. But I ended up spending the 20 on food like she asked us to, and then the 40 ended up going to stuff we needed... i.e. cat food/litter cleaning products, and stuff... so once again no xmas money. Poop. But ah well Needs before wants!
post #87 of 100
Aw, I am sorry you had to go through that. Some people just don't know when to keep their comments to themselves. I am ALWAYS dealing with comments over my tiny kids. Mara is 7 years old and weighs 42lbs, Nick will be 4 next month and he's 26lbs and 35in he is really tiny but he hates to eat and it is a battle everyday to get him to eat, he's been hospitalized a couple of times for it and he was failure to thrive, at 12 months he weighed barely 16lbs (ment to put 16 not 20lbs, lol. He weighed 20lbbs at 24 months) . My 11 month old daughter weighs 13lbs 3oz and she's 25in. I always get comments on how tiny and skinny they are but they look healthy to me, expect for my son he looks to be to thin. I just learned to ignore people like that, some kids are just tiny.
post #88 of 100
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Dont feel too bad, at 1 year my son was 16 pounds and still in size 1s. He was weight today and was 28 pounds. =P Thanks for the comments. I wish some people would try to be a little understanding.
post #89 of 100
I'd see her words as clumsy maybe, but honestly, not rude. Considering what she saw, I'd think that she was just trying to help out a mother.

How lovely of her!

Sometimes I get caught for words and don't necessarily say the exact right thing, and I'm sure most of us are the same. I've debated with myself on occasions about whether to help out another mum in a grocery line, and rehearsed over and over what I will say, deciding that everything I come up with is clumsy.

No matter how you try, in that sort of situation you can easily embarrass the person that you are trying to help.

I'd try to see it for what it was - a kind, generous gesture. Gosh, $40 is a lot of money for someone to just hand over to a stranger! If she were a snarky person, she'd have just made a snarky comment, surely? Not handed you a significant amount of money!

I don't think he looks skinny at all. He's super-cute! Seeing those pics, I don't imagine that she was thinking he was skinny, just that you were struggling to buy groceries. If I see someone who seems to be struggling to buy groceries, I try to help out. It's not snarky, it's just that I can afford groceries, and don't believe that anyone should be in a position where they can't afford the basics in life.

Maybe the soda swayed her opinion of you, but maybe it did not. Either way, she was a very generous person, and I think it would make you feel more comfortable to just think about her generosity, not her words.

(And btw, although I don't post in special needs, I've had my share of judgements over my kids, so I do understand that. I also know that on occasions I've jumped to the conclusion that someone is judging me harshly, then they have come out with a really kind comment or gesture that shows that the opposite is true. )
post #90 of 100
I haven't read any of the replies to this thread at all, b/c it's too long.

But I think you took her comment the wrong way. She saw you unable to pay for a cart full of groceries and handed you the money saying buy the kids some food. I don't think she was saying this b/c your child looks thin. I bet she didn't even notice what was in your cart. She just saw a young mom w/ young kids who was unable to pay for her groceries. I am 100% sure this came out of love and it wasn't a comment meant to make you feel guilty for trying to buy a bunch of drinks. I hope now that you've calmed down you can see this.

I'm actually crying thinking of the kindness of someone who would do something like this. I blame pregnancy hormones, but damn, I've been through some HARD times and no one ever stepped in to help me like this woman did. I can only imagine what it would have meant to me if someone had.
post #91 of 100
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Originally Posted by AuntLavender View Post
her comments were not.

We shop at Goodwill. Occasionally a Grandma will give each of my children $1!?! We are not poor. We don't dress that bad do we? I do drive a 17yo car but it doesn't have rust or anything and I wax it and keep it running smoothly.

It takes all kinds eh?

Sincerely,
Debra
Old ladies around here always give my kids pennies or nickels. I don't think they do it b/c we look poor. I think they just like giving the kids something for them to feel special. KWIM?
post #92 of 100
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Old ladies around here always give my kids pennies or nickels. I don't think they do it b/c we look poor. I think they just like giving the kids something for them to feel special. KWIM?

Old ladies do that sort of thing around here too. Once I was at a Walmart and a nice lady came over and handed me some quarters for the kids to ride on one of those little rides they sometimes have. She did it just so that the kids could have a bit of fun. In some ways I guess it is nice that people notice and take the time to offer a bit of kindness.

Not sure about the OP but I guess the lady could have just made rude comments and walked away.
post #93 of 100
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Yeah, looks like we need a Donate Paypal button for the board for the same reason...
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my daughter gets handed stuff from time to time. i try not to take it personally, i just like to think that she is a very charming cutie-pie. i know that most anyone that meets her often likes her instantly anyway. i should add that she is also pretty thin, just like the OP's son... and she has that poofy belly too. let me know if you'd like a pic so we can decide on a reason as to why she is handed stuff.

hey, $60 in one week is not bad... not bad at all.
post #94 of 100
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Originally Posted by wendy1221 View Post
I am 100% sure this came out of love and it wasn't a comment meant to make you feel guilty for trying to buy a bunch of drinks. I hope now that you've calmed down you can see this.
.... thats kind of why i added the edit in my original post
post #95 of 100
I agree that it sounds like the woman was intending only to be kind. But I can also see how that could make you feel awful, so I'm glad you're feeling better about it. The comment on this thread about the soda, though? Wow. Way to kick a sister when she's down.
post #96 of 100
Well I don't have much to add that hasn't been said, but I wanted to say that your son looks great! He looks healthy and happy. My DS looks exactly the same --- okay photoshop out his face in the picture and insert my kid's face. Your son is very handsome.

I just wanted to say too that I agree that people are so judgmental. My son barely eats anything. He is 2.5 and still eats pureed spoon fed food. When I do this in public I get so many stares. I barely eat out any more.

Glad to hear about the $60. Hell, people here in armpit Arkansas are way too cheap and self-absorbed to help another person out, so I know we won't be getting any assistance. I say enjoy the random kindness of the money and ignore the comments. Heck, I'd milk it for all it's worth... have your son grip his tummy and tell everyone how hungry he is.... j/k
post #97 of 100
I'm crazy and give people the benefit of the doubt. Your card didn't work (btdt) and your kids looked skinny (bt, are that). I'd like to think that the woman was only trying to help you out.

Your ds is on the slender side but does not look too skinny. FTR, my kids are really skinny not for lack of food but genetics. DD is 5'6" and just barely 90 lbs. The girl eats, I promise. Ds is much the same. What can you do when it is just the way they are
post #98 of 100
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What can you do when it is just the way they are
i agree
post #99 of 100
your baby is absolutely beautiful.

i think that the composition of breast-fed kids is different than formula-fed...all of mine were thin...a better way to say it is that they had no excess fat. their bodies properly used all of what went in...

my littlest is low tone, and she's only 33.5 pounds at four and seven months...

http://www2.snapfish.com/thumbnailsh...0/t_=111175490

we were at children's hospital once, and a little girl walked up and pressed a twenty in my hand. "my mommy said to give this to you..." as she turned and ran.

whatever her reasoning, whether she meant to be rude or snarky or sweet or nice...i'd take it how i personally wanted to. hey, it's not like she's family, lol.
post #100 of 100
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your little girl is so beautiful! - thats true, no one elses opinions really matter unless they know the full story!
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