Originally Posted by KelliHope
Well. . .besides my husband & medical professionals that excludes EVERYONE! and I don't want anyone else there during the actual pushing & delivery, but I don't think I will be able to exclude parents & inlaws from being in the waiting room and poking their heads in from time to time throughout the day. I'm shy I guess. . .there's just something about my dad seeing me naked, not to mention my inlaws! Makes me awfully squeemish. I'm even nervous about breastfeeding in front of these people. . .but I guess I will just have to get over myself!
I am as big a fan of getting over yourself as can be found, but labor's not the time to have to get over yourself. It's *your* labor. You need to be comfortable. That's the really important thing.
I had no parents and in-laws in the waiting room because we didn't call anyone until the baby was actually born, and I was stitched up, and we had had a few minutes to hold the baby. If you don't want these people in the delivery room, keep in mind that failing to inform them that *you're* in the delivery room is a very effective way to arrange that.
If you do want to tell them you've gone to the hospital, they still don't necessarily get to poke their heads into the delivery room. The hospital I delivered at discussed with my husband and I what we wanted in terms of visitors. What we wanted was "none", and that worked fine, but the hospital was quite capable of keeping visitors out of the room - no "poking their heads in". The waiting room was pretty distinctly separated from the labor and delivery rooms, and access to the L&D floor was pretty tightly controlled.
Also, you know how when you go to the doctor's office, in the exam room, there's a curtain right by the door? And when they ask you to get undressed, they then leave, and draw the curtain? Then, when they come back in, they knock on the door, come into the curtained space, and close the door before pulling the curtain back. The L&D rooms in the hospital have that same setup, so that patient privacy won't be violated every time anyone opens the door.
Discuss this stuff with your care provider (and tour the place you plan to birth, and ask questions), but if there are non-medical personnel you don't want to see you naked, I am highly certain that it can be arranged, even if you decide to labor in the altogether.