Tolerance and Understanding for Special Needs Parenting Please - Page 3

[wonderwahine]

Originally Posted by jauncourt

Oh, yes, please! And also SID adults (I'm one! ), and Asperger's, and, and, and...

Half the reason I am in this forum is because *I* have special needs - the other half is my DS1, and *his* special needs. Which don't mesh...

I've gotten good coping advice here, for both halves of our equation

Maura

I am pretty sure I have SID to.

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by Finch

This is true. When folks peer in here from their ivory towers and go a-postin' to steer us poor, misguided, imperfect mommies back on the path to AP/NFL righteousness, I think we do a pretty good job of calling in the calvary to defend our own.

This is going to sound horrid, too, but maybe these people who are posting in here with their judgment and one-size-fits-all-NFL/AP-gospel ideals will get a nice healthy wake up call when we give them the what for. : You know, sort of a changing the world one smackdown at a time?

Meh. I'm really crabby today. Hell, I'm really crabby all this month. I shouldn't even be posting on these threads until this moose fetus is out of me or something. I'm fat and can't breathe or bend right and my boobs are leaking out of control and I fart and contract all the time and don't sleep, so I'm pretty much evil on a stick right now.

Y'all just ignore me.

Is it wrong of me to have been agreeing with you throughout this thread and then rofl when I read about your moose offspring? :

[almama]

I lurk here a lot because my DS is passionate, intense, smart . . .but crosses a line with his behavior and I will do whatever it takes to help him - even if it means finding out something that I don't really want to hear. The Gentle Discipline forum was soooooo rough, I love the peace and support that I hear here for parents who are looking to love their kids in the best way possible.

I'm not sure what the answer to keeping it safe is . . . it is a shame that we even need to go there. I just wanted to let you all know you have my support.

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by Kodama

I just got the mental image of a baby with antlers and a vaginal birth.

My tubes just tied themselves.

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[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by ShaggyDaddy

Serving Assburgers with a smile

I have been known to say from time to time: I may have asperger's but at least I'm not being an assburger.

[mykdsmomy]

Originally Posted by bdavis337

Probably not. Then again, the idea of laying on top of, and deliberately squashing my tantrumming toddler isn't very GD either, and it's not made me very many friends, IRL or 'round the parenting subforums here in these parts......

Please please please don't anyone ever look in the front window to see me holding my 35 lb toddler to the floor by his upper arms while resting a bit of my weight on his thighs. He'll most likely be screaming and wailing, and it's possible I'll be unhappy myself. It won't be a pretty sight, that's for sure...........

You have no idea how validating it is to hear you say this! I purposely keep my curtains closed sometimes depending on ds's mood! There have been many a times of us playing WWF.......Anyone see that scene in Shrek?

As far as being GD......I spend 100% of my time and energy trying to keep ds safe and feeling secure......it's attachment parenting at it's extreme.....and it's as GD as I can imagine......It's funny to me how patient I've had to become because of my ds.......It's like an immersion class for GD...

[yarngoddess]

I agree that it seems that there is MORE flaming going on as of late. Maybe the Holidays are making people more crabby?

I just wanted to say that I support all you strong mothers&fathers out there that are dealing with a different child. (didn't know what else to say) My little sister is severly handicapped and I find that it is hard to escape the glare of judgment. I applaud all you for finding a way to help your children.

I also would fully support a "Flame-Free" board where we could discuss lots of things from step-families, to special needs kids, to difficult adult relationships.

[peekyboo]

Originally Posted by bdavis337

Probably not. Then again, the idea of laying on top of, and deliberately squashing my tantrumming toddler isn't very GD either, and it's not made me very many friends, IRL or 'round the parenting subforums here in these parts......

Please please please don't anyone ever look in the front window to see me holding my 35 lb toddler to the floor by his upper arms while resting a bit of my weight on his thighs. He'll most likely be screaming and wailing, and it's possible I'll be unhappy myself. It won't be a pretty sight, that's for sure...........

When my oldest was three, he'd throw big huge screaming fits - like for an hour or more. He'd kick and hit me unless I all but layed on him. I actually showed someone how to gently restrain their toddler for diaper changes b/c their toddler had started the whole "crocidile death roll" thing during each change. She thought I was a genius! LOL! But it was a cloth diaper she was changing, so does that make it more NFL?


I need a "Please don't judge me until you've lived a week in my house."

And I am totally lmao at Teh Assburgers. LMAO! Oh! Horrors! He has contracted Teh Assburgers! Quick, grab your tinfoil hats and back away from the microwave before you get it too!

[sunnmama]

Originally Posted by mykdsmomy

You have no idea how validating it is to hear you say this! I purposely keep my curtains closed sometimes depending on ds's mood!

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Sometimes I think we need a nodding/frowning smilie. We've been known to close the blinds when we see dd's agitation building. But what we know that, once she starts raging, restraining her and *ending* the episode (no matter how yucky it may be for all of us) is the best way we can keep everyone safe and help her move on. But, no, I don't talk about that anywhere but on the special needs board.

[lactationlady]

See, and I was thinking of an actual hand coming out of the computer screen smacking the front of someones forehead who dares to challenge a sn'd mamas parenting ....

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[crl]

Originally Posted by peekyboo

I actually showed someone how to gently restrain their toddler for diaper changes b/c their toddler had started the whole "crocidile death roll" thing during each change. She thought I was a genius! LOL!

Around here that was referred to as the WWF style of diaper changing. Luckily everyone also seemed to think I was a genius. (Or they kept their mouths shut 'cause they didn't want to end up changing the kid's diapers. )

[starry_mama]

Maybe there could at least be a sticky with rules. I know that some forums have special rules (like UC for instance). I don't see why there can't be a "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all" rule here. In fact, that rule should apply to the whole board and the whole world, but thats never going to happen.

[eclipse]

Maybe, to combat the "clicked through from New Posts" problem, we can have a couple of SN community police officers to PM gentle admonitions and polite edit requests to people who post "I can't believe you're talking about X,Y,Z!" when they clearly don't know where they are posting. . .I would suggest just saying it on the thread, but sometimes people never come back to a thread they posted in.

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by eclipse

I would suggest just saying it on the thread, but sometimes people never come back to a thread they posted in.

It's even more confusing when the OP never comes back. :

[aiccerb]

Originally Posted by Jennifer3141

Aren't there special rules for the "surviving abuse" forum?? Personally, I think this forum needs the same gentle reminders.

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[eclipse]

[Finch]

Originally Posted by peekyboo

So if you can't play nice, we will have no choice but to swarm on you like a pack of rabid monkeys. And if you're really bad, we'll sic Finch on you. You don't want that. She's a cranky, pregnant, SN's mom looking for an outlet for her frustrations.

Thanks for stopping by and have a fantastic day :

: : Add on to that "and she can fart on command."

Oh, man, Peeky...that wins the prize for best sticky EVER.

[bdavis337]

laughup

yeah, what peek said.......

[bdavis337]

Originally Posted by Finch

: : Add on to that "and she can fart on command."

Oh, man, Peeky...that wins the prize for best sticky EVER.

really? i sooo need to pick uo that skill!

[peekyboo]

I added it Finch! LMAO!