My son is 3 and a half and we just had our second child 2 weeks ago. We had planned an HBAC but ended up with an emergency c-section, which was a huge disappointment and has meant that I have a large painful incision that needs to heal. Since we've been home my son seems to be having a really hard time adjusting to the changes in the house, mostly in regards to the changes in me. My son is having a very tough time respecting my body with regards to being gentle with me after the surgery. Every morning he climbs into bed with us for a snuggle, and I make sure the baby is in the cosleeper so he can have private snuggle time. But in the bed he rolls around, kicks out his legs, wiggles, and tries to climb me, sit on me, and grab parts of my body that really hurt, such as my breasts and belly. I ask him not to and he will stop for a minute or 2 but starts right up again. Dh tells him to come over to his side and snuggle but DS refuses. Its bad enough that Dh and I are ready to ban him from morning snuggle time if he doesnt stop hurting me. I'm miserable that I can't have hardly any physical contact with my son without him hurting me somehow. Even hugging him, he pulls up his knees and tries to hang on me or climb me, which is very uncomfortable for my incision and my sore belly muscles.
I am still in a lot of pain 2 weeks later and very exhausted, and he refuses to leave me alone long enough for me to rest. I still have trouble bending over to pick things up, and have asked him not to throw things on the floor (playing 'mommy fetch' ), but he won't stop. He's not mean or malicious, he just doesn't listen or respect me when I ask him not to hurt me.
I dont know how to handle this, I feel like I am yelling at him constantly now that we are home. I feel useless as a parent to him because all my energy is directed on the new baby and on healing. My DH goes back to work in 2 days and I am so worried that I wont be able to handle both of them, or worse that DS will accidently hurt the baby.
Help!
Lisa
I am still in a lot of pain 2 weeks later and very exhausted, and he refuses to leave me alone long enough for me to rest. I still have trouble bending over to pick things up, and have asked him not to throw things on the floor (playing 'mommy fetch' ), but he won't stop. He's not mean or malicious, he just doesn't listen or respect me when I ask him not to hurt me.
I dont know how to handle this, I feel like I am yelling at him constantly now that we are home. I feel useless as a parent to him because all my energy is directed on the new baby and on healing. My DH goes back to work in 2 days and I am so worried that I wont be able to handle both of them, or worse that DS will accidently hurt the baby.
Help!
Lisa
