Well, there I said it. My daughter, who actually turns 13 in a month is just awful to be around.
She's always been a little bossy and was one of those high need babes.
She also used to be funny, charming and caring. She's incredibly smart (2E) and so well read. However, she has slowly turned into a snarling, yelling, snide, mean kid.
This isn't just at home either.
She goes to a small private middle & high school that we have stretched ourselves so thin to pull off. Community and collaboration are huge parts of this school's philosophy. The adults care, are really committed, the curriculum is rich and challenging and the opportunities are amazing...we're talking Archeology in Mesa Verde, service trips to Mexican Orphanages, that kind of stuff.
Last year she was fine. Some typical pre-teen stuff. This year, some new kids with major issues come to the school and she gravitates right to them and gets into this LOUD nasty, dissing, cutting, mean kid kind of stuff. They shuffle around, with the hoods up and just talk sh*t about people.
There are the nicest sweetest kids in this school and my kid just has to gravitate to the edgiest, darkest ones.
Now, I don't mean to say it's their fault. She is choosing to act this way and she's starting to lose her friends from last year because of this nastiness.
When she's called on it by the dean or a teacher she tries to turn it around that they won't let them be kids and they are always braething down their necks. She refuses to accept any responsibility for it. Or anything else for that matter.
Many of us send our kids to this school because we want to avoid the nastiness that can dominate middle school.
Any resources? BTDT?
Tracy
She's always been a little bossy and was one of those high need babes.
She also used to be funny, charming and caring. She's incredibly smart (2E) and so well read. However, she has slowly turned into a snarling, yelling, snide, mean kid.
This isn't just at home either.
She goes to a small private middle & high school that we have stretched ourselves so thin to pull off. Community and collaboration are huge parts of this school's philosophy. The adults care, are really committed, the curriculum is rich and challenging and the opportunities are amazing...we're talking Archeology in Mesa Verde, service trips to Mexican Orphanages, that kind of stuff.
Last year she was fine. Some typical pre-teen stuff. This year, some new kids with major issues come to the school and she gravitates right to them and gets into this LOUD nasty, dissing, cutting, mean kid kind of stuff. They shuffle around, with the hoods up and just talk sh*t about people.
There are the nicest sweetest kids in this school and my kid just has to gravitate to the edgiest, darkest ones.
Now, I don't mean to say it's their fault. She is choosing to act this way and she's starting to lose her friends from last year because of this nastiness.
When she's called on it by the dean or a teacher she tries to turn it around that they won't let them be kids and they are always braething down their necks. She refuses to accept any responsibility for it. Or anything else for that matter.
Many of us send our kids to this school because we want to avoid the nastiness that can dominate middle school.
Any resources? BTDT?
Tracy
Are there any "issues" that she feels passionate about? Any volunteer opportunities you can create for her? Can you help her to find a meaningful role in something she cares about, something that is positive and might help culture respect?
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I can see the up and down side to telling her.
