DD1 will be 5 next month and is driving me bonkers, this behavior has slowly bee increasing for the past several moths, and it's almost to a point where I don't want to be around her. 
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EVERYTHING is a life or death issue. For example, we could be getting out of the car, I'll unbuckle her seat first, then DD2, I'll pick up DD2, DD1 will still be taking sitting there taking her sweet time, so I'll say "come hold mama's hand so we can cross the street". She'll throw herself down screaming "I lost my shoe, you won't let me get it! I guess I'll just walk barefoot in the snow!" and then will start screaming loudly. Repeat various ways all day long, everyday. She has many more screaming fits now then she ever did as a toddler. Lack of sleep isn't a problem, if anything she is getting more sleep now then she ever has.
She is so angry all the time, like today I was guiding her around the car (parked on a busy street), I was touching her shoulder, she turned around and started hitting me, screaming at me. She hit me several times today , lots of screaming, fits, whining. The other day we had friends over, she hit or kicked three of them.
: My mom was with me today, DD1 had spent the night at her house, and we went shopping together, she was just floored. She said that DD1 didn't act like this at all the 24 hours she had her. DD1 does the same thing with DH as she does with me.
She has started to do things to 1y old DD2, pushing her down, etc... She'll do it in plain sight of me, run away to another part of the house, and then completely deny that she ever was in same room as us.
I don't get that much time one on one with DD1, we try to read books at night, just the two of us, several times a week. Dh gets quite a bit of one on one time with her, but she still acts the same with him. I've been consistent about removing her from the situation, she is getting alone time when something happens. I used not to do this but would discuss the issue with her, it got to a point where that was not working, I can talk until I'm blue in the face, she doesn't care. Keeping an item of her's also does not work. She does not go to school, we HS, and we stay very busy, so it's not like it's the three of us at home day after day.
The lying and whining issues I know are just the age, though that still doesn't help with the annoyance factor, but I don't know where the anger is coming from. Is that the age as well?
:EVERYTHING is a life or death issue. For example, we could be getting out of the car, I'll unbuckle her seat first, then DD2, I'll pick up DD2, DD1 will still be taking sitting there taking her sweet time, so I'll say "come hold mama's hand so we can cross the street". She'll throw herself down screaming "I lost my shoe, you won't let me get it! I guess I'll just walk barefoot in the snow!" and then will start screaming loudly. Repeat various ways all day long, everyday. She has many more screaming fits now then she ever did as a toddler. Lack of sleep isn't a problem, if anything she is getting more sleep now then she ever has.
She is so angry all the time, like today I was guiding her around the car (parked on a busy street), I was touching her shoulder, she turned around and started hitting me, screaming at me. She hit me several times today , lots of screaming, fits, whining. The other day we had friends over, she hit or kicked three of them.
: My mom was with me today, DD1 had spent the night at her house, and we went shopping together, she was just floored. She said that DD1 didn't act like this at all the 24 hours she had her. DD1 does the same thing with DH as she does with me.She has started to do things to 1y old DD2, pushing her down, etc... She'll do it in plain sight of me, run away to another part of the house, and then completely deny that she ever was in same room as us.
I don't get that much time one on one with DD1, we try to read books at night, just the two of us, several times a week. Dh gets quite a bit of one on one time with her, but she still acts the same with him. I've been consistent about removing her from the situation, she is getting alone time when something happens. I used not to do this but would discuss the issue with her, it got to a point where that was not working, I can talk until I'm blue in the face, she doesn't care. Keeping an item of her's also does not work. She does not go to school, we HS, and we stay very busy, so it's not like it's the three of us at home day after day.
The lying and whining issues I know are just the age, though that still doesn't help with the annoyance factor, but I don't know where the anger is coming from. Is that the age as well?
