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12/11/07 at 1:52pm
But I do work in a library that is heavily populated by teens, and frankly, their behavior horrifies me. They come into the library and are rude, belligerent, foul-mouthed, and basically unmannered. Not every one of them, but the majority. However, several of the people I work with are teens, and they are not that way at all.
My daughter was so sweet in her early teens and said so many complimentary things about me that I had to warn her, "There will come a day when you will rebel and hate me. But remember, I will still love you."
She's 18 now, and she is still sweet and still loves me! She says she doesn't understand why some of her friends are so mean to their parents.
I feel so blessed, but still sort of bracing myself for that rebellious period.
|My personal opinion is that our society creates the "teen attitude" through pop culture and treating children as decorations. I work hard in my home to do what I can to prevent my kids from developing this cultural expectation, and I don't think that it's a naturally occurring developmental phase.|
I used to know a security guard who worked at our public library, and he said that the teens who made trouble there were the ones who were expected to go there after school every day and stay until their parents got off work - basically, it was library as a free after school care program for teens. Basically, they were in need of adult attention and guidance and weren't getting it, and they also needed to let off steam a bit after a long day at school.
Most teens aren't like that...