Such a thing as "over" protective parenting? - Page 6

[ComaWhite]

What I heard:

"My personal experiences have colored my life for the better and cause me to make sound, ethical, intelligent decisions, while your personal experiences have skewed and perverted your life for the worse and cause you to make irrational, abusive and unhealthy decisions."


ETA: you still didnt answer my question: "why not support and help each other instead of stomp on a mama with superiority when she reaches out to the mothering community?"

[NYCVeg]

Originally Posted by andrea

What I heard:

"My personal experiences have colored my life for the better and cause me to make sound, ethical, intelligent decisions, while your personal experiences have skewed and perverted your life for the worse and cause you to make irrational, abusive and unhealthy decisions."


ETA: you still didnt answer my question: "why not support and help each other instead of stomp on a mama with superiority when she reaches out to the mothering community?"

Forget it. I'm not sure you even read my post. I said nothing about my personal experiences. I discussed research I have done. The OP said that her personal experiences skewed her perspective--she said it, not me. And as I said in my earlier post, I DO read this thread as support for the OP. I think everyone has been sympathetic to her experiences. But she asked if she was being overprotective...so should people not give her an honest assessment of this question, based on their own research and experience? Sometimes support means offering books or ideas or new perspective to think about--gently telling someone that something they're doing might have harmful potential (when they ask!) is not the same as "stomping on them."

I have a lot more I'd like to say, but I think I'll duck out of this thread and go do something productive.

[StarJune]

andrea: I agree with your analysis of this thread. I was amazed at how harshly others were critiquing the OP on her fears and concerns in trying to protect her child so I had to write a positive post to encourage her. There were a few others too but most told her in essence that she was abusive :. While I would not make the same decisions that the OP has, I do respect her commitment to protect her daughter from something that has so devastated her. And people do change and grow and make better decisions as they move towards healing.

I roll my eyes at the venom at which some talk about McDo and such when this is a valid person who needs support and info.

OP- I do recommend the book Protecting the Gift also. It is fabulous and focuses on getting in touch with our instincts.