Yeah, we told everyone. I couldn't summon the enthusiasm to make an effort to do it in a cute way only to be shot down, so once we decided people should know, we told them individually in a sort of off-hand way.
Usually, we tried to mention it in the midst of doing/going somewhere else, so there wasn't much opportunity for discussion. Like, we told my MIL right as we were walking down their driveway on Halloween to take dds TOTing. My mom was told as we were walking into the bridal shop to watch my baby sis try on gowns. Neither had as much to say as they would've if we'd made a production of it.
We ended up telling people earlier than we planned b/c I was so sick. It was sort of hard to hide, since people live pretty close by and I'm usually pretty involved and active with family things. Shrug. It worked out.
My oldest dd still doesn't know... she is really sensitive and I don't think she could handle it if we had a miscarriage, so we usually shield her for a really LONG time. As in, with Nora, we told her at around 25 weeks. One of my friends asked her what she thought was happening to me (re: my huge belly) and she just looked up, shrugged, and said oh-so-nonchalantly, "Too many cookies!"
She was SEVEN!
Pretty much everyone took the news well. Plus, it seems that pretty much everyone has resigned themselves to the whole NFL thing by now... we were gearing up for the annual Xmas tussle over plastic/beepy toys and when MIL called to ask about Xmas, she said that they had already decided to just give the girls books, art supplies, and roller skates - since we're so picky about toys. Meredith is going to get lessons, type of my choice (dance, *riding*, music, art, skating, rock climbing, etc). HOW much does that rock!!!??? Sigh of relief...
Sorry for hijacking! I'm so glad that you're most of the way over that hurdle! Now you can just settle in and bake your bean in peace.
Take good care!