Dp won't let me have a hb!!! - Page 6

[southernmommie]

I am hoping this is the case with DH. He still fears childbirth even with the previous 2 when we were in the hospital. So I am hoping that he will overcome these fears while we are doing this.

[honeybee]

Actually, dh is still afraid of the whole process. Hell, it still makes him nervous to hold a newborn, even though he held his own 2 all the time. He would be afraid no matter where we were birthing. vBut he recognizes that his fear is not rational or the basis for making decisions.

[To-Fu]

Just wanted to chime in with this awesome list of studies/research on the safety of home births:

http://www.gentlebirth.org/ronnie/homesafe.html

There are summaries of the articles (in case you don't want to read the entire things) and lots of links.

Best of luck to you, OP!

[baschabad]

My DH was also against a homebirth initially, like most people are, because of the way we've been conditioned that healthy births take place in hospitals.
We read The Thinking Woman's Guide, we had long chats with the midwife- and now he's on board.
What helped very much to alleviate his fears about my safety was to make it clear that I wasn't compromising. It's not what I would LIKE to emphasize, but for every statement about how hospitals are awful for giving routine pit, epidural, episiotomy etc. I would say something like, "Of course if I went into labor early I would go to a hospital!" or "Thank G-d they can do c-sections to save a baby's life." He felt reassured that I wasn't taking any risks in HBing.
He still makes fun of extreme 'crunchy-mamas' but he really is pro-homebirth, co-sleeping etc.

Good Luck, and please fight for it! You don't want to be the 1/3 who ends up on a surgery table to have a baby!