Look, I understand where you're coming from with respecting your husband's opinion and concern as a partner. But - it is also very clear that you do not understand what it's like to be pregnant for 9 months and give birth. There are so many bad things that can happen to you in a hospital - most of which are non-life-threatening - that won't be happening to him. He will not have to live with the outcome of this birth the way you will have to. He will not be as traumatised by a bad birth experience as you will be. The women that are here who are saying, "your body, your birth, your choice" are women who know this firsthand - no matter what happens in the birth, it's going to impact you, your body, and your emotional and mental well-being infinitely more than it will impact him.
I went into my first pregnancy with your attitude about my husband's fear and right to be involved in decisions regarding myself and the baby and so on and so forth - and I haven't lost all of it. I finished my first pregnancy strapped to a surgical table, shaking like a leaf, vomiting my empty guts up, feeling every cut and every stitch because the anesthetic did not work the way it was supposed to. It wasn't a medically indicated c-section (verified by several different OB's since then) but we were strongly coerced and scared into it just because I'd been in labor "too long," - 28 hours.
My second pregnancy I was still respecting him - he was afraid to VBAC at home. His fear this time was rupture, and the fact that while he agreed that the last c-section was unnecessary when it was performed, it's not clear that I wouldn't have ended up needing one (very poorly positioned baby). He was completely supportive of everything I wanted, except staying at home. I was miserable the whole pregnancy. I couldn't face the end, because I couldn't go to a hospital, not for anything. Not this completely different hospital 1000 miles away from the one with my first, not with my militantly pro-vbac practice, not with an OB who told me during my pre-natal care whenever I needed to hear it that it was my right as a patient to decline any practice, procedure, test, or routine that I wanted. Terrified. At 34 weeks, after having the "I can't go to a hospital" fight for the 70th time at least, I told him that I was done talking to him. I explained to him calmly that there was absolutely NO chance that he'd end up carved open like a thanksgiving turkey when we go to the hospital, and that being the case I no longer gave a shit how he felt. I started calling homebirthing midwives. Several of them were willing to take me on, even as far along as I was.
Now, I didn't end up staying home, I found a midwife who was willing to be my doula, I ordered a tub from waterbirth international and had it sent to my hospital, and I refused to consent to anything unless someone was actually going to die - and I succeeded. I had my intervention free vbac in a hospital - no drugs, no unneccessary or unwanted ANYTHING.
This time around we are going to give birth to our 3rd and most likely final child at home. My husband is with me, but if I could go back and do it all over again, I'd have forced the homebirth issue the first pregnancy, before I was marked for life unnecessarily by my scarred uterus. At the time I didn't even look into it - it was outside his comfort zone and it hadn't called to me yet. But, if I knew then what I know now - that the safest thing for both me and baby is to be born at home with an experienced midwife - I would have fought for it.
I hope this isn't so long that you don't read it, because I'm trying to explain to you why you should be listening to the women here who are telling you "your body, your birth, your choice" and not just disregarding it as the comments of women who just don't have the kind of relationship that you have with your husband. That's what I used to think too, but that's not it. I have an amazingly strong marriage to an amazingly empathetic man - but he cannot give birth for us, that is my job. Honestly, he is one of the ones who actually would if he could. But, since it's my job to give birth, it's my responsibility to make sure that it happens under the conditions that are safest for me and our baby - not his.