Crisis Buddies - UPDATE

[Curlita]

UPDATE: I sent out the phone listing to those who were interested. If you did get it and should have, let me know. I may have typed your user name wrong in the PM thingy.
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It came up in another thread that there are more than a few of us who are struggling right now, along with the idea of swapping phone numbers so those of us who occasionally find ourselves in a moment of mental/emotional/child-rearing crisis have someone to call. Personally, I don't feel like I have and close friends who get what I'm going through -- most of my really intimate friends don't have kids.

So, post here if you would be interested in having a crisis buddy and also weigh in as to whether you'd be more interested in:
--having one buddy whose number you have, and who has your number
or
--having your number available to several people (and having several people available to call)

[monocyte]

I would def be in!! Sometimes all it takes is someone that will listen and relate!

[boogiemonster]

Me!! Me!!

I'm up for one buddy or many. Any amount of support is appreciated.

[*Lindsey*]

One or many, it matters not!

[Curlita]

Okay, since the more the merrier seems to be the consensus, PM me your phone numbers and I'll redistribute them.

[kathteach]

Curlita, can I still do it if I only want to call/receive calls on a once or twice weekly basis?

[Kontessa]

Count me in!

[AKmomof2+1inNov]

I'll join but I'll be too nervous to call anyone-honestly...but being in a late (4 hours behind e.s.t.) timezone and up until 1-3am every night, I'm open to late night calls...but on the flip side of that I'm not really available during normal people's day hours.

[*Lindsey*]

Erica, could you please include both the MDC username and real name in the phone list? And maybe timezone or something so we aren't calling someone at 2AM?

[Curlita]

Originally Posted by *Lindsey*

Erica, could you please include both the MDC username and real name in the phone list? And maybe timezone or something so we aren't calling someone at 2AM?

Yup, I've got all that, including any notes people give me on availability, whether the phone is cell or shared line, etc.

[Da WIC Lady]

Originally Posted by Curlita

Yup, I've got all that, including any notes people give me on availability, whether the phone is cell or shared line, etc.

Oh, I forgot in the PM to tell you it's a cell, but I guess you might've figured that from that it's not going to change after moving to a different state/timezone in two months. OMG! I only have less than 2 months to pack! ACK!


Anna

[Curlita]

So, are you up until 1 AM-3 AM in your time zone, or EST? I couldn't tell from the way you phrased it... and don't want to put that people can call you until that late your time if that's not what you meant!

Originally Posted by AKmomof2+1inNov

I'll join but I'll be too nervous to call anyone-honestly...but being in a late (4 hours behind e.s.t.) timezone and up until 1-3am every night, I'm open to late night calls...but on the flip side of that I'm not really available during normal people's day hours.

[pixiesmommy]

I don't think I would ever call anyone or be available if someone called me since Peri is so high-needs, but I posted a spin-off thread that might help those of us who need a little cheering and something to look forward to... it wouldn't help in a crisis though!
Here is the link if anyone is interested:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=811134

[Kontessa]

You can list me as a any time call, it is a cell number and if I do not pick up, asume I am in church or too drained to wake up and get the phone. Chances are though as my baby is up all night, I will be as well. LOL I do not think I will need to call anyone but then, I guess thats what the list is for, when @#&% happens.

I have been trained in NVC (Non-Violent communication), peaceful parenting, and alternatives to violence. All in hopes I would have tools to be a better parent, not spanking, then my own, and I am! But as I have anger issus this pregnancy and even now, I can not say I do not yell and think bad things... Like how I would love to just lock them in their rooms for a while or smack my son for hitting me in the face (This is new and a result of new baby, my stess, and all the work with Daddy coming home, sigh) Still, my friends find me a great resource and you can almost bet I am one of the least judgemental people you could talk to. I have high expectations of my own life but I do not put those on others.

Anyway...... if I do call someone it will be a "poor me" call and I will just need someone to listen and Hear me. The firend who filled that role for me, without judgement, has passed on, so I might need it more then I think now.

Blessings,
Kimmy

[AKmomof2+1inNov]

Originally Posted by Curlita

So, are you up until 1 AM-3 AM in your time zone, or EST? I couldn't tell from the way you phrased it... and don't want to put that people can call you until that late your time if that's not what you meant!

Sorry, that wasn't very clear...I'm up until 1am Alaska time or later.

[monocyte]

Originally Posted by Kontessa

Anyway...... if I do call someone it will be a "poor me" call and I will just need someone to listen and Hear me. The firend who filled that role for me, without judgement, has passed on, so I might need it more then I think now.

Kimmy! That's why I'm glad we are doing this...I see it not only helpful in a crisis moments, but also just to chat. We've known each other for 9 months here, and I consider you all my friends...but would love to be able to hear your voices as well.

And, if this makes you feel any better, my DS also slapped me across the face a few weeks ago. It hurt, both physically and emotionally as I also believe in non-violent communication...only to have him hit me! I cried, oh, did I cry. And he saw, and I think that got a message across more so than me reaching out and hitting back (admittedly that was my first thought, but I knew that wouldnt get me anywhere.)

[Curlita]

Originally Posted by monocyte

And, if this makes you feel any better, my DS also slapped me across the face a few weeks ago. It hurt, both physically and emotionally as I also believe in non-violent communication...only to have him hit me! I cried, oh, did I cry. And he saw, and I think that got a message across more so than me reaching out and hitting back (admittedly that was my first thought, but I knew that wouldnt get me anywhere.)

I have had that happen too. Same story, hitting and crying and that making the impression. Also had a similar situation happen once when Dylan ran across the parking lot away from me. I hollered, I was stern, I tried to talk reasonably about why that was dangerous, etc. He laughed. I burst into tears and THAT made the impression, when he realized how frightened I had been.