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does the state of the HOUSE = how you feel

Poll Results: Does the state of your house = your mental or emotional state?

 
  • 2% (4)
    NO don't be silly
  • 84% (166)
    YES if the house is a mess i feel overwelemd, anxious, etc -- keeping it clean helps my mood
  • 10% (20)
    YES -- if i feel bad i let the hosue go -- look at my house and see how i feel
  • 3% (6)
    OTHER -- not sure, but there is always an OTHER
196 Total Votes  
post #1 of 44
Thread Starter 
i know for me if i let the house go, i feel crumy. If i can keep on top of the house, then i feel better no matter what .....

I have seen a number of other moms comment on this as well

Also I know some where it is the other way around -- if the house is a mess it is BECAUSE they are in a slump personally

(where as for me the house can put me in a slump)

thoughts??

Is this true for a lot of people?

AImee

MY FIRST EVER POLL
post #2 of 44
Absolutely!
post #3 of 44
The state of the house and my mood are definitely connected, though I don't know which one comes first. I think it's one of those "the chicken or the egg" things
post #4 of 44
Absolutely! If my house is a mess or is cluttered, my mind feels cluttered. I feel overwhelmed and anxious, which leads to feeling depressed.
post #5 of 44
If my house gets messy, I get very overwhelmed.

It's not a matter of me letting it go or keeping up though. My partner and I share housework. When we are cleaning when it is really cluttered or messy, I get so overwhelmed, and have to ask my partner to give me one thing to do at a time or else I get to overwhelmed and discouraged and don't want to do anything.
post #6 of 44
Absolutely. The advice about not worrying about your house when you have kids.... not for me. When my house is a wreck I am a wreck. We are all happier when its relatively clean and picked up.
post #7 of 44
i put "other."

i fiind that when my house is basicly clean and organized, i tend to be calmer overall.

when it's a little messy, it's not so much of a problem.

but when it gets really messy, it can feel overwhelming to try and clean it up. then, i get anxious--because i feel like i don't have enough time to clean/organize.

my husband said that we can hire an organizer/cleaning crew this spring. my mom said she would pitch in some money for it!
post #8 of 44
Both YES options for me! If I feel bad (like I have for the past week or two) then I let the house go and it really reflects how I feel. Also, if the house gets cluttered and dirty then it can cause me to feel anxious, snappy and irritable.
post #9 of 44
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Originally Posted by zoebird View Post
my husband said that we can hire an organizer/cleaning crew this spring. my mom said she would pitch in some money for it!

Wow- that is brilliant!! What an awesome gift.

I have the double whammy of bad house=bad mood and then also being overwhelmed by work fatigue/ high energy boys. I have a secret little pipe dream of living by myself in a little bungalow... with only the possessions I truly need plus a big bookshelf. sigh.
post #10 of 44
Thread Starter 
Quote:
my husband said that we can hire an organizer/cleaning crew this spring. my mom said she would pitch in some money for it!
do we have a jeaous smile
post #11 of 44
Yes, absolutely. For me visual clutter=mental clutter. I feel anxious and moody if I don't keep up on decluttering and keeping things tidy.
post #12 of 44
I can't even go to sleep knowing that there is a mess...I just can't relax and get comfortable! I guess that is because its on my mind of things that need to be done.
post #13 of 44
Not really...if it's at an extreme (either) there's probably a problem, but, otherwise, it goes anywhere from nearly perfect to "clear a path", without much effect. I've decluttered to the point, though, that even when DD goes on a tear, it's hard to get *too* messy anymore.

I do like decluttering projects, though, so I usually feel happier when those are done, even if the house is messier...Ex: Last night, I put all our DVDs in a DVD holder, and got rid of their cases...but, b/c I spent so much time on that, the house was wrecked by DD at the end. I also like to cook/bake, so, the house sometimes gets *messier* when I'm happier (b/c I'm busy enjoying other things).
post #14 of 44
ITA!!! The one room in my house that needs some major work is my sewing room. But I'm scared to go in there b/c of what it will do to my mind ... muwahaha!
post #15 of 44
Yes, it totally stressed me out to wake up or come home to a messy house. It took me a long time to figure that out, though. If I don't have time in the morning to get my house clean, I always stop at home before picking up DD so that i have a clean house when we are in for the night.
post #16 of 44
Yes, hence my current slump. I'm joining flylady's list today. Like another e-mail per day is going to help me get my house in order.
post #17 of 44
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Originally Posted by ananas View Post
Absolutely! If my house is a mess or is cluttered, my mind feels cluttered. I feel overwhelmed and anxious, which leads to feeling depressed.
That's how I feel exactly.
post #18 of 44
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Originally Posted by MommytoTwo View Post
Absolutely. The advice about not worrying about your house when you have kids.... not for me. When my house is a wreck I am a wreck. We are all happier when its relatively clean and picked up.
Yep, exactly this. If there is clutter all over the place I have been known to absolutely lose my shit.
post #19 of 44
Other, both choices 2 and 3. If I let the house get below a certain minimal level of clean I get freaked out and if I'm stressed for some other reason I have a tendency to let the house go.

Goal for winterbreak: getting the house to a point where school stress doesn't cause the house to fall apart.
post #20 of 44
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Originally Posted by ananas View Post
Absolutely! If my house is a mess or is cluttered, my mind feels cluttered. I feel overwhelmed and anxious, which leads to feeling depressed.
EXACTLY!!
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