Originally Posted by harleyhalfmoon
It's funny that you would assume that you know what my stepdaughter thinks of this home or that home, when you don't even know me or her. Given what her Mother feeds her, I'm surprised that she sees her Dad or her Dad's family as any kind of family, BUT, my stepdaughter, although she will sometimes tell us it's hard switching between homes, thinks of both homes as "home". If she needs to specify which one, she says, "Home with Mommy" or "Home with Daddy and Krissy", but they are both "home" to her. And the ornament does have to do with real family- if you knew all that my stpedaughter's Mother tells her to try to turn her against us, you would know that, but I'm not gonna sit her and write down example after example of how her Mother tries to make us look like we're nothing to my stepdaughter, that there's something wrong with my stepdaughter for wanting to come to our house when it's time. She should not be made to feel like she is only allowed to love one home, one parent, but she is.
I never said I know your stepdaughter. The problem is not the ornament or what it says, its the situation with her mother obviously.
This is an internet board, of course I don't know you or your stepdaughter, but I have read other posts about your situation. I just don't think that the ornament is a big deal and you you should not give her (sd's mom) the satisfaction of getting upset by it.
Your stepdaughter is getting it and the older she gets the more she will see what her mother is doing and she will not ultimately be swayed by it, if anything she will resent her mother because of it. It sounds like you have a good relationship with her (dsd) and that you are being the bigger person (you and her dad) in the situation and trust me, she will figure it all out, you don't have to do anything but continue what you are doing. Loving her, being a good role model, not badmouthing her mom, making her feel welcome in your home.