Is this RAD?This has been such an interesting thread to read. I, too, got beat up last time I posted in the adoption forum (for discussing changing my dd's name), and have been away for a while. But, lurking on this thread has actually given me some insight into what (I think) we've been dealing with for a while.
Tell me what y'all think, whether these sound like attachment issues or just 2yo issues:
I don't know if I'm being too sensitive, or if it is just that she's in a stage of preferring my husband or what, but she is very eager to see me leave and throws a horrible fit when he does. She does seem to like me, but it just feels like something is missing.
DD is very reluctant to look us in the eyes when she is being corrected;
She is extremely sensitive about us touching her (particularly relative to diapering and touching her feeding tube);
She pretends not to hear us calling her;
She doesn't want to be snuggled - ever;
Although she have limited communication skills (because of a trach), she
does have some sounds. However she will not say "I love you" or any verbal approximation of it. She only will blow kisses;
At the grocery store, or any time she's riding in a cart, she will try to touch EVERYONE;
Whenever she is corrected, she just says "Hi" and waves
Backstory, briefly: DD was taken in to foster care at 16mos for inorganic failure to thrive and systematic neglect, she is our niece and we gained full custody of her at 22 months (she's 30 months now). She has quite a few special needs and was left alone for much of the first year and half of her life.