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post #21 of 66
12/15/07 at 9:56am
I am so sorry and I will be thinking of you both

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post #22 of 66
12/15/07 at 12:51pm
So Sorry Mama, I hope it helps him.
post #23 of 66
12/15/07 at 12:55pm
You poor sweetie. s to you.

I've been listening to a fellow mom at my son's school talk about similiar issues. They had to release their son to inpatient care also, he is 5. It has really been horrible for their family, as I am certain it is for yours.

You are not alone dear mama.


Peace and healing to your family, especially your child.
post #24 of 66
12/15/07 at 2:49pm
I am very, very sorry to hear this.
Lots of love to both your, your son, and your family during this tough time.
Here is hoping that this will be a turning point.

Hattelatte
post #25 of 66
12/15/07 at 2:53pm
I'm so sorry!! I wish you all the best.
post #26 of 66
12/15/07 at 3:37pm
post #27 of 66
12/15/07 at 3:53pm
I hope he gets the help he needs.
post #28 of 66
12/15/07 at 5:52pm
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much, everyone. It is so warning to see people here offering support and hugs and words of kindness for little ole me and my family. Very humbling.

I saw him yesterday, to fill out the forms to allow the facility temporary "custody". He went through the expected stages of asking to be taken home, then begging, then blaming, then yelling and arguing, and then things got very ugly. I was escorted out and he was semi-restrained as he was trying to charge me. I stayed calm the entire time and was loving but firm, "You need to be here right now. I love you too much to let this opportunity for help slip us by". etc.

It was bad. I felt so broken. I do know that this is the absolute right thing for him and our family but it's a crappy thing to live through. There is so much guilt, pain, sadness, and fear. I have had one of those years that no one imagines having....really. And this is icing on the cake.

I want him to be better. I know its going to be a tough road. But man, I think back to taking him this teeny little cherub, all of 6 pounds. His spirit has always been love and light. You just wonder how you got here.
post #29 of 66
12/15/07 at 6:10pm
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Originally Posted by Stinkerbell View Post
Thanks so much, everyone. It is so warning to see people here offering support and hugs and words of kindness for little ole me and my family. Very humbling.

I saw him yesterday, to fill out the forms to allow the facility temporary "custody". He went through the expected stages of asking to be taken home, then begging, then blaming, then yelling and arguing, and then things got very ugly. I was escorted out and he was semi-restrained as he was trying to charge me. I stayed calm the entire time and was loving but firm, "You need to be here right now. I love you too much to let this opportunity for help slip us by". etc.

It was bad. I felt so broken. I do know that this is the absolute right thing for him and our family but it's a crappy thing to live through. There is so much guilt, pain, sadness, and fear. I have had one of those years that no one imagines having....really. And this is icing on the cake.

I want him to be better. I know its going to be a tough road. But man, I think back to taking him this teeny little cherub, all of 6 pounds. His spirit has always been love and light. You just wonder how you got here.
Oh my, poor poor momma.
post #30 of 66
12/15/07 at 6:18pm
Sending you and your family love and light
post #31 of 66
12/15/07 at 9:14pm
I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts.
post #32 of 66
12/15/07 at 9:19pm
post #33 of 66
12/15/07 at 9:28pm


I'm so sorry you're going through this. My 17-yo dd was voluntarily committed this October, and it was so hard. I can imagine how much more difficult it must be when your ds does not want to be there. I hope he gets the help he needs.

I've also spent many hours wondering how my even-tempered, good-natured little girl ended up so depressed that she needed confinement. Do not take it on yourself; try to move forward by getting him whatever help he needs.
post #34 of 66
12/15/07 at 9:35pm
I'm so sorry, mama.
post #35 of 66
12/16/07 at 12:12am
to you, your son and the rest of your family.
post #36 of 66
12/16/07 at 12:15am
Oh dear I have been at the point with my son, but thankfully I never had to go through with it. We may have to some day, I hope not, but if that is what will help him then it is my job to see to it that he gets the help he needs. I know you are a sensitive, loving mama and you are being his awesome mama and one day he will thank you
post #37 of 66
12/16/07 at 12:56am
Your DS is lucky to have such a strong mama fighting to get him the help he needs.

Sending live and light and best wishes to you, your son, and your family in this difficult time. :

post #38 of 66
12/16/07 at 1:53am
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Originally Posted by Flower of Bliss View Post
Your DS is lucky to have such a strong mama fighting to get him the help he needs.

Sending live and light and best wishes to you, your son, and your family in this difficult time. :
:
It's an incredible gift to him that you are willing to take such a hard, important step.
post #39 of 66
12/16/07 at 11:30am
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Iris' Mom View Post


I'm so sorry you're going through this. My 17-yo dd was voluntarily committed this October, and it was so hard. I can imagine how much more difficult it must be when your ds does not want to be there. I hope he gets the help he needs.

I've also spent many hours wondering how my even-tempered, good-natured little girl ended up so depressed that she needed confinement. Do not take it on yourself; try to move forward by getting him whatever help he needs.
Initially, he went voluntarily. Then he realized what he had agreed to and flipped out. There is a history there of his father telling him that I am trying to "poison" him with medications and that psychiatry is not a real branch of medicine, but rather it is some secret way for the government to spy on our families and whatnot.

Yeah.

So, I sort of anticipated there would be a series of stages he'd go through. Yesterday they said he was bright and appropriate and took his medicine willingly, which made me soar.

I feel very broken. I KNOW it's the best and right thing but it hurts so much to sit here eating my blueberry muffin and coffee with my family, knowing he is experiencing his own personal hell and I put him there.
post #40 of 66
12/16/07 at 11:49am
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I feel very broken. I KNOW it's the best and right thing but it hurts so much to sit here eating my blueberry muffin and coffee with my family, knowing he is experiencing his own personal hell and I put him there.
This is such a normal maternal response my heart is with you right now. I have to believe that your son deep down feels your love.
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