I had to commit my son :( - Page 4

[Iris' Mom]

Originally Posted by Stinkerbell

My best friend works at McLean's and it is the best but they are impossible to get into. And, a bit too far away for me to be present there. We have a lot of similarities in our situations. May I ask how old DD is?

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His official diagnosis is a "non specific explosive mood disorder" which is sort of wishywashy terminology, if you ask me. Sort of a "name" for something they cant quite define. They are reluctant to label him as bi-polar, as that can stick with you forever and they'd like to see how he responds to the treatment plan first.

Sorry I missed your update post. I'm glad he's home. My dd is 17.

I'm wondering if you are in MA, just because if you do get the bipolar diagnosis, you are entitled to parity in medical treatment (eg., he can get unlimited therapy sessions if the doctor recommends, versus the usual 24) and he cannot be discriminated against as having a preexisting condition nor can he be charged more in future health coverage. Of course, if he moves, then he may not be protected, but it's something to keep in mind if they are considering that diagnosis.

[MaShroom]

I cannot even imagine... Sending you and your family love, strength and healing.

[Stinkerbell]

Iris' Mama....Yes, I am in MA. He is continuing to see the therapist and going to see a psychiatrist to oversee his meds in 2 weeks so I do want to address the issue of whether or not there is a diagnosis.

[2mama]

good luck and best wishes..

[Stinkerbell]

Bah. It's like my child is being absorbed by something I cannot see or identify. People keep asking me how he's doing and I don't even know! He's not happy, he's still losing weight, he has not even opened his christmas gifts he was DYING to get (video camera, mini fridge). He's not eating. I am pretty sure he's taking his medication but it's tough to tell unless I stand over him which I'm reluctant to do.

I can't find my baby in there

I also don't know how much of this is just ME, reacting to it as his mom. I have no idea what to watch for, how to evaluate, what to worry about, or anything. I try to just carry on with life and make extra effort to keep him engaged in the family but that's not easy. He's 14....he doesn't want to DO much of anything with us.

There is a list of things I want to talk to the counselor about but I don't know how to separate my fears/anxieties from issues that really need to be looked at. argh.

Anyone have book/website/info recommendations? I'm feeling pretty lost.

[Stinkerbell]

Bah. It's like my child is being absorbed by something I cannot see or identify. People keep asking me how he's doing and I don't even know! He's not happy, he's still losing weight, he has not even opened his christmas gifts he was DYING to get (video camera, mini fridge). He's not eating. I am pretty sure he's taking his medication but it's tough to tell unless I stand over him which I'm reluctant to do.

I can't find my baby in there

I also don't know how much of this is just ME, reacting to it as his mom. I have no idea what to watch for, how to evaluate, what to worry about, or anything. I try to just carry on with life and make extra effort to keep him engaged in the family but that's not easy. He's 14....he doesn't want to DO much of anything with us.

There is a list of things I want to talk to the counselor about but I don't know how to separate my fears/anxieties from issues that really need to be looked at. argh.

Anyone have book/website/info recommendations? I'm feeling pretty lost.