Originally Posted by Individuation
No. And I'm now ducking my landord.
My landlord is the sort of guy who thinks he's "funny." I'm the sort of person who doesn't get jokes. We basically hate having conversations.
He called about the cat thing, and I mentioned that I might be taking the cat to Brooklyn but needed a carrier. He started telling me to "put him in a box." Yeah--not doing that driving alone with a six-month-old in a carseat, thanks. Then he started making these... jokes? Like "put him in the trunk... tie him to the bumper..."
Basically, he really freaked me out and now my husband has to talk to him. I don't do it. BUT... he has said the cat must go. And the cat is still here. And I have no idea what to do.
Oh--for those who are wondering--it seems the cat belonged to an old woman around the corner. She died. The cat was put out. At least this is what neighbors have told me.
FTR, I think the whole "outdoor cat" thing is completely unethical. Even in rural areas. Even if the cats "are so happy." In the suburbs? In NYC? It's horrifying. From a Buddhist perspective, I'd call it asking for a pretty inauspicious rebirth. It's also ILLEGAL.
You are a wonderful person for doing this with Sage, taking such good care of him(?) for so long. Okay, so I like Katherine's suggestions about trying to work out a resolution with the landlord IF, and only if, you would like to keep him. Perhaps a security deposit that can be used for any damages that he's afraid will happen. You can write up a contract of things that would be cause for him keeping the deposit, or a contract that would detail any possible damages (or whatever else his concerns are) and what cost you would pay for them upon move out.
If you are not wanting to keep him, and would like to adopt him out, then I think that it's reasonable to have your DH discuss a reasonable time frame with the landlord, and again, asking him if he needs some sort of smaller deposit if he's nervous about damages. Knowing what I know about your communication and your strengths and weaknesses, it seems like having some concrete boundaries and expectations would help you feel less anxious about this.
So, can you have your DH ask for:
1. leeway for keeping the cat and what that would entail OR
2. a chiseled in stone time frame for allowing the cat to remain while you locate a home for it
I wouldn't be above begging or throwing down a "Well, huh. It appears we are at an impasse. I cannot abuse this animal by putting him out in the cold, that is illegal (or something - whatever is true and also supports your position) and inhumane, but I also cannot satisfy you. What compromise can we come to?"