Autistic girl has no plans to put cat out in the cold. Stop asking. Update post 32, 83 - Page 5

[SevenVeils]

He's beautiful! If you lived close to me I'd take him in a second.

I have to say, that looks like a tomcat head to me, but here's how you tell:

A penis has a round hole. A vulva has a slit opening. If the opening looks like a line, it's a she.

[GranoLLLy-girl]

Originally Posted by Jennifer Z

You are absolutely doing the right thing.

A few easy "toys": paper bag...don't know what it is about paper grocery bags, but our cats always loved them. A wad of aluminum foil or paper scrunched up in a ball, a baby sock folded over to make a ball, box, yarn, scrunchies and covered elastic hair do-dads, a straw or pen that can be spun on a hard surface, and unless you want toilet paper everywhere, you might want to take it off the roll because once they discover that you are going to have a mess.

All of this is good, except the bold. Aluminum foil is easily ingested and that can kill an animal.

A scratch post, or twine wrapped tightly around and around a board is nice for cats so they don't ruin your furniture.

I think there is a website--petfinders or something like that.

[Individuation]

Originally Posted by leighann79

Any luck finding Sage a home?

Arrrggghhh...

No. And I'm now ducking my landord.

My landlord is the sort of guy who thinks he's "funny." I'm the sort of person who doesn't get jokes. We basically hate having conversations.

He called about the cat thing, and I mentioned that I might be taking the cat to Brooklyn but needed a carrier. He started telling me to "put him in a box." Yeah--not doing that driving alone with a six-month-old in a carseat, thanks. Then he started making these... jokes? Like "put him in the trunk... tie him to the bumper..."

Basically, he really freaked me out and now my husband has to talk to him. I don't do it. BUT... he has said the cat must go. And the cat is still here. And I have no idea what to do.

Oh--for those who are wondering--it seems the cat belonged to an old woman around the corner. She died. The cat was put out. At least this is what neighbors have told me.

FTR, I think the whole "outdoor cat" thing is completely unethical. Even in rural areas. Even if the cats "are so happy." In the suburbs? In NYC? It's horrifying. From a Buddhist perspective, I'd call it asking for a pretty inauspicious rebirth. It's also ILLEGAL.

[GranoLLLy-girl]

At least you now know who the cat belonged to. Now you can find a forever home for him/her. I wonder who put the cat out once the owner died?
Gee, I can't imagine doing that. If it's the woman's adult children (surmising that she had some)--then the cat is better off going somewhere other than with them. Ya know?
But since you know that it is unwanted as opposed to lost--you can give it to the person you said would take it earlier in the thread.

[GranoLLLy-girl]

Oh by the way, you might be able to get a cardboard cat carrier at your local SPCA for a few dollars...our local Wal-Mart carries them for less than $15. Maybe the new owner can reimburse you.
I even saw a small pet carrier at our local thrift store--maybe yours has one?

[queenjane]

Do you think there is any way that your landlord could let you keep him? Could you offer to pay a pet deposit? Or increase your rent by ten bucks a month (not sure you would want to/be able to afford this?) Or do you think its totally nonnegotiable?


Katherine

[daniedb]

Originally Posted by Individuation

Arrrggghhh...

No. And I'm now ducking my landord.

My landlord is the sort of guy who thinks he's "funny." I'm the sort of person who doesn't get jokes. We basically hate having conversations.

He called about the cat thing, and I mentioned that I might be taking the cat to Brooklyn but needed a carrier. He started telling me to "put him in a box." Yeah--not doing that driving alone with a six-month-old in a carseat, thanks. Then he started making these... jokes? Like "put him in the trunk... tie him to the bumper..."

Basically, he really freaked me out and now my husband has to talk to him. I don't do it. BUT... he has said the cat must go. And the cat is still here. And I have no idea what to do.

Oh--for those who are wondering--it seems the cat belonged to an old woman around the corner. She died. The cat was put out. At least this is what neighbors have told me.

FTR, I think the whole "outdoor cat" thing is completely unethical. Even in rural areas. Even if the cats "are so happy." In the suburbs? In NYC? It's horrifying. From a Buddhist perspective, I'd call it asking for a pretty inauspicious rebirth. It's also ILLEGAL.

You are a wonderful person for doing this with Sage, taking such good care of him(?) for so long. Okay, so I like Katherine's suggestions about trying to work out a resolution with the landlord IF, and only if, you would like to keep him. Perhaps a security deposit that can be used for any damages that he's afraid will happen. You can write up a contract of things that would be cause for him keeping the deposit, or a contract that would detail any possible damages (or whatever else his concerns are) and what cost you would pay for them upon move out.

If you are not wanting to keep him, and would like to adopt him out, then I think that it's reasonable to have your DH discuss a reasonable time frame with the landlord, and again, asking him if he needs some sort of smaller deposit if he's nervous about damages. Knowing what I know about your communication and your strengths and weaknesses, it seems like having some concrete boundaries and expectations would help you feel less anxious about this.

So, can you have your DH ask for:
1. leeway for keeping the cat and what that would entail OR
2. a chiseled in stone time frame for allowing the cat to remain while you locate a home for it

I wouldn't be above begging or throwing down a "Well, huh. It appears we are at an impasse. I cannot abuse this animal by putting him out in the cold, that is illegal (or something - whatever is true and also supports your position) and inhumane, but I also cannot satisfy you. What compromise can we come to?"

[Purple*Lotus]

The poor kitty He is probably very confused, not understanding what happened to his owner or why he was put out

Can you borrow a cat carrier from a friend/neighbor/relative? That way you wont have to buy one to transport.