My DH was pretty set against it too. Finally, I said fine on two conditions. 1- you arrange to watch one in person or watch two on video AND 2-you go with your son and comfort him while it's being done. Guess what?
My boys are intact.
He never even tried to download the videos. He couldn't stomach the idea of having to watch.
It only makes sense that you have to see it to really understand what you are doing. And you should really understand before you make a life time decision for someone else's body.
Best wishes to you and your son.
When I found out we were having a ds I cried because of the circ issue. I wanted a girk sinply because there would be no argument.
We had some awful screaming matches during pregnancy. They got very bad. The whole neighborhood could hear us. Luckily we have many Euro friend who are intact. They helped me out a lot. I call them my angels. Once dh saw him his mind changed. The stay in the nicu reinforced this. We are in New England as well. All 12 other nephews on his side are circ'd but our ds is INTACT. Dh is all about no circ now.