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post #1 of 9
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My dd is 13 days past her EDD. She and her dh are getting worried. She is planning on giving birth at a birthing center with midwives. She told me last night that her dh is getting panicky about her ending up with a c-section and, well, he is thinking worst case scenario, since they had a friend pass away 8 hours after giving birth vaginally to her son. I assured her that even if it came to that, I had 3 c-sections, and was fine (still am).

She is just under a lot of pressure. Her mw's moved her edd from Dec 3 to Dec 8, so that technically makes her 8 days post dates? She is upset because she knows her lmp, as well as, conception date. However, way back at the beginning of her pregnancy she had a vaginal ultrasound that gave the date of Dec 8 (she was with an ob, then switched to the mw) She is happy they moved her date, but still very concerned that she is about to be 14 days past her (1st) edd.

On Friday she went to an acupuncturist that the mw recommended and had a treatment. He told her he has a 100% success rate. I want to say within 24 to 48 hours of treatment. Well, nothing! she's been walking like crazy and trying to do things that she cannot do with an infant to keep her mind occupied. Last night she told me she was doing visualization and hoping that relaxing her body would help her out.

Can we get ideas here as to ways to get this thing going before they send her off to the ob? (who btw, she has never met) I feel so bad for her.
post #2 of 9
I bet she has the baby soon. That said, there are many things she can try to help things along!

Sex helps, there is a hormone in semen that helps soften the cervix. Also evening primrose oil capsules, taken both orally and vaginally. Sometimes having a glass of wine and RELAXING can help bring things on, too. Take a ride down a bumpy road. Nipple stimulation helps as well...she can sit and watch tv and tweak her nipples, or use a breast pump. I think 15 min or so at a time?? That tends to bring on contractions.

If it comes down to the wire, she can also try to self induce with castor oil or blue and black cohosh. I know people who have been very successful with both methods.

That said, if her new edd is correct, then she really isn't late anyway. The AVERAGE length of pregnancy for a first time mom is NOT 40 weeks...it is 40 weeks and 1 day, making her, according to her new edd, not even 'late' yet. The conventional pregnancy length most care providers use of 40 weeks isn't even the average length of pregnancies when left alone.

DH's cousin had one of her children at home at 43 weeks. He was big, but both were just fine.

If she ends up going to the OB...he can't really force her into a c-section. She has every right to refuse any treatment offered. She can still have her baby vaginally.
post #3 of 9
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She has been using epo for a while now. She is in a lot of pain, so sex is out BTW-this is her second pregnancy, her first came at 39 weeks. Her dh is on the way to Target to get some castor oil as I type. She is not sure if she is going to try it though.
post #4 of 9
My MIL was induced with the first, had him at 39 weeks. The second she waited, and came at 43 weeks. The third she had at 44 weeks. Babies were perfectly healthy, so it's not always a dangerous situation to go post dates.

That being said... if nothing is starting labor, then things might not be ready. Early ultrasounds ARE accurate for gestational age, so it's possible that her due date really is Dec 8th. Even with LMP, and knowing the date of conception, the semen can live in there for several days before conception happens. This can throw the dates off by a few days.

I did use castor oil in my second pregnancy, only after getting 'stuck' at 8 cm for a day. I think it works well for that, to jump start a stalled labor, but I'd be hesitant to induce that way.
post #5 of 9
I had my third baby at 42 weeks 1 day and he was a healthy, big beautiful boy born in water in my parents' kitchen. He showed no signs of problems from being postdates.
post #6 of 9
I went 21 days post date and I really believe the baby needed it. She needs to trust her instincts and not let herself be swayed by those around her.

She's gonna be ok.
post #7 of 9
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Originally Posted by True Blue View Post
That said, if her new edd is correct, then she really isn't late anyway. The AVERAGE length of pregnancy for a first time mom is NOT 40 weeks...it is 40 weeks and 1 day,
I think there's a typo here... I've learned that it's 41w1d... I'm pretty sure that's what you meant, thought
post #8 of 9
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Update

DD went to MW yesterday and had all the expected tests...everything was normal and baby is doing great. NST showed he is reacting well, ultrasound showed plenty of fluids and normal breathing, placenta looks good. They did mention that it looked like a post dates placenta, but that it was still working well.

DD is anywhere form 10 - 15 days past her edd (since they have been playing with it a little) She tried the castor oil on Sunday, nothin!

OMG-We got an absolutely amazing 3-d ultrasound of the little one...face on...check it out...

http://wxnet.net/bragbook/lucas/lucasjames.png

He seems to be sunnyside up so she is working on positioning, any tips would be appreciated.

She is trying to be positive but it is hard and she feels like the proverbial watched pot. Seeing him sucking on his fingers during the ultrasound was very reassuring for her.

So we are still waiting...
post #9 of 9
Great news!

Tell her to never, ever EVER lay on her back or recline. She should always be leaning forward and sleeping on her side (left is best).
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