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post #41 of 102
it does seem normal for you to go past 40 weeks, but I can understand why you are anxious. I think every woman is hoping baby will come soon at the end, and societal pressures can really be hard. I hope baby decides to come soon!

I don't have much wisdom to offer on "post dates" stuff but I know you will get plenty of info on here, and you will do the right thing for you and baby.

-Denise (another 44 weeker!!!)
post #42 of 102
i think it is possible to truly know that nothing is wrong without getting outside, professional help.

when i was a small child, an eye surgeon took advantage of my parents. i knew i had eye problems (i'd had surgeries in the past), but when i met the man and he started talking this and that, i told my parents that we should get a second opinion. I said this up until they were wheeling me into surgery, saying that there was nothing wrong, or anyway, nothing that this guy would fix.

no one listens to a six year old.

anyway, find out at the next appointment (different doc) that the doctor did nothing for me, that it was a needless surgery, and my parents had to pay a ton out of pocket because it was "experimental" (even though it wasn't, they just argued with the insurance). this bought the doctor a new boat, and forced my parents to file for bankruptcy.

When i started lactating at 19, my doctor assumed i was smoking too much marijuanna or that i had a pituitary tumor. i didn't think it was any of these things, and thought it was my thyroid.

the doctor ran expensive tests (luckily covered by insurance), prescribed me medication that would basicly render me infertile if i took it over the long term, and that only treated symptoms, not causes.

instead of going on doctor's advice, i decided to follow the thyroid idea. i started doing varous yoga postures, changed my diet and environment dramatically, made small lifestyle changes, and within 6 months had no symptoms and everything normal.

So, i strongly feel that i can actually know more than any outsider, and i trust my own process better than anyone elses.

I'm not unwilling to go to doctors or other professionals--i'm perfectly happy to do this if/when i feel that i want more information or that they can help or that it's necessary.

For the OP, if she's happy, then i'm happy. if she wants to seek a professional, then she knows where to find them.
post #43 of 102
Wow Zoebird. I am recently finding, in regards to my son's asthma, that not one doctor has any clue what they are really talking about, and they all disagree with each other. More than anyone, I think I've got him pegged and I've decided how to treat him (and not with daily steroids).
post #44 of 102
i'm glad you've found a way that works, Chantal.
post #45 of 102
I just wanted to chime in and say that I was born at 46 weeks gestation, and turned out perfectly fine.
post #46 of 102
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Originally Posted by Chantelhayes View Post
Good point Jenny, and one I had forgotten. My brother and I were both 44 week babies (I think I was 43ish but my brother was for sure 44). This was back in the day when they didn't intervene nearly as quickly. I was born at 7 pounds 4 ounces and my brother at 8.4 and both perfectly healthy. Can you imagine what I might have weighed if they had induced my mother at "term" and 40 weeks????
*yeah that* to this! I was born at 43 weeks and was 7lbs 15oz... if I'd been born at 40 who knows what size I would've been but considering that 7/15 is just above average it's quite possible that at 40 weeks I would've been small... and at 37? The "beginning" of "term"... I would've been 6 weeks early!

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Originally Posted by erin_brycesmom View Post
Aren't women responsible for their choices regardless of whether or not a pregnancy goes to term, post term, pre term, etc? We are always responsible for the choices we make. We don't become more responsible once a certain week has passed.
And again! *yeah that* Choosing to have an unneccessary induction or c-section (and at this point it would be unneccessary as the baby seems to be doing great and Mama is not getting intution signals that things are off seems FAR more irresponsible to me than trusting her body and baby when she feels (and baby shows) things are going well IMO.

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Originally Posted by AlmostCrunchyMama View Post
I am aware each pregnancy is different, goodness nows all 3 of mine were.
That being said, again, speaking for myself, knowing the risks of the placenta becoming less and less viable ( did I spell that correctly? ) would worry me.
I would not be comfortable going past 41 or 42 weeks. I know exactly when my children were conceived. I have always been very sure of my dates.
I would be worried if I were in the OP shoes.
Support of a choice is not all or nothing. It is about knowing what the risks are, understanding and being willing to deal with the outcomes.
Offering the suggestion of going to a trained health care professional is just as supportive as offering " good vibes'.
I, just happen to think my advice is better.Again, IMO.
You can be very sure of your dates but what does that have to do with when the baby is born? I am 110% positive of my dates. I was "due" August 7th... on August 28th I was induced for medical reasons, and my son was born 47 hours later at 43+2... and he wasn't ready to be born yet. *shrugs* Had there not been the medical reasons (which could've been avoided but I didn't know that at the time) the responsible thing for me to do would've been to let him come when he was ready, could've made life easier/healthier for him in the beginning.

To the OP *hugs* Mama. Sounds like this is normal for you and you will have your baby soon
post #47 of 102
Thread Starter 
I went to the ER and had an U/S and NST everything looks great. They estimate the baby to be around 9.5-10 lbs. They did *strongly* suggest I consider an induction but there is no actual problem as of yet. They think I was off on my dates, and that I am not as overdue as I am. I am going to keep waiting for her to decide when to be born. Thanks for all the support and opnions.
post #48 of 102
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Originally Posted by sarabug View Post
I went to the ER and had an U/S and NST everything looks great. They estimate the baby to be around 9.5-10 lbs. They did *strongly* suggest I consider an induction but there is no actual problem as of yet. They think I was off on my dates, and that I am not as overdue as I am. I am going to keep waiting for her to decide when to be born. Thanks for all the support and opnions.
Ok, mama! Wishing you a safe, smooth, and amazing birth. Keep us posted!
post #49 of 102
Sarabug wishing you a peaceful beautiful birth & happy healthy babe!

I think you're tuning in so beautifully!

My aunt really takes longer to cook her babies. Back in the 70's they weren't so induction happy thankfully. So, she got to birth when her baby and her body was ready. That was at 43 weeks, 44.5 weeks and an "early" one at 42.5 weeks.
post #50 of 102
Sarabug Glad you got some reassurance. Happy gestating!
post #51 of 102
DOCTOR Bradley (DOCTOR) had a client go to 52 weeks, a six and a half pounder. This was a doctor. It is recorded in the book I have that he wrote. Unfortunately it is a translation into french so I can't do the exact quote you wouldn't understand it! Perfectly healthy baby.

Leslie
post #52 of 102
Can I ask how you were able to get a US?
IF I walked into the ER around here, they would ship my botton right up to OB, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
Im wondering what you told them to go along with you.
Thanks!
PS
How are you feeling?
post #53 of 102
Sarabug, I am going to call you later today. You're doing great. This actually makes a lot of sense with what you were told earlier in the pregnancy and I agree with you.

Almostcrunchy - We ultimately have total control with what happens and our healthcare decisions. She got her ultrasound and the reassurance she felt she needed, refused induction, and left. They can't make her do anything without her consent.
post #54 of 102
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Originally Posted by AlmostCrunchyMama View Post
I am aware each pregnancy is different, goodness nows all 3 of mine were.
That being said, again, speaking for myself, knowing the risks of the placenta becoming less and less viable ( did I spell that correctly? ) would worry me.
I would not be comfortable going past 41 or 42 weeks. I know exactly when my children were conceived. I have always been very sure of my dates.
I would be worried if I were in the OP shoes.
...
Offering the suggestion of going to a trained health care professional is just as supportive as offering " good vibes'.
I, just happen to think my advice is better.Again, IMO.
Some babies cook fast, some babies cook slow, and some simmer on low heat forever (well almost of course)

Maybe say, 37 weeks has been the normal average for you, but the OP seems clearly within her range of normal and has even had an NST and US on top of that.

The way you quotated "good vibes" honestly feels like a sarcastic eye roll to me personally, and it comes off as you don't want to learn about or have interest in UC (which is fine) but this is a support board after all. I don't pray, I like to conserve my candles, I don't perform Reiki, I don't turn around 3 times and spit on the ground. I don't have many other ways to put down that I'm thinking of someone on the internet, so vibes suffice for me. I also feel that I know a great deal about birth than just voodoo vibes and I learn something new often (which is exciting)...in the end, here, in a support forum, when one is waiting for the labor to start and then to finish, well that's it it's all up to mom, not us, though information may reciprocate sometimes as needed. She's (general she) already often has been through the emotional and mental work of preparing for a UC.

So yes it often seems like we're ignorant folk just sending away vibes, I guess. It seems you are sticking around, I welcome you to continue to do so.

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Support of a choice is not all or nothing. It is about knowing what the risks are, understanding and being willing to deal with the outcomes.
Hey I agree...but we're just disagreeing on what is a risk here. Only the OP can truly decide what would be risky for her. It appears she is doing/feeling just fine and so is her babe.

Honestly I feel that in general the fear of the placenta up and going kaput on a timer is a fear that is ingrained into OBs when they get trained and in turn, gets ingrained into the women they care for and then onward into society...very pervasive, getting worse and worse as Dr's attempt to shield themselves from med malpractice. Bad situation all around.

Replace placental failure with "CPD" or "low fluid" or any other many-times-BS dx and it's the same thing.

Anyone have text handy from the old "Ten Month Mama" pages from birthlove.com? There were a couple of 46 weekers on there, who did just beautifully. Not as common as 43/44 weeks but I think it speaks for a lot of what normal really is when don't tinker with nature.

: New cute smiley - couldn't resist.
post #55 of 102
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Originally Posted by JesseMomme View Post
Anyone have text handy from the old "Ten Month Mama" pages from birthlove.com? There were a couple of 46 weekers on there, who did just beautifully. Not as common as 43/44 weeks but I think it speaks for a lot of what normal really is when don't tinker with nature.
YES...in my email favorites, saved for occasions just like this.

Quote:
Waiting
Dear Baby, here beneath my heart,
I thought that you might come today;
The timing seemed just right.
But the stars are out
And the moon is high
And sheepishly I wonder why
I try to arrange the plans
Of God.
For now I know
You will not come
Until the One who holds eternity
Rustles your soft cocoon
And whispers in tones that I will not hear,
"It's time, precious gift."
"Now it's time."
-by Robin Jones Gunn
post #56 of 102
OP, I hope everything works out ok, and I notice you haven't posted in a day or two... perhaps you are holding that baby right now?! I hope so!
post #57 of 102
yes, yes, how is everything going?? I keep checking back for updates!
post #58 of 102
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Originally Posted by sarabug View Post
I went to the ER and had an U/S and NST everything looks great. They estimate the baby to be around 9.5-10 lbs. They did *strongly* suggest I consider an induction but there is no actual problem as of yet. They think I was off on my dates, and that I am not as overdue as I am. I am going to keep waiting for her to decide when to be born. Thanks for all the support and opnions.
Maybe this will make you feel a tad better.....my Dr told me that dd would weigh 9-11 pounds. I almost returned the diapers that were newborn as I thought dd would be too big for them. Her birthweight??? 7.5 pounds!! Keep baking that lil bun till yall are both ready!! Matter of fact, in the operating room, when they called out the weight, I managed to pick up my head and said, "THAT"S IT?? Yall had me worried for nothing!!"
post #59 of 102
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by AlmostCrunchyMama View Post
Can I ask how you were able to get a US?
IF I walked into the ER around here, they would ship my botton right up to OB, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
Im wondering what you told them to go along with you.
Thanks!
PS
How are you feeling?
Well here we have an OB clinic in the ER since I was NOT in labor they did not send me to the Birth Center. I told them my EDD and that was that. I went to Radiology for the U/S and the NST in ER.

In general I am fine good spirits even. The baby is VERY active and hasa regular pattern of sleep and wake. I am carrying extremely low and I am sure she will be here soon. Maybe she is going to be my Christmas Present.
post #60 of 102
that would be sweet sarabug!
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