I know I'm all about the books lately, but it kind of comes with the territory!
Carita - I don't know if organization is an issue for you, but it's a big one for me, and one of the shared struggles of most people with ADD/ADHD.
This book is supposed to be excellent: Organizing Solutions for People with Attention Deficit Disorder
I haven't read it, but here's a review from someone I know and trust: http://www.mmartone.com/?p=51
I'm worried when you say your ADD picked up after you got pregnant - I have ADDish tendencies, but I'm a coper, not a doper, so I have been consciously coping and not medicating for a decade, and I've been coping since before that. Who knows what will happen when I get pregnant! (I am in the 2ww right now.)
I think my comment about the class issues behind mamas who say that academia and children don't mix well comes from my own class position, vis-a-vis that of most of my colleagues.
Though, in fact, most of the people I know well in my PhD program come from working class or lower middle class families, and almost all are the first people in their families to attend graduate school, this is not the norm across academia.
Where I did my MA, most of the people were from upper middle class families.
However, most of my professors and most of the people I know who are above the rank of grad student (postdocs, lecturers, junior faculty, on up) have never really worked outside of the academy for any length of time.
I worked a really odd night schedule in a factory for two years after high school, including working a double shift (15 hours) with only nine hours off between shifts at either end. I worked full time days in a corporate setting (overlapping with that job - on Thursdays and Fridays, I worked about forty hours. Every week.)
I worked for the university where I did my undergrad for four years - full time days, mostly.
Altogether, it means that I have spent about seven years in the working world, working full time, supporting myself, and partially supporting my partner, paying the bills, getting myself through university (though to be honest, my focus was always paying the bills.)
It was really hard for me to leave work, even though with a generous scholarship and a TA lined up, my MA program paid me just about the same as when I was working.
I was also self-supporting through most of high school, from the age of 16 until when I finished at 19.
This is not typical of my colleagues.
Nor is it typical for most the mamas who complain about the lack of work/life/family balance within academia.
I don't believe the corporate world is any more family friendly, I don't believe the academic service sector is either.
In fact, I chose an academic career because I saw, after working for seven years, how much more supportive working in the academy could be. Although, truth be told, I am not aiming for a research job at an R-1 university, I'm hoping to finish my PhD in five years, and head off to a small teaching college.