Originally Posted by nanaT
I understand and have your same concerns. I didn't have quite as big of a baby, he was only 9.1 but I tore really bad 3rd degree..and it took FOREVER to heal. I am a small person...when I am not pregnant. I was even told by my first OB that I couldn't deliever much over 6lb b/c my pelvis was too small. ( Thank goodness I changed Doc's) I had an ultrasound a few weeks ago b/c my measurements were so off. Its looking like another big one...so as we get closer I worry as well. I am just going to try not to push like I did w/ DS. I am going to listen to my body a little better rather than pushing so hard. I have a friend who just recently had a homebirth I was able to attend and she took her midwives advice and only gave little pushes until babys head was crowning. It only took her 3 good pushes. She did tear a little but healed very quickly. Not sure if that helps at all ....but it is what I am going to try to do differently this time.
: i could have written that whole post above - same size baby, i'm also small, was directed to push last time and pushed too much (don't plan on doing it that way this time), also with a 3rd degree tear. and i'm pretty certain this baby is going to be 9 lbs or over, which does worry me sometimes, but not others.
i understand the fears about birthing a big baby. i'm hoping that since my body has done it once, this time things will go more smoothly. and now that i know the difference between feeling like pushing and being told to push... that's going to make a difference too, i hope! i've also read/been told that certain positions can help us not tear. on all fours, side-lying, and squats that aren't too deep are all supposed to be associated with fewer tears than on the back and deep squatting.
good luck to all of us birthing our big babies! once they're out it's nicer that they're big isn't it? i think we end up with less worry about their growth, and they tend to sleep more than smaller babies.