|i havent read all of the pages but i just saw one where there was a woman reading a magazine after the epidural and i just want to say how that is NOT the norm.|
Well actually it IS the norm- statistically epidurals work properly a great majority of the time. It's not a guarantee(and maybe that's what you meant), but that is what usually happens.
In my case, working properly meant I didn't feel the epis going in (at all. No pain, not even from the needle), could still feel contractions and an urge to push, so had both pushing stages self directed- one on hands and knees, one on my my side. I felt the baby in the canal both times. I think those last two- ability to position myself however I wanted, and feel the baby in the canal- are unusual, and probably because I live in a crunchy city with a crunchy hospital whose amazine anesthesiology department values those kinds of things. I definitely wouldn't expect most epidural experiences to be like that. But usually they do work properly, and you sit there reading magazines. The thing with that is that you may be totally numb, unable to move at all, which can be very disconcerting for many people, and then certainly sometimes they don't work. That's definitely a risk I knew I was taking when I went in for the epi, and I think one most women are aware of- the world loves to tell a pregnant woman horror stories right?
I also did not wait until I was at the end of my coping skills to get the epi with my second child. I guess you could say I got it "just in case," but it already hurt pretty bad, and I knew whenever I wanted to get it I'd need to be able to lie still for about 4 minutes. I didn't think I'd be capable of doing that when labor got more intense.
Funnily enough you guys are getting me excited for the possibility of NCB for this one. I actually did have that high after both my births- more intense with my first; it lasted 4 days, maybe because my epi was a very low dose. But I think there are just a couple of misstated facts up there that aren't going to help your credibility if you are trying to convince a woman who wants an epi to try naturally.