I have been reading this forum for a few weeks now, and I wanted to give my perspective of this issue.
Before I start, I wanted to give an idea where I am coming from.
I am an 18 year old male. Was circumcised for medical reasons, and sadly have a few bad scars from it. I am strongly against infant circumcision. I personally believe it should be illegal. I am from a teen puberty site, where there is much discussion on this issue. People who support circ and people who don’t. Boys that are cut, and boys that are not. (cut is the slang term my board uses when talking about circumcision) Boys who wanted to get circumcised, and have (and who are happy with the results), we even have 5 guys who are actively restoring! Mostly the board is anti-circ. Yet on our board people look at human rights, and functional issues (i.e. easier to masturbate) as the main reasons they are against circumcision. And like here, we have members from the US and the UK.
After reading many posts here I was surprised by the actions of some of the board members. There were a few mothers who were afraid that people would see their circumcised boy naked, and went out of their way to try and prevent that. Even worse then that, there are women in here that actually are trying to convince their husbands to restore!
From a circumcised guys perspective, one who does not know the difference of having a foreskin, one of the worst things about circumcision is that society thinks an uncircumcised man is broken and dirty. It makes me sick to realize that there are girls my age who think that a penis has to be circumcised. Or that society in general has such little respect for the natural male body. Through our lives men are either told it was good they were mutilated or that since they weren’t, there is something wrong with them.
The only thing worse then being cut up as a baby because you live in a society that says your natural body is wrong, is for having a new group of people tell you, “no, now you should be ashamed of this cut penis of yours.”
This whole mess started because parents and wives wanted their boys body to be a certain way. Being ashamed of your sons/husbands circumcised penis is just continuing the same kind of thing. (because the logic behind the circumcision culture is just as bad as the circumcisions themselves)
Celebrate, and be proud of the bodies of the males in your life, no matter if its been altered or not.
You know the REAL reason why circumcisions continue in the US? Its because men don’t feel confident about their bodies. If you raise a son (or treat a husband) to be proud of the body they have, then they will spread that same logic to the other men in their family. (Personally I believe, that the “vulnerability of men” article is a waay to simplified look on men who have grown up in a circumcision culture, and in the end could cause more misunderstanding between husband and wife) This not just about our physical conditions, but how we view ourselves and how we apply that to the people around us.
I don’t mean to offend anyone here, simply to let you know that this issue is a lot more complex then it may seem, and its important to take a double take on how our passions could sometimes cause negative effects.
Either way, thanks for listening Moms!!
Before I start, I wanted to give an idea where I am coming from.
I am an 18 year old male. Was circumcised for medical reasons, and sadly have a few bad scars from it. I am strongly against infant circumcision. I personally believe it should be illegal. I am from a teen puberty site, where there is much discussion on this issue. People who support circ and people who don’t. Boys that are cut, and boys that are not. (cut is the slang term my board uses when talking about circumcision) Boys who wanted to get circumcised, and have (and who are happy with the results), we even have 5 guys who are actively restoring! Mostly the board is anti-circ. Yet on our board people look at human rights, and functional issues (i.e. easier to masturbate) as the main reasons they are against circumcision. And like here, we have members from the US and the UK.
After reading many posts here I was surprised by the actions of some of the board members. There were a few mothers who were afraid that people would see their circumcised boy naked, and went out of their way to try and prevent that. Even worse then that, there are women in here that actually are trying to convince their husbands to restore!
From a circumcised guys perspective, one who does not know the difference of having a foreskin, one of the worst things about circumcision is that society thinks an uncircumcised man is broken and dirty. It makes me sick to realize that there are girls my age who think that a penis has to be circumcised. Or that society in general has such little respect for the natural male body. Through our lives men are either told it was good they were mutilated or that since they weren’t, there is something wrong with them.
The only thing worse then being cut up as a baby because you live in a society that says your natural body is wrong, is for having a new group of people tell you, “no, now you should be ashamed of this cut penis of yours.”
This whole mess started because parents and wives wanted their boys body to be a certain way. Being ashamed of your sons/husbands circumcised penis is just continuing the same kind of thing. (because the logic behind the circumcision culture is just as bad as the circumcisions themselves)
Celebrate, and be proud of the bodies of the males in your life, no matter if its been altered or not.
You know the REAL reason why circumcisions continue in the US? Its because men don’t feel confident about their bodies. If you raise a son (or treat a husband) to be proud of the body they have, then they will spread that same logic to the other men in their family. (Personally I believe, that the “vulnerability of men” article is a waay to simplified look on men who have grown up in a circumcision culture, and in the end could cause more misunderstanding between husband and wife) This not just about our physical conditions, but how we view ourselves and how we apply that to the people around us.
I don’t mean to offend anyone here, simply to let you know that this issue is a lot more complex then it may seem, and its important to take a double take on how our passions could sometimes cause negative effects.
Either way, thanks for listening Moms!!
I'm a guy and I'd like to have a place to discuss this issue with other men as well.
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well, there is my button Hubby and I are only 26, we want our golden years to be full of wonderful sex, too. And yes, I talk more about my side of it, because I am comfortable sharing gory details of myself online. Not so much about about DH because he is a more private person (pain issues for him as well, though).
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